Think back to when you were 18 years old. What was your favorite band? Your favorite food? What clothes did you love to wear? And how many of those things are the same as they are now? If you are anything like me, very few! So why do we expect 18 year old adult babies (because face it, that's what we were at that age) to be self-aware enough to pick a path that will suit them for the rest of their lives?

Dreams change. Your dreams can change often, or you might fuel the same passion for as long as you live. But just because you sense your passions, interests, and skill-sets shifting, it doesn't mean that you are giving up. In today's episode, Melissa Monte (host of the Mind Love podcast), shares stories of the tumultuous events that led her to change dreams several times in her life so far, and how she's used mindfulness to get clear on her true passion - unattached to timeline or outcome. We talk addiction, life, death, habit-loops, lucid dreaming and baby animal trainers...so buckle up and be prepared to redefine your definition of success!

IN THIS EPISODE, MELISSA AND I REVIEW…

♦ Melissa talks all about her first goal of being a Baby Animal Trainer....to being a party animal...(bad pun, I know, I couldn't help myself...)

♦ How Melissa confronted her addiction to Adderall, and identified the habit-loops that were keeping her confined in her life

♦ The steps that Melissa took to internalize the self-help content she loved and put it into action to shift her life

♦ How Melissa infused this same principle to her relationships - even if that meant that same former friendships might fade...

♦ Melissa realizes the reason why she decided to stop pursuing her dreams of writing in college, with the writing assignment that was near and dear to her heart...

♦ The social reinforcement that Melissa (and Brittany) experienced for their talents growing up, which caused them to never question their true goals and dreams

♦ How Melissa did discover her true passion and talents after school, and how her community helped her hone in on her best contributions...

♦ How Melissa defines success...even as her definition has shifted over time...

♦ The limiting belief that Melissa had about her father, and how she overcame it in order to have successful romantic relationships in the future

♦ How to know if you should stick with a goal (even when the going gets tough) or if you should focus on a different passion that might be a better fit for you right now...

♦ How you can use mindfulness for goal setting

♦ How to structure your schedule to maximize the impact you make on your goals

♦ How to be mindful and results driven...at the same time...

♦ Melissa's thoughts on the "badge of honor" mentality that some people experience when working late hours...and how this perception hurts our ability to be effective and manage our will-power

♦ How to overcome addictive habit-loops and train ourselves to choose different behaviors

♦ Brittany and Melissa geek out about lucid dreaming...and share some of their best lucid dream stories...

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♦ Workflowy, the organization/to-do website and is blowing my mind right now

♦ The book that Melissa and her husband bonded over when they first met - The Power by Rhonda Byrne, which is the sequel to The Secret

♦ The book that helped Melissa determine if podcasting (or any business venture) was right for her - Pat Flynn's Will it Fly?

♦ Here's a throwback for you....remember the Babysitter's Club books? Walk down memory lane with me...

♦ To learn more about lucid dreaming, check out this interesting article

♦ Melissa's podcast - Mind Love

MEET MELISSA MONTE OF MIND LOVE…

On Melissa's podcast "Mind Love," she discusses mindset shifts, energy frequencies and modern mindfulness through raw stories, personal experience and inspiring interviews.

Melissa's ability to connect with her audience is largely due to what some call an extreme amount of life experience. She was a victim of sexual assault, twice. She suffered the loss of a close friend by suicide. She lost a parent from lymphoma.

For ten years, she was consumed by a dangerous eating disorder, that led to chronic intestinal damage, both of which she overcame against the odds. And she was emotionally trapped in a manipulative relationship with a sociopath that ultimately landed her in jail for someone else's crime.

Melissa is a certified yoga teacher and reiki healer. She's also certified in Accelerated Free Fall Skydiving and she's a student of Transcendental Meditation, as taught by the David Lynch Foundation.

Melissa Monte started her career in digital media and was the Vice President of a startup when she fully realized her passion of helping people become their best selves. Her countless hours of research and self-experimentation contribute to her vast knowledge of improving the human condition.

She lives in Santa Monica with her husband; they have a dog named Maverick Danger that fills their hearts. She spends her free time doing yoga, slacklining, and drinking matcha lattes by the beach.

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Sometimes, it seems, that advancement in society is measured by increasing levels of convenience. How quickly can you receive that Amazon package? Oh, you can deliver my groceries too? Need anything else in a snap - there's an app for that. We've innovated and advanced so much, that convenience has become a given. We are living in an age of convenience...so why do elements of life still feel so tough?

I think, and Emma Kingsley of Lady Farmer would seem to agree - that's where slow living comes in. Slow living is all about embracing the ritualistic moments that are required to do an action and enjoy it fully. Like brewing your own coffee. Or making bread from scratch. Relearning how to sustain yourself with your own two hands, because sometimes convenience isn't always the solution. And for Emma and her mother, it's about creating clothing that is sustainable, responsible, and fits the lifestyle of women who seek to live a slower, more fulfilling lifestyle.

Lady Farmer is a new sustainable, slow living clothing and lifestyle brand, and today I had the chance to speak with Emma Kingsley about her journey, how slow living and goal setting can in fact go hand in hand, and how slow living can actually spur inspiration and flow state activity. It's amazing what can happen when you stop the go, go, go and your mind gets a chance to refresh, refocus and refuel.

IN THIS EPISODE, EMMA AND I EXAMINE…

♦ The goals Emma had growing up that led her to the goals that she pursues today

♦ The reason why Emma is self-aware and why all entrepreneurs should do the work on themselves first before entering into their own business...

♦ The process that Emma used to make peace with some of her biggest mental obstacles and worries, and learn to "shine her light" brighter, like she was always meant to do...

♦ How Emma "found her voice again" by reengaging in a old hobby that brought her joy and proved to herself that she was "enough"...

♦ How Emma began her career in art direction (wondering what exactly IS art direction? Emma breaks it down for us newbies...)

♦ The film that caught Emma's attention about sustainability in the fashion industry...and spurred the thought, "What can I do about this?"

♦ The series of events that led Emma and her mom to realize there was a need in the market place - there was little sustainable clothing, that fits their sense of fashion and is produced in a responsible way

♦ How Emma and her mother came up with the name of their company, Lady Farmer

♦ The root meaning of slow living and what it means to give up convenience for the sake of being present

♦ How slow living can help you achieve a flow state and spur inspiration

♦ Brittany shares her A Week / B Week system for integrating slow living into a hectic and busy schedule (and still getting your to-do list done along the way)

♦ And how you can take that one step further and sync your time management schedule with your monthly cycle...

♦ Why Emma decided to opt out of Black Friday and Christmas manufacturing this year, in favor of slow living

♦ Emma shares her goals for the future...on and off the farm

♦ If you live the tenants of slow living...will it take forever for you to reach your goals? Emma weighs in...

♦ Emma's best Kickstarter advice, and how waiting and building anticipation helped her double her Kickstarter goal

♦ The practice that Emma uses when she needs a reminder of all that she is doing...

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♦ Emma's sustainable apparel company - Lady Farmer

♦ The movie that sparked Emma's passion for sustainable fashion: The True Cost

♦ Lady Farmer's original Kickstarter campaign

♦ Lady Farmer on Instagram

♦ Lady Farmer on Facebook

MEET EMMA KINGSLEY OF LADY FARMER…

Emma graduated from Sewanee: The University of the South with a degree in American Studies and a minor in French. Upon graduating, she worked in outdoor adventure education until moving abroad to teach English in France, then back home to study design & aesthetics with Joy Thigpen. She's always loved clothes and developing her own style, but it wasn't until learning of the environmental and humanitarian crisis that is the world's fashion industry today that she realized she could combine this love with an honest purpose and mission. Lady Farmer was born in this intersection, and has evolved into so much more. Day-to-day, she works on designs, makes connections, and develops content while leaving time to get her hands dirty. Art and poetry keep her inspired, along with all of her Lady Farmer friends from whom she learns things on a daily basis.

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What are you willing to do for your dreams? Are you willing to put everything on the line? Are you willing to be vocal about your desires, to risk facing embarrassment or failure, to tune out the naysayers and follow your path anyways? Alli Owen has been facing her own trials and tribulations recently, but that hasn't stopped her and her husband from saving up, quitting their comfy jobs as engineers, and exploring a life of entrepreneurial freedom out on the open road, traveling the country in a van that has become their new home.

In today's episode, Alli Owen shares her journey on how she overcame the need for approval and finally decided to listen to her heart. She shares the real-life details on what it means to pursue the nomad life - how her and her husband assessed the financial risk, what they are doing to prepare now that their trip is only a few weeks away, and the stress that it is putting on their relationship as they head out into the unknown. In honor of Alli's last week as an engineer, enjoy this episode and hear firsthand how one brave couple is ready to put everything on the line to pursue the freedom of traveling that they've craved for so long.

IN THIS EPISODE, ALLI AND I REVEAL…

♦ How her past goals were all about pleasing other people...but they never pleased herself. Now she's on a journey to unravel those feelings and find out what she truly wants...

♦ How her relationship with her father informed these "people pleasing" habits overtime

♦ When Alli recognized that she could never feel satisfied with the "now", she reached the breaking point in her career as an engineer...

♦ How a major health scare "woke Alli up" to the fact that she wasn't living her dream or aligned with her true passions...

♦ The surprising thing that happened when Alli allowed herself to start writing...

♦ How Alli finds herself struggling at times giving up the identity of "being an engineer" and the validation that the title affords her in our society

♦ How Alli's family has handled the news that she is leaving her job to be a traveling coach and podcaster...

♦ How Alli and her husband realized that six figure careers and an inflated lifestyle were not important to them...and how they craved freedom while traveling instead

♦ The savings plan that Alli and her husband put into place traveling the country in "Clifford the Van"

♦ Their original plans for early retirement, and how those plans morphed into ditching their 9-to-5 jobs, starting a baked goods company, and traveling the U.S.

♦ How Alli and her husband evaluated their risk before quitting their jobs - their thought process and how they positioned themselves so that even if they don't make any money in the next 3 years, they will still have enough money to live comfortably

♦ How Alli and her husband define their values as a couple, and how it blossomed into this next journey of traveling entrepreneurship that they will take together

♦ The nitty-gritty logistics on how they plan to run a baked goods company...while traveling in a van!

♦ How Alli and her husband are renovating their new home on wheels...(toilet may or may not be included...)

♦ The tipping point when Alli and her husband realized that this wasn't just a dream - they needed to do it for their mental health

♦ How Alli and her husband support their relationship during this stressful time of change...

♦ The mental preparations that Alli had to make in order to shed the identity she had built around being an engineer, as she ushers in this new time period in her life...

♦ Alli shares the most difficult thing about starting a traveling nomad entrepreneurship journey with your husband...

♦ Alli's suggestion on how to build confidence in yourself, so that you can take the leap into digital nomad life, just like she has...

♦ Alli shares some of the goals she accomplished that built up her confidence to take the leap and quit her job...

♦ The process that Alli and her husband use to work towards big financial goals together (like living on $40,000/year)

♦ How Alli incorporates "play" into the stressful times, so that her goals feel fun and freeing...

♦ The big lesson that Alli learned from her dog and how she applies it to her goals...

♦ How Alli finds balance between "doing" vs "being"

♦ Alli shares her thoughts on growing older, her 50 year goals, and finding the right balance with slowing down...

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♦ My podcast interview on Alli's show, the Aligned & Alive podcast

♦ Maddy Moon, Alli's coach who helped her through this period of transition...and her podcast, Mind Body Musings, that Alli listened to in order to prepare for this next phase

♦ Another favorite podcast of Alli's - Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu

♦ Alli and her husband's blog - Owen Your Future

♦ The blog entry where Alli's husband evaluated the financial risk they would take to quit their jobs and start their entrepreneurial journeys

♦ Find Alli on Instagram in several places - Aligned & Alive, Clifford the Van, and Owen Your Future

♦ One of my favorite books about the law of attraction, goal setting, and motivation - Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

MEET ALLI OWEN…

Alli Owen is an intuitive alignment coach, writer, and podcast host. She is a recovering overachiever, having graduated at age 24 with a masters in engineering, hiked 2 of the tallest peaks in the world, and traveled to 6 continents. Since then, she has learned to let go of society's expectations, stop achieving for the sake of the "next thing," and step into alignment with her true self. She has since been on a mission to help others do the same through her podcast "Aligned and Alive" and her transformational one-on-one coaching programs.

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Oftentimes in life, it can feel like our dreams depend on other people. We spend so much time waiting for others to say yes - to buy our product, to cast us in a movie, to give us a chance. It's hard to not want to conform to what we think they want, to become people pleasers grasping at straws in order to snag a chance at our dreams. 

Today's guest shares his rock bottom moment, and how he realized that if he continued to play someone else's game, his dream of becoming a professional actor would never come true. Instead, this moment opened up a whole new world of opportunity for him. He realized that if he wanted his dream to come true, he had to do it himself. 

Corey Camperchioli is a writer, producer and actor and his film Femme will hit the festival circuit in just a few days! Femme is about a gay twenty-something named Carson who is looking for love on all the wrong apps. After being rejected by an online hookup for being too "femme", Carson embarks on a hilarious journey towards self-discovery and acceptance by way of a manic existential crisis and a drag queen fairy godmother. Set in Hell's Kitchen, the epicenter of New York City gay life, Carson must confront his own notions of masculinity and gender performance within the LGBTQ community and beyond.

And what is extra special about this film is that for Corey, it was an opportunity for self-discovery, self-love, and authentic expression. He managed to infuse his goals of becoming a successful actor, with his personal goals of self-acceptance. In this episode, Corey explains his goal setting process, how he trusts his path, and how he learned to "let go and let it flow!" 

IN THIS EPISODE, COREY AND I CHAT ABOUT…

♦ Corey's first memories of when he knew that he wanted to act (His first lines on stage? Hoot hoot!)

♦ The strange transition it was to be very Type-A and seek good grades to get into NYU...but then have to abandon that attitude in order to excel as an artist

♦ How Corey learned the vital lesson of putting in the work, and then letting it go...

♦ How to infuse a sense of ease into the way you go about your goals, by doing the work and then releasing the outcome

♦ Corey recounts the first time that he felt truly seen as an authentic, queer artist

♦ How Corey decided to tell his own story and make his own inroads in Hollywood...

♦ The final straw that forced Corey to reckon with all the elements of his life that were not working at that moment - was now the time to write Femme?

♦ The harsh fortune cookie message that woke up Corey to the fact that if he wanted his dreams to come true, he had to do it his own way

♦ When it's time to unsubscribe from the gurus...and figure out your own way to win

♦ Corey's own lessons he's learned about authenticity, masculinity, and how (at least it's easier!) to be your true self

♦ How Femme creates a dialogue about femininity within multiple communities and across a myriad of perspectives

♦ How Corey boils down the essence of goal setting - Getting aligned to your purpose, doing the work, and then releasing it and following it where it leads you

♦ How sometimes it might take awhile to get clear on the true way that your higher calling manifests

♦ The fear that Corey experienced with embracing the term "Femme"

♦ The illogical reason why we allow ourselves to be frozen by fear...maybe we don't want our lives to change as much as we think?

♦ Corey shares a parable on fear and how sometimes we feel like we are about to die (and for some animals...quite literally!) before we expand to our full potential

♦ Brittany tells a story about a recent opportunity where she gave her all...and the ramifications of knowing that you did your best, and running the potential that you still might not get it

♦ When you find yourself comparing your life and achievements with your friends...realize that you are next! It's possible!

♦ When there is always more work to be done for your goals...how do you know when to slowly back away from the computer and say that enough is enough?

♦ The difference between hustling, grinding and struggling...vs. allowing your goals to feel easy and working effectively towards them

♦ How Corey formulated his collaboration team for Femme

♦ Corey's advice on u n s t r i v i n g : "Let it go and let it flow"

♦ Realizing that our dreams might look different than we imagine - the "how" is not always up to us

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♦ The book that changed Corey's life...The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron

♦ Corey's film about embracing your authentic self...Femme

♦ Another Soultiply podcast episode that explores femininity - How to Embrace Your Feminine Power When Crushing Your Goals - 012

♦ Corey on Instagram: @CoreyCamp

♦ Follow @FemmetheFilm on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook

♦ In the Boston area? Come on out to the premiere of the film at Wicked Queer, the Boston LGBT film festival or check out the film in Miami in April, at the Out Shine Film Festival

MEET ACTOR AND FILMMAKER, COREY CAMPERCHIOLI…

Corey Camperchioli is an actor, producer and writer, known for Migraine (2012), HoneyBee (2016) and Pride: The Series (2014). FEMME, a short film that Corey wrote, produced, and stars in, launched it's Kickstarter in 2017 and raised over $25,000. It was covered by The Huffington Post, OUT Magazine, TEAM (Philippines), and more. Corey attended NYU's Tisch School of the Arts and currently resides in NYC.

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We Keep Promises To Other People...So Why Don't We Keep Our Promises to Ourselves?

It's hard to feel self-confident if you don't believe in yourself, right? It's hard to believe in yourself (or anyone) when they continually let you down, or don't follow through on their word. And for many of us, we've dreamed big dreams, or we tackled big goals, and we didn't follow through. We let ourselves down. And when it comes to the next big goal or dream, that past failure replays in our mind, over and over again...which makes it hard to believe that the new dream will come true.

It's a vicious cycle, and not a fun one. Our guest this week, author and life coach Lauren Handel Zander, recognized this pattern, sought a way to stop it in its tracks, and brought it to its knees!

Lauren - she's a tough cookie. One coaching session with her will bring you to your knees as well. But don't sometimes we need to face the truth, to draw the clear lines in the sand, in order to move forward?

This episode will show you how to rebuild your personal integrity and create promises for yourself that will create the action required to achieve your goals.

IN THIS EPISODE, LAUREN AND I TALK ABOUT…

♦ Lauren recounts the memories of her first goals in high school

♦ She shares her journey from passionate "save the chickens" environmentalist, to her discovery that she wants to be in the business helping people

♦ How the actual experience of a job can be so different than the idea of it, or what it feels like to study the topic...which is one of the reasons why early on it can be so difficult for us to know our true calling when it comes to our career...

♦ How Lauren built her company (A lesson in how sometimes you don't need to know what you like...you just need to create something that isn't anything similar to what you hate!)

♦ Lauren outlines the core components of the Handel Method of Life Coaching

♦ How to develop a vision for your life by examining the 12 different areas of core importance

♦ How we often only focus our dreams in 1 or 2 areas of our life, which often keeps us narrow-minded and dreaming small

♦ The importance of how you talk to yourself, and how to wrangle the negative self-talk so that you can achieve your dreams

♦ How Brittany mapped out her excuses across all areas of her life, to figure out which excuse was doing the most damage to her dreams

♦ The three buckets of "excuses" that Lauren classifies most negative self-talk: the voice of the "chicken", "the brat" and the "weather reporter"

♦ Using the idea of Epigenetics to inform the way we strengthen or diminish areas of our personality to best support our goals

♦ The idea of personal integrity - putting parameters on the person you say that you are, and making sure that you live up to your own promises

♦ Why it's so easy to make promises to other people, and why we struggle to keep them for ourselves

♦ How creating the right promises can help you follow through on your dreams and build your muscle for personal integrity

♦ How viewing our dreams through all 12 areas helps us keep perspective, so that we don't get caught up in any one "identity" when it comes to our goals

♦ The flip side of personal integrity: recognizing when you really hate the actions that you've promised yourself, and then doing something about it

♦ Hard work vs. knowing it's time to switch your dreams - what's the difference between feeling bratty about the action required vs. knowing in your heart that these actions are not the life that you want to live

♦ How your head, your heart, and your "who-ha" all play vital roles in letting you know if and when you should quit your dream

♦ Overcoming the moments where our ego keeps us attached to goals because we are afraid that it will appear that we failed in the eyes of others

♦ How implementing promises put your dreams into action

♦ Lauren shares a new promise that she implemented into her own schedule

♦ The keys to success for creating your own promises - they must be measurable and it must be clear what "success" looks like for that promise

♦ How we battle the light and dark, the moment to moment choices that add up to create the outcomes we seek for our dreams

♦ How do we make good with our promises if we break them? A little tool that Lauren likes to call "consequences"....

♦ Why consequences work and rewards don't...

♦ The reason why Lauren has fired clients in the past...

♦ How to get back on the wagon if you find yourself drifting or not sticking with your promises and consequences

♦ The exercise that Lauren uses when she only has 30 minutes to coach someone new, but wants to facilitate powerful change in their life

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♦ The Handel Group - Lauren's life and corporate coaching company

♦ Lauren's book (and one of my favorites!) "Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life."

♦ Emily Fletcher, a meditation teacher and hosts the Ziva Meditation retreat that Lauren mentioned during the episode

♦ InnerU, the digital life coaching program that puts the Maybe It's You book in action. A must for keeping yourself accountable to your dreams – use code SOULTIPLY at checkout for $75 off any subscription level

MEET LAUREN HANDEL ZANDER OF THE HANDEL GROUP…

LAUREN HANDEL ZANDER is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker, and the Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group®, an international corporate consulting and private coaching company based in New York City. Lauren is also the author of Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life (Published by Hachette Book Group, April 2017), a no-nonsense, practical manual that helps readers figure out not just what they want out of life, but how to actually get there. She has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private clients: entrepreneurs, couples, families, professors, politicians, Emmy, Peabody and Academy Award-winning artists, Grammy-winning musicians and Fortune 500 CEOs. Her corporate clients have included executives from Sony BMG, The New York Times, News Corp, J. Walter Thompson Agency, Citibank, Dropbox, LinkedIn, Uniworld, The Gap Inc., BASF, NYU Langone Medical Center, and Vogue. She has fixed corporate business relationships, mediated contract negotiations, reconciled marriages, and helped resolve complex family issues.

In the early 2000s, Lauren created a groundbreaking methodology, The Handel Method®, which is supported by top educators and psychologists, and has been taught in over 35 major universities and institutes of learning across the country including lauren-zander-candid-2 MIT, Stanford Graduate School of Business, Stanford Medical School, NYU, Columbia, Yale School of Drama, Wesleyan, Fordham, Rutgers, Middlebury College, Scripps Research Institute, and in the New York City Public School System. Elsewhere, internationally, The Handel Method was taught for the first time in October 2015 in the esteemed CEMS Program at Vienna University of Economics and Business, one of the largest business schools in the world.

With her unique, honest and irreverent approach, Lauren is a contributor for several publications and media outlets, including: The New York Times, BBC, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Self, Women's Health, Men's Health, Vogue, Ebony, Cosmopolitan, Experience Life, Marie Claire, Family Circle, Elle, Prevention Magazine, and The Huffington Post. She has appeared on television and in film, starring in A&E's Biography Channel TV Special, "Celebrity Life Coach," as well as the critically acclaimed feature documentary, "My Own Man," produced by Edward Norton. She has been an expert on The Dr. Oz Show, The Meredith Vieira Show, The Dr. Drew Show, MTV's True Life and Businessweek's "Coaches Corner." She has also worked with Dr. Phil McGraw on his TV special, "The Marriage Test," which starred two of her senior coaches, using The Handel Method to help fix troubled marriages.

In 2015, Lauren was the spokesperson for Marshall's national "Go Ahead Campaign," guiding women to lead a powerful and fulfilling life. She's led seminars and conferences all over the world for organizations, including: the World Bank, the US Department of Justice for Judges, Rodale Publishing, Mayya Movement International, Leading Age, Prevention R3 Conference, Donna Karan's Urban Zen, Soho House, Empowering Latin American Women's Conference and and the Journalist Salon series: A conversation about Feminism (with best-selling authors, Gail Sheehy, Esther Perel, and Miki Agrawal). Also, Lauren presented her coaching methodology at the world renowned TEDx Women's Conference in Amsterdam, and was a moderator running the roundtable for the White House Office of Center for Social Innovation Conference at Stanford University. Lauren is happily married, has three children and lives in Westchester, NY. She is an artist in her spare time, specializing in pointillism.

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I got married last year, and not going to lie - I thought planning a wedding was going to be a walk in the park!

I am organized, totally Type-A, and I somehow thought that wedding stress would elude me...

Needless to say, I was not the magical unicorn exception to the rule. Wedding planning was incredibly stressful, emotional, and a journey that (looking back at it), I wish I would have enjoyed more than I did.

I also didn't have Mary Baird-Wilcock as my wedding planner...and I wish I had!

Mary is our guest this week, and she's a very interesting goal-getter. She started her career in radio, soon moved to event planning, and she now owns The Simplifiers, an event planning and coaching company that helps people simplify their events and businesses. Plus, she just launched a new podcast by the same name (and she had me on as her 2nd guest!)

In this episode, Mary shares the lessons on simplification that she has learned from experience as an event planner, and how we can apply these same tenants to our goals and dreams.

IN THIS EPISODE, MARY AND I EXAMINE…

♦ How Mary overcame her severe shyness in order to become a Radio DJ...

♦ Mary recounts the exact moment when she made the conscious decision to break out of her shell, make friends, and overcome her shyness

♦ The crazy realization that Mary had about Radio DJs, that completely went against every assumption she had about the profession all growing up...

♦ How Mary connected to her "core desired feeling" of wanting to feel connected to others, which lead her to start her event planning business, The Simplifiers

♦ How to recognize the stories we tell to our selves and how to make sure that they align with the life that we want to live and believe is possible for our future

♦ How Mary came up with the name of her company (The Simplifiers)

♦ The stress and pressure we can all feel when faced with making hundreds of decisions for an event, especially an event that has emotional ties (like a wedding!)

♦ How to get super clear about your goals, the things that matter most to you, so that you can easily make decisions and narrow your focus to only items that support that objective

♦ The importance of making decisions...and never looking back!

♦ What simplification means to Mary

♦ How the 7 Minute Timer Technique absolutely changed Mary's life

♦ How do you figure out what is noise and what is something you should be spending your time focusing on? Figure out - "Is this serving me?"

♦ How Mary's goals are coming full circle with the launch of her podcast

♦ How saying her goal of starting a podcast out loud surprised her a bit...and how the pieces came together

♦ How other people can see the path to your dreams clearer than you can (they are not caught up in the "emotional muck" of it all...)

♦ Embracing limitless abundance when networking with others

♦ The one thing that Mary still finds hard to simplify...

♦ You heard it here first! Mary shares a big goal that she has for the Simplifiers in 2019!

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♦ Danielle LaPorte's Desire Map

♦ Mary's event planning and business coaching company (and podcast by the same name!), The Simplifiers

♦ The Pomodoro Technique (the "sister" of Mary's 7 Minute Timer exercise)

♦ I was interviewed on Mary's new show, The Simplifiers Podcast. Listen to Episode 002 here!

♦ The Simplifiers podcast on Apple Podcasts

♦ The Simplifiers on Instagram

♦ Episode 7 of the Soultiply podcast, with Jacinta Grand - how to retain your authenticity on Instagram through Insta-stories

MEET MARY BAIRD-WILCOCK OF THE SIMPLIFIERS…

Mary is a CSEP – Certified Special Events Professional… there are only 3 in all of England (and less than 400 worldwide) that hold this highly sought after international certification. 

Her career in live events started in commercial radio, with over 15+ years experience in creating and executing community events, concerts and on-site live broadcasts. She's worked at a handful of radio stations all over Texas in the promotions/events department, sales & marketing and even on-the-air as a radio DJ/presenter.

She has extensive experience in marketing & concert promotions through her work at Direct Events, handling the local marketing plans for nationally touring shows such as David Bowie, Seal, Los Lonely Boys, Ani DiFranco, Joss Stone, and Lucinda Williams, plus non-profit marketing experience while at the Austin Lyric Opera. And now she is a Business Coach & Mentor for event professionals all over the world, teaching them everything she knows.

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Femininity and Masculinity - both traits that we all have, to varying degrees.

But how do we find the right balance, when it comes to achieving our goals?

Personally, I've had an interesting relationship with my masculine and feminine side. Style wise, I'm very feminine. I love to dress up and can be quite girly. I love flowers and a romance novel or movie. But when it comes to goal setting, I've incredibly driven and am always saying, "go go go!" I never really considered that a masculine trait, until a few people brought my attention to the fact that taking a break and "being" can be quite useful, especially when sorting out a big creative problem or looking to recharge and get a bit perspective. 

Like I said, we all have both traits within us. But how do we know when we should tap into one vs. the other? 

In this episode, we talk to Anna Rova of Girlskill, a podcast that explores women's unique and varied experiences tapping into their feminine nature. Because sometimes, it's easy to disconnect from this power, in favor of a society that places more value on masculinity and brute physical and emotional stoicism and strength. Anna shares per perspective on femininity, and how we can all tap into this power within us to gain greater clarity and perspective on our dreams.

IN THIS EPISODE, ANNA AND I GO DEEP AND DISCUSS…

♦ Anna's main goal and desire from a young age - the ticket to a "good life", leaving her home in Moldova and getting an education abroad

♦ Anna recounts the day that she found out that she was one of 40 high schoolers in Moldova to receive the opportunity to study in America as a foreign exchange student

♦ How Anna made the decision to become location independent in her work, and the freedom that it affords

♦ Anna and I both recount embarrassing election stories from when we run for student council....(spoiler alert: We both lose. Double spoiler alert: We both don't take it well)

♦ How Anna embarked on her journey to explore femininity - from a break-up with a long term boyfriend, to a podcast all about the opposite trait (masculinity), and a journey that was influenced by much needed quality time getting to mend her relationship with her father

♦ What femininity means to Anna - flow, play, power, beauty, chaos and life....simple, right?

♦ Is goal setting a masculine or feminine activity? Anna weighs in...and shares how you can infuse both qualities to achieve your goals

♦ Anna and I discuss some of the more interesting sides of womanhood...like period cycles that sync with the full moon!

♦ How achieving feminine flow is all about tapping into your passions, being fulfilled energetically to take on the big goals you have in your life

♦ Why sometimes, as women, we feel the need to hide our feminine side, to fit the mold that society has placed on traditional achievement

♦ The lessons and wisdom Anna has learned from the more mature women she's interviewed on the podcast

♦ How to overcome the guilt of spending time on ourselves, so that we can embrace our feminine and learn to let go and relax

♦ Anna shares her top tips on how you can harness your femininity to propel you forward with your goals

♦ How Anna has begun to flex her creative muscles as a way to tap into her feminine side

♦ How Brittany and Anna have explored sensual movement (such as bellydance and pole dance) as a way to tap into their feminine sides

♦ How partner dance can allow you to build up trust with men and unpack societal beliefs around control and traditional gender roles

♦ How to ditch the struggle and pushing with your goals, and allow progress to "be easy"

♦ Anna shares her goals for this year and how she's overcoming imposter syndrome to start her business and share the lessons she's learned with other eager women

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♦ Femme, the movie - which is a short film about Carson, a gay twenty-something looking for love on all the wrong apps. After being rejected by an online hookup for being too "femme", Carson embarks on a hilarious journey towards self-discovery and acceptance by way of a manic existential crisis and a drag queen fairy godmother. Set in Hell's Kitchen, the epicenter of New York City gay life, Carson must confront his own notions of masculinity, gender performance, and discrimination within the LGBTQ community.

♦ ISIC (The International Student Identity Card Association), the organization Anna ran for president and lost (in a story that is only funny with some distance and perspective!)

♦ The ManInside Show, the original podcast that Anna started to make sense of the dating world and to explore the psychological differences between men and women

♦ Anna's new show, Girlskill, her she interviews women about their relationship to success and embracing their feminine nature (Be on the lookout for my interview on the show here!)

♦ Anna is launching a beta program called, "Rediscover Your Success" where women can rediscover who they really are underneath all the layers of their job, their businesses, their partners, their family and other external factors. Early bird pricing for that program ends March 15th, 2018

♦ The interview that Anna conducted with Lydia Jarjoura, which talks about how you can be more in tune with your monthly cycle

MEET ANNA ROVA OF GIRLSKILL…

Writer, podcaster, yoga instructor and location independent entrepreneur, Anna Rova is the founder of Girlskill – an online media platform, publication and podcast empowering women to live a life of freedom, joy and creativity.

A former email marketer, she loves being on stage sharing her knowledge on relationship dynamics, feminine/masculine energy and the power. Born and raised in Eastern Europe, she is on a mission to redefine female success and femininity. She believes in creating a thriving community of conscious and awakened women through providing inspiration, tools and resources that will help us all build a better, more sustainable world. She had also founded ManInside Show – a podcast about men where she's interviewed John Gray – best selling author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus."

Together with her husband, Anna has traveled the world, being on the road full-time writing her personal blog, recording podcast episodes with incredible women for the Girlskill Podcast, practicing yoga, and spreading love and positivity. She is passionate about yoga, personal growth, spirituality, fashion design and writing fiction. 

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Getting your hopes up can feel painful. You dream and picture the future, maybe so much that it begins to feel real, but then you run the risk of it all being taken away. 

But what if getting your hopes up could actually help your chances of achieving your goal? What if you could use that positive energy and convert it into action? Action that will actually motivate you to do the tasks required to keep going and make real, tangible progress towards your dreams. 

Today we break down what it means for our dreams when we act like we don't care, when we try to damper our hopes because we are afraid that we will get hurt. Here's how you can unlearn this habit of hesitation and learn to embrace a positive and hopeful future instead. 

IN THIS EPISODE, WE TACKLE…

♦ How acting "too cool for school" or "not caring" about a goal or dream can actually be a defensive mechanism, a convenient excuse to guard you from the fear of failure

♦ How our past experiences can be a great way to learn of new dangers, but can also mess us up when it comes to "learning" negative beliefs

♦ How to overcome one of the single most terrifying fears we can have as goal setters - "What if I try as hard as I can, for the rest of my life, but I STILL don't achieve my dream?"

♦ How experiences we have as children "teach" us false belief systems that we have to learn to unwind as adults

♦ The first step to unguarding your heart and learning to care again: Recognize it

♦ How to look beyond your ego and find motivation in tieing the outcome of your dream to a cause or person that you care about. What is the one thing or person that you wouldn't let down? Raise the stakes so that you stick with your dreams

♦ Could the secret to easing the pain of rejection be looking it straight in the face? Are you scared of failure, or are you more scared of the IDEA of failure? Do you know what true failure feels like? Have you endured it and lived to tell the tale? Dissect it. Prove to yourself that you can live through it and make it out on the other side. Then, what left do you have to fear?

♦ A tricky trait to notice - how many goals do you have that you believe are directly tied to other goals, when they are really not? For example: I need to get this job or else I'll never own a house. Or, if I don't land this one client, I'll never make a million dollars. They might seem correlated, but are they absolute facts? Is it really true that you can't have one without the other?

♦ Why getting your hopes up could be the best thing that you do for yourself right now

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♦  Have a question about goal setting, productivity, organization or motivation? Shoot me an email and I might answer it in an upcoming Q&A episode! Email me at brittany [at] soultiply [dot] com

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The world feels like a scary and crazy place to be these days. 

But it's people like our guest today, Cayce Pack, that are willing to look fear and injustice in the eye and say, "No more."

Since the age of 13, Cayce and her family have been serving the refugee and migrant communities in Nashville, and later New York City, ensuring that every human has the right to live without conflict and to pursue their dreams. 

Cayce joins us today to share some of the lessons that these courageous families have taught her about resilience, learning to persevere, and sacrifices made along the way.

Sometimes in the moments where we have no other option, we tap into strength deep within us and find a power that we didn't even know that we had. 

Cayce's stories of resilience gave me goosebumps and loads of inspiration, and I hope it does the same for you. 

IN THIS EPISODE, CAYCE AND I DISCUSS…

♦ How her obsession with fashion at a very young age landed her in Vogue as a 6th grader

♦ Yet, her true passion emerged a few years later - while watching a haunting film that changed the course of her life and career forever

♦ How at a young age (with the support of saintly parents) pursued her passion of helping refugees assimilate into the United States

♦ How Cacye knew she had found her purpose - and how tapping into your passion means that you can't go the sleep as the same person, ever again...

♦ Cayce's experience working with the refugee and migrant families in Nashville and New York, and how they've taught her that resilience is more about the small daily choices rather than the big life-altering ones

♦ How being resilient means learning to sacrifice - learning to let go of the expectations you had for the future and acknowledge that the rules have been rewritten and you are going to fight for your dreams regardless

♦ The example of resilience that has stuck with Cayce the most this year

♦ Learning the lesson of "It's not over - it's just different" and how you can learn to pivot and pursue your dreams, even against insurmountable odds

♦ How we can learn to be "patient with the process" and know that things are still working for our dreams, even when it looks like nothing is working

♦ How Cayce stays resilient with her work in the era of Trump - when it feels as if every door is shut to immigrants and providing them the aid that they need when resettling in the United States

♦ How the travel ban and the way that it impacted refugee policy lit a fire under Cayce to switch jobs and fight for these families

♦ The journaling prompts that Cayce uses when she wants to get clear on how to move forward with her goals

♦ The exercise that Cayce does when she feels like she hits a roadblock with her goals

♦ Cayce's sacred nightly routine that is integral to her self-care practice and how she is able to show up and fight for another day

♦ The new exercise Cayce created for herself called "90 Days of No"

♦ Cayce answers the question, "What if these stories of refugees inspire us...but then also make us feel guilty because we have it SO good...yet we still can't make our dreams come true?"

♦ Why being a woman goal setter is an act of resistance in itself...and why we must stay resilient and keep fighting

♦ How to keep hope alive for our goals and dreams

♦ Cayce shares a story about a time when she thought her dreams were going to end and she had no idea where to call home - but at least she knew that she made her 8 year old self proud

♦ Cayce's goals for the next year - how she plans to be more bold in asking for help and tackling "one impossible thing" for the refugee families she supports

♦ Cayce's suggestions for anyone who feels uncomfortable asking for help with their goals

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♦ The movie that spurred Cayce's passion for helping refugee and migrant communities - Hotel Rwanda

♦ The organizational method that Cayce applied to her schedule as part of her "90 Days of No" - the Konmari Method made famous by the book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo

Feeling inspired to help? Here are Cayce's best suggestions:

♦ If you have a question for Cayce about how you can get involved in your own community, reach out to her at caycepack [at] gmail [dot] com

♦ Cayce regularly has 'last minute' opportunities to contribute to refugee families via Amazon registries, 1:1 volunteering, etc as they arise - so follow her on Facebook to stay tuned for those opportunities to help.

♦ For example, right now, they are in the last little pushes of raising scholarship funds for George, a refugee friend of hers starting community college to become a counselor in NYC.

♦ If you're interested in volunteering directly with refugee resettlement in your community, check out organizations like the International Rescue Committee, Catholic Charities, HIAS, and Church World Service to find the office nearest to you. There's cool programs like GreaterAs1 that also allow you to find out the current donation needs refugee families in your area may have.

♦ Consider supporting refugee-owned businesses, or businesses that employ refugees with dignified wages- like Preemptive Love Coalition and Prosperity Candle.

♦ To advocate, (if you're in New York), Cayce highly encourages folks to sign up with the New York Immigration Coalition. If you're not in New York, you can use resources like United We Dream to find local networks in your community. We Welcome Refugees also has a great weekly 'roundup' email of refugee resettlement news and advocacy opportunities.

♦ The book that has kept me on track with my personal goals over the last 16 weeks (the reason why I've lost 22 pounds and launched this podcast!) - Maybe It's You by Lauren Handel Zander

♦  InnerU, the digital life coaching program that puts the Maybe It's You book in action. A must for keeping yourself accountable to your dreams - use code SOULTIPLY at checkout for $75 off any subscription level

♦ Have a question about goal setting, organization, productivity or self-care? I'd love to hear from you! Record a question below and there's a great possibility that I'll include it and answer it in an upcoming Q&A episode!

MEET CAYCE PACK…

By day, Cayce Pack is the Associate Director of the Zolberg Institute on Migration and Mobility in New York, a research and policy center on refugee and migration issues, where she works on both global and city-based initiatives to advance best practices for refugee and migrant rights.

At heart, Cayce is privileged to be deeply involved in the resettled refugee community in New York and her hometown of Nashville, working with networks of local refugee leaders and activists to provide direct aid, material support, and connections for refugees arriving in America from places like Syria, Iraq, Myanmar, and the Congo. Her main aim is to empower refugees to recover their goals and careers once disrupted by conflict-- and push through the paperwork, red tape, and difficulties together to see dreams fulfilled.

Cayce has been involved in the refugee and migrant community for fifteen years, after a viewing of a film about refugee issues while in middle school sparked her passion for working with those starting over in America. Shortly thereafter, alongside a local refugee leader, her family helped found what is now one of the largest refugee resettlement operations in Tennessee.

Prior to her current role, she worked with UNICEF USA in New York, and with non-governmental organizations in Palestine and Egypt. She serves on the Young Leaders Council of the New York Immigration Coalition, is a Fellow with the Urban Design Forum, and leads her church's social justice ministry, C3Cares.

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Eeny, meeny, miny, moe....Magic 8 Ball...Spin around with a blindfold and point...

All great tactics to pick teams for kickball - but not so hot for making those huge, life-changing decisions that can change the course of our goals and dreams, right?

Well have no fear, in this week's episode we dive deep into some tactics and strategies that you can use to think (and feel) your way towards decisions that will support your future in the best way possible.

If you feel like you are experiencing some major analysis paralysis, allow this episode to melt away the elements of your soul that might be frozen with fear. All big choices come to light in time. Know that you are supported and you don't have to make these big decisions alone. I share with you a variety of exercises along the spectrum from "Logical" to "Intuitive" - so no matter how you like to reason, there is something that will work for you.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE EXPLORE…

♦ A major shout out to some goal getters who are making progress on their 100 Goals for the Year!

♦ Some of the most common issues that goal getters face when trying to come up with 100 Goals for the Year...and how you can fix them

♦ How many goals I accomplished in January...and how many goals I'm currently working on to complete in the upcoming months!

♦ How to use the Three Prong Exercise to get clear about your priorities and weigh how big decisions compare to the things in your life that matter most

♦ How putting the "Finishing Touches" on decisions can make you feel more confident about your choices

♦ The questions to ask yourself when something doesn't seem quite right with your decisions - Why? How can you infuse some more joy into those decisions? What is giving you doubt? What scares you the most? What could potentially go wrong? And what safe guards (that are under your control) can you add to minimize the chances of that happening? If you could change one thing about your decisions (no matter how magical or far-flung they might seem) - what would it be?

♦ Diving deep into intuition - what does it even mean?

♦ We take a look at how scientists have begun to measure intuition and how the military is starting to explore how soldiers can hone this capability to make gut decisions in high-pressure situations

♦ How we can learn to trust and identify our intuition through the cues we feel in our body

♦ Consider this - what if your decisions don't have to feel hard?

♦ Here's a brief brainstorming meditation that can help you visualize and tap into your intuitive senses to make those life-changing decisions...

♦ I announce who won the Goal Setting Emergency Kit Giveaway (!!!)

♦ I also announce the fun little project we have in store with Soultiply...and it directly involves helping you achieve your dreams in a tangible way. Picture it like "Extreme Home Makeover"...but for your dreams!

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A few of the links to these resources are affiliate links, so if you decide to make a purchase, a small contribution will be made to fund future episodes of the Soultiply podcast. Although this is appreciated, all resources were chosen before affiliate links were added, and absolutely did not influence my decision to mention any particular resource in this episode.

♦  How to play the 100 Goals for the Year game (don't worry - you haven't missed the boat, you can start at any time!) and here's where you can download the free planner to track your progress

♦ If you live in Los Angeles, come and take bellydancing classes with me at RaqShimmy...here's the Bellydancing Competition I'm competing in - Bellydancer of the Universe!

♦ If you are a podcaster living in the Los Angeles area, check out the Mastermind I mentioned

Here's some additional reading on the science of intuition...

♦ The Science Behind Intuition And How You Can Use It To Get Ahead At Work by Alexandra Mysoor

♦ ONR Investigates 'Spidey Sense' for Sailors and Marines

♦ 2016 research study conducted that measured intuition on decision making capabilities and confidence

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What does it mean to be relentless with your goals? How can you muster the drive and the courage to continue to take action, even when it feels scary, uncomfortable or useless?

I feel like sometimes we look at other people and assume that drive and grit is for them and not for me. 

Today we share the beautiful and inspiring story of Hannah Zale - a young songstress with bigger than life vocal talent, and even greater ambition. She's an unstoppable woman. She shares her triumphs, her dreams, her darkest moments, and the ways that her struggles have motivated her to dive into the music industry and make a name for herself through her multiple music outlets.

Hannah and I explore how you can muster the motivation to keep going, even if you have to take continual action each day. She shares how you can learn to trust your intuition, when you can realize when "enough is enough" and you have to shift gears, and how to do the "soul work" that serves as the foundation for every goal and dream.

Plus, if you are looking for a tool that will help you track your progress on continual actions for your goals, I've created a Continuous Action Color Sheet Tracker free for you to download. Print out the tracker, gather your best color pencils or markers, and watch a beautiful, inspirational message appear, once you've tracked your goal actions over a determined amount of days. It's a fun and beautiful way to track progress towards your dreams, and sustain your motivation over the long-term. You can access it in the Soultiply Free Tools & Resources Library.

IN THIS EPISODE, HANNAH AND I DIVE DEEP INTO…

♦ How she moved from having dreams of starring on Broadway, to wanting to create her own rock band

♦ How the act of auditioning can oftentimes cause you to pick yourself apart in unhealthy ways...

♦ How she got over trying to please everyone and found peace with making music that was authentic to her (even if there might be some haters...)

♦ How to find the "truth" in the comments from the haters...and use it to grow in your craft

♦ Recognizing that your family and friends aren't always your target audience for your creative endeavors...and that's okay!

♦ How Hannah decided to name her all-girls band "The Pussywillows" - despite criticism from some of her biggest supporters

♦ How Hannah realized that art is sometimes about upsetting people...but it's also about forgiveness and mistakes

♦ How Hannah decided to trade in the notion of happiness, for something more fulfilling - peace and balance

♦ Hannah's greatest accomplishments so far on her career journey

♦ How she accomplished her goal of surrounding herself with a team that supports her dreams - even when her Type-A tendencies made delegation a challenge

♦ How she learned to trust in other people's expertise, so that she wouldn't have to do it all

♦ Why it can be hard to trust in other team members, when they might not be as invested in your goals as you are

♦ How she structured her indie label contract, so that she could have leverage to sign with a major label someday

♦ The traits she looks for in team members to help support her goals

♦ How Hannah found success with her goals by removing her subjectivity and looking at her artistry through the eyes of a product - "Pitch the product, don't pitch the person"

♦ How she learned to pitch herself (her product) with confidence, by removing the personal aspects and focusing on her deep belief in an unrealized niche

♦ How Hannah's Jewish culture contributed to one of her greatest character traits - her ability to be relentless

♦ Hannah shares a deeply personal story about her childhood...and how her driven nature has been impacted by the pain she has endured

♦ How pursuing goals can be a way to heal and put your life back together

♦ The difference between anxiety and stress, and how Hannah utilizes stress to motivate herself, as a way to rid herself of the shame of past hauntings

♦ Is there ever a way to fulfill that part of you that is driven because you want to prove someone else wrong?

♦ How she recognizes that she will never be satisfied with her career goals - but how goals in other areas of her life might satisfy the need for unconditional love

♦ The meaning behind the Hebrew term "neshama" - your soul, and how it relates to your goals

♦ How a check-in with your soul should guide the way that you structure your to-do lists, your goals, and your life...

♦ Hannah's prayer and journaling process, the foundation of her deeply important "soul work" - taking stock of the things that she is: grateful for, struggling with, needs, wants...ending with the question of "How can I help?"

♦ How to embrace the duality you might feel inside and learning how to be comfortable with the uncomfortable

♦ Realizing that you can be at the top of the world, and at the bottom of the ocean with your goals - at the very same time

♦ Doing your soul work and asking the big WHY questions - "Why am I doing this? Why do I care? Why am I putting myself through this?"

♦ Why Hannah at times feels guilty, about feeling bad, about the life that she chose for herself (We've all been there!)

♦ How Hannah became comfortable with tackling the repeated actions required for her goal (in this case, it's pitching her bands to perform at venues)

♦ The mantra and advice that Hannah's dad gave her a long time ago - "Work your plan, and plan your work"

♦ Hannah's best advice for when you realize that something isn't working for your goal, and you need to reevaluate your plan

♦ How to tap into your intuition, to know when to pull the plug on an action plan for your goal and try something new instead

♦ How to clearly communication your expectations and stand behind them in the name of your dreams

♦ How to communicate with intention and powerful words to ask for what you want

♦ How Hannah landed herself in the hospital, trying to be everything to everyone

♦ Hannah shares a real life example of how she has to juggle booking decisions between her 3 bands - looking out for her own dreams, while making sure that her team members feel supported

♦ Knowing when it's time to be "the bitch" and make those hard calls, in order to support your dreams

♦ How Hannah plans to grow steady, slow and strong in 2018 by engaging with her greatest fans on a whole new level

♦ The new item (that I plan to buy!) from her merch line this year...

♦ Hannah shares all her goals for 2018 for her music career, and how she plans on "sinking in" to the music industry, by claiming her seat at the table

CURIOUS ABOUT SOMETHING WE MENTIONED?…

♦ Zale - Hannah is the lead singer of this Atlanta-based alternative rock band

♦ The Pussywillows - Hannah's powerhouse duo with Carly Gibson

♦ Madison Records - The indie label that recently signed Zale

♦ Turnipblood Entertainment - Where Hannah works as a booking agent and where the Y2K coverband is booked

♦ Feel free to reach out to Hannah directly at hzalet [at] gmail [dot] com

♦ Continual Action Color Sheet Tracker - Download the printable tracker by signing up for access to the Free Tools & Resources Library

MEET HANNAH ZALE AND THE ZALE BAND…

ZALE is a boundary-pushing, unapologetic alternative rock 5 piece based in Atlanta, GA. Ethereal melody meets massive carnal beats and catchy rude riffs to deliver alternative music with moxie. This young indie group has sold out venues like Eddie's Attic, The Georgia Theatre, and The 40 Watt Club, touring the southeast supporting debut release Fortress. ZALE is currently recording their second LP at Madison Records to be released fall 2017. ZALE opened for The Revivalists and Bright Light Social Hour, played Bragg Jam and Dogwood Festival and looks forward to a full fall tour schedule.

Fans have described their sound and live performance as fun, energetic, badass, fearless, edgy, tight, sensual, and dynamic. ZALE is comprised of distinguishable best friends: lead singer and eccentric powerhouse Hannah Zale, assertive guitarist Christian Gerner-Smidt, heavy-hitting drummer Alex Morrison, explosive bassist Jackson Reed Hodges, and elysian electric violist Melissa Loga. This band is a collaboration of contrasting influences coming together to create fresh rock music celebrating both nostalgia and indifference.

Zale is a "a haunting blend of Amy Winehouse and something Jack White would dig;" "soulful, sublime, and Southern"; and "a fiery combination of soul, grit, and Jack Daniels Honey" …get yourself a taste.

THANKS FOR LISTENING!

I'd love to hear from you!

♦ Share your thoughts in the comments below – What part of Hannah's story resonated with you the most today? How will you take her advice and become a relentless force of nature for your goals? 

♦ Share this show on Facebook, Pinterest or Twitter…and follow me on Instagram (just for fun!) 

Help me reach my goals so that I can help you reach yours…

♦ Share what you think about the show on Apple Podcasts. Ratings and reviews are super helpful and allow new people to find the show. Each one brings a smile to my face!

*Also…we are running a giveaway! Anyone that subscribes to the podcast and leaves a rating and review on iTunes between now and 2/14, will be entered for a chance to win a Goal Setting Emergency Kit! This box is filled with all the necessities you need to get your goal in gear. We included books, pens, planners, notebooks, giftcards and bath bombs galore! The random drawing will take place on 2/14 and the winner will be announced on the next episode of the show (Episode 009), premiering on 2/15!

♦ Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Play or Spotify and never miss an episode!

Social media is such a strange thing. If you consider yourself a millennial, you sort of grew up with it (Remember MySpace? I remember fighting my friends fervently not to get a Facebook in high school, but I eventually caved...)

Luckily, we avoided our most embarrassing middle school moments without it (although, I had a public Xanga journal where I signed off each entry as "Miss Morals"...so I think that's equally as embarrassing...)

Needless to say, it seems strange to think about how our parents didn't have social media during their formative years. And how did anyone ever become famous or get their message heard without it?

In this episode, we talk with Jacinta Grand, the owner of Social Circle, about how we can utilize social media in the best ways to achieve our goals. She shares tips for if you are just starting out, why followers are not the end-all-be-all goal, and how to be authentic (without slathering yourself or your feed in Millennial pink!)

Plus, Jacinta shares where she is at with her goal of launching her own social media consultancy, her plans for 2018, and the way she has used social media to achieve her goals of growing her business (without needing a million followers to do so!)

IN THIS EPISODE, JACINTA AND I GAB ABOUT…

♦ Jacinta's goals growing up and how she decided to take the leap and start her own social media business

♦ The big scary thing that kept Jacinta on the sidelines with her business for so long...

♦ How the fear of failure can keep us from starting our dreams... (or in my case) from finishing them!

♦ How Jacinta took the favorite parts from her work with corporate clients and applied them to create the business she always dreamt of owning

♦ Jacinta shares the top things that goal setters should focus on when it comes to utilizing social media to achieve their goals

♦ How to tailor your social media efforts specifically for the goal that you want to achieve (and how to pick the right platform to help you do it)

♦ If you do decide to focus on only a few social plaforms...here is what you should be doing with your other accounts

♦ Why having a million followers on social media isn't always what it's cracked up to be...

♦ How to know how much time you should dedicate towards social media vs. spending time working on the actual goal itself!

♦ Jacinta's suggestions on how often you should be posting on social media when you first start out

♦ How batching your social media posts (although perhaps painful...) can actually save you time in the long run

♦ How forming Instagram "Power Groups" can help you build a following (and make some friends too!)

♦ How using Instagram and Facebook stories can show your true authenticity (in a sea of beautiful profiles where authentic moments can be few and far between!)

♦ I go under the knife! Jacinta does a live audit of my social media profiles and makes suggestions on areas where we can all focus on making improvements to support our dreams

♦ How to use your Instagram profile link as a call to action for your goals

♦ How to shift your mindset about sharing and promoting your goals, so that you can help other people (rather than come off all "salesy")

♦ Jacinta's take on how you can be successful, without having to have a million followers

CURIOUS ABOUT SOMETHING WE MENTIONED?…

♦ Jacinta's social media company - Social Circle

♦ Linking services that you can use to track clicks from your Instagram profile - Bitly or Linktree

♦ Jacinta can be found on Instagram here

MEET JACINTA...

Jacinta teaches small business owners and startups how to leverage the power of social media to build successful brands and grow their revenue. She spent seven years developing profitable social media strategies for Fortune 100 brands. Although this work was often satisfying, it lacked the gravity she needed in her life to feel like she was making a positive impact in the world. She launched Social Circle because she sees so many aspiring and intelligent entrepreneurs struggling to create impact for their businesses due to limited resources and knowledge. Her goal is to inspire, educate, and empower small business owners and startups to achieve their business goals.

THANKS FOR LISTENING!

I'd love to hear from you!

♦ Share your thoughts in the comments below – What's the thing that trips you up about social media? Is it the amount of time it takes, or coming up with new content? Post about your goal and your social media woe in the comments, and Jacinta and I will help you brainstorm on how to solve it!

♦ Share this show on Facebook, Pinterest or Twitter…and follow me on Instagram (just for fun!) - Plus, checkout these profiles, because they are the ones that Jacinta audited during the episode!

Help me reach my goals so that I can help you reach yours...

♦ Share what you think about the show on Apple Podcasts. Ratings and reviews are super helpful and allow new people to find the show. Each one brings a smile to my face!

*Also...we are running a giveaway! Anyone that subscribes to the podcast and leaves a rating and review on iTunes between now and 2/14, will be entered for a chance to win a Goal Setting Emergency Kit! This box is filled with all the necessities you need to get your goal in gear. We included books, pens, planners, notebooks, giftcards and bath bombs galore! The random drawing will take place on 2/14 and the winner will be announced on Episode 009, premiering on 2/15!

♦ Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Google Play or Spotify so you never miss an episode

I did the unthinkable the other day...

I organized a place where no man has ever gone before...

I finally tackled...

....wait for it....

THE JUNK DRAWER!

Seriously, the moment I got all the random batteries, and buttons, and extra light bulbs all in a row...it seemed like it was messed up again within a few hours.

*Sigh* Such is life?

At least that feeling is just limited to one drawer. But if you are feeling that you are constantly in a state of needing to get organized in all areas of your life, this episode is going to speak to your soul.

We dive deep into the reasons why we crave organization - how it brings value into our lives and how we determine what is worth exchanging for that value.

If you've ever felt like organization is something that you can only manage in spurts, and not a routine that you can maintain long-term, than take a listen and see how simple it can be to create an organizational system that works perfectly for you.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE DIG DEEP INTO…

♦ The big doozy of a goal that I have brewing in my heart right now...and why it's so frustrating!

♦ The reason why I would never sell my organization services outright

♦ Some of the core reasons why you might be having trouble with sticking with an organizational routine

♦  How you can determine the best organizational system for YOU (Trust me, it's the only way you will stick with it!)

♦ How I organize my digital files, emails, closet, calendar and more...

♦ How organization runs much deeper than you might have initially thought...it's tied to tribal identity, social constructs, perceived talent and ability...wowzers...

♦ The ins and outs of "achievement fatigue" and how it might be hindering your organization habits

♦ How your parents or caregivers organizational habits may have influenced your own...(for better, or for worse!)

♦ Why creative individuals can oftentimes struggle with being organized

♦ How to incorporate organization into your routine, or use it as a centering daily ritual

♦ How to organize your life while sitting on the toilet in the morning (allow me to explain....)

♦ Tricks to help you remember to stay organized (when you might have merely forgotten)

♦ How to embrace your organizational identity in a way that feels best to you

♦ What is the value of your organizational system? What pain points will this system eliminate for you? Who will you be? How will you feel?

♦ How to not get swept up into the "tool tornado" when working with project management apps, planners or other helpful tools

♦ How to test, identify and improve your organizational systems overtime, through an iterative process that will result in your personallong-term system

♦ Why I urge you to resist changing your organizational system until 30+ days....even if it's driving you bonkers

♦ How to weigh the value of your organizational system vs. the amount of time it takes you to organize - are you seeing a return on your investment?

♦ The core difference between being organized vs. being systematized...and why one helps you much more than the other...

♦ How to integrate your organizational routine into your daily life (so you don't even have to think about it, and it hardly takes any more time than before)

♦ Achieving a state of "perpetual organization"

♦ The potential ways that bullet journaling or scrapbooking your planner can jeopardize your productivity and sense of organization

♦ Maybe you've been organized all along.... (dun...Dun....DUN!!!)

YOU MIGHT HAVE HEARD ME MENTION…

♦ PlannerCon

♦ The goal setting book/program I'm currently working on: "Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life." by Lauren Handel Zander

♦ Looking to sharpen your teeth on some new organizational tools? I share one of the biggest round-ups on the internet of all things goal setting and organization. It's a gold mine, which is why it's password protected in the free Soultiply Tools & Resources Library. If you would like access, you can unlock it here.

♦ Want to win a Goal Setting Emergency gift bundle (retail value over $150!!!)...head on over to iTunes and leave a rating and review for the show! I'll be randomly drawing one lucky winner who left a review to win a personalized gift bundle with 7 of my favorite goal setting items, including books, giftcards, pens, notebooks, planners and more! NAM NAM NAM ALL THE THINGS.

THANKS FOR LISTENING!

I'd love to hear from you!

♦ Share your thoughts in the comments below – Do you have trouble staying organized? When you heard any of the potential reasons why you might struggle in this episode, did any resonate more with you than others?

♦ Share this show on Facebook, Pinterest or Twitter…and follow me on Instagram (just for fun!)

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We've all had those moments....where it feels like reality hits you over the head like a frying pan. The whole world feels overwhelming, you're dizzy, and you're seeing stars!

One question leads to another, leads to another - and before long, you question, "Can I really stick with my goal? Is it worth it? Am I cut out for this? Can I live my life this way?" Our inner drama queen starts having a field day, prepping for her big debut...

I hate those spiraling thoughts. And I want to squash them like the nasty little pests that they are. That's why we decided to tackle this heavy hitting question today on the podcast. What can you do when you doubt that you are cut out for your goal? What can you do when you feel like you can't go on?

I have a mixture of tools and tactics that can help in this situation - and you'll learn all about them all in this episode. Some are more mindset focused (I share 3 different mindset "personas" that you can adapt when you are feeling the doubt starting to creep in...), while others are more tactical and tool based, focusing on free resources that you can download from the Goal Setting Tools & Resources Library. Sometimes it takes a combination of brain and heart to exterminate this level of deep-seeded doubt.

In this episode, we explore...

♦ Why doing the same thing over and over again is NOT the definition of insanity (sorry Albert!)

♦ How to use the "Mad Scientist" or "Detective" mindset and how it can help your goals

♦ How to develop your "goal hypotheses" and test the best actions that will help you make progress towards your dreams

♦ How to embrace the "Routine" persona...(it's not as boring as it may sound!)

♦ What Barbie dolls can actually teach you about your goals...

♦ Why "No pain, no gain" is a load of B.S......and how we can use the "Recharge" mindset to get back on track

♦ How to escape spiraling negative thought patterns with the "Spiral Thought Emergency Kit" (I must admit, it feels a little scary and personal to share the exact wording that I use for my exercise)

♦ How you can contribute to future goal setting research (we would love to have you!)

So you don't have to write them down - here are some links mentioned in the show...

♦ Power-Up Podcasting (the fantastic course that I took to launch my podcast!)

♦ Disney Travel Secrets podcast

♦ Asana (The project management tool that I use to track the actions towards my goals)

♦ How to break down your goals into Manageable Moments (one of my favorite blog posts about breaking down your goals into chunks that feel easy to complete so you can make progress)

♦ Free Goal Setting Tools & Resources Library - In the library, I have a case study where I take Madison through the exact steps to setup her Asana, so that she can track the actions that will help her reach the goal of tripling her income. Lots of other neat goal setting downloads for you to take a look at too.

Thanks for listening!

I'd love to hear from you!

♦ Share your thoughts in the comments below - When do you notice that your goals start to feel hard and doubt starts to creep in? What do you do in those situations?

♦ Want to contribute to my on-going research on goal setting? I'd love to hear your thoughts. Either record an audio answer below, share your written answer to the question in the comments, or shoot me an email.

Here's the question to answer:

I personally don't believe in failures, BTW…but have you ever had a goal that you attempted, but didn't quite turn out how you originally thought? Maybe the outcome turned out a different way than you had initially hoped? Regardless if the answer is yes or no...describe your experience.

♦ Share this show on Facebook, Pinterest or Twitter...and follow me on Instagram (just for fun!) 

Want to help me reach my goals? 

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Have you ever gone on vacation, came home to "reality", and threw a major temper tantrum? I remember I felt that way when I was visiting LA and I had to go back to NYC during the middle of a huge snowstorm. I wrapped myself in blankets and refused to leave my apartment for 3 straight days (good thing I work from home...and have a sweet husband...and that I moved to LA a year later!)

I feel like we've all had those post-vacation pangs...but rarely do we do anything about them. But there's one very special person that I'd like you to meet, who set aside the fear, doubt, and worry and packed her bags for real.

On today's episode, we chat with Ashley Chanel Derrington of Deaf, Tattooed, and Employed, and she shares her journey of how she realized that she was meant to travel the world. We get to talk to her 2 weeks (!?!) before she embarks on a journey of a lifetime, traveling the world for an entire year while working remotely and making money to support herself along the way. She shares her fears, her excitement, and the research process that she went through to make the decision to trade in a comfortable career in entertainment for a life full of unknowns and life-altering experiences. Plus, she shares her goals for this year, as she plans to use this experience to reflect on some of the areas in her own life where she wants to grow; Namely, her insecurities surrounding her hearing loss. With Deaf, Tattooed and Employed, she plans to connect with deaf and hard of hearing communities around the world, to learn about how different cultures seek to communicate.

She's one courageous lady. And if you have some Wanderlust in your soul - she's going to tell you exactly what you need to do to make your dreams of travel come true too! We've teamed up to create a Travel & Remote Working Cheatsheet, which is packed with resources, checklists, planners, and journal prompts that will help you decide if the digital nomad life is for you. You can track your applications, find resources for remote working jobs, and think through all the different soul-searching questions and considerations you should evaluate before making the leap. Plus we included a to-do list and packing list, just to cover the logistics.

Ashley has been so kind to share her knowledge with us FOR FREE, so hop on over to the Free Tools & Resources Library to download your copy, along with all the other free and valuable goal setting resources we have to share. Again, this one is called the "Travel and Remote Working Cheatsheet" and you can find it (and many others!) all listed in the library.

In this episode, we dig deep into...

♦ Ashley's goals growing up, and how they informed her decision to travel today

♦ Her early success in entertainment and how she knew it was time to give it all up

♦ Why leaving the entertainment industry can be so difficult

♦ Ashley's struggles in realizing that she no longer connected with "her list" (Us organized people will be able to relate!)

♦ The goals and passion projects she's looking to explore during her year of travel

♦ The defining moment when she decided that she was going to work remotely and travel for a year

♦ A run down of all the different programs out there for remote work and travel (She's practically done your research for you!)

♦ What she was looking for a program, how she did her research, and what factors ultimately informed her decision on the best fit for her

♦ What scares her most about this next year of travel

♦ How she's facing her biggest insecurities this year - and turning them into her greatest project yet

♦ Stories about her experience playing for the Women's National Deaf soccer team

♦ How she plans on learning about the deaf and hard of hearing communities throughout her travels

♦ How she's learning that communication knows no bounds

♦ Her hopes for the future and who she hopes to become a year from now (We will have her back on the podcast to debrief and reflect!)

Here are some resources mentioned during the episode...

A few of the links below are affiliate links, so if you decide to make a purchase, a small contribution will be made to fund future episodes of the Soultiply podcast. Although this is appreciated, I can promise that all resources were chosen before affiliate links were even added, and they absolutely did not influence my decision to include any particular resource in this episode.

♦ Download the Travel & Remote Working Cheatsheet in the Soultiply Free Tools & Resources Library - Ashley really serves up the goods here, where she features all the tools you need to decide if traveling and working remotely is right for you. This cheatsheet is free, and part of the many downloads available in our goal setting resource center. Sign up and you'll have access to all of them. Your goals might thank ya!

♦ Here's the Cannes Film Festival internship that Ashley mentioned was a defining moment in her journey to a career in entertainment

Here are all the different remote working travel programs that Ashley considered this year...

♦ We Roam

♦ Remote Year

♦ Pangea 196

♦ GlobeKick

♦ Wifi Tribe

♦ Unsettled

♦ BeHere

♦ Venture with Impact

You have goals and I want to help you make them happen...

♦ I would love to hear about your goals! What are you working on this year? How is it going so far? And most of all...how can I help? Reach out to me on Facebook or Instagram and let's support each other in our dreams.

♦ Were you inspired by Ashley's story? Do you have a goal bursting in your heart, ready to make its real-world debut?! Let Soultiply keep you motivated on your journey. Subscribe to the podcast so that you don't miss an episode, and leave a rating and review. I'd love to hear your thoughts about the show! 

♦ Want to contribute to my research on goal setting? I'd love to include your perspective! I'm trying out a new form of "crowd-sourced qualitative" research, so record your brief answer using Speakpipe, and maybe I'll feature it in an upcoming episode. Can't fit everything you want to say in the time limit? No worries (I feel ya' - I'm a talker too...) - shoot me an email with your response instead. I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Here's the question to answer:

I personally don't believe in failures, BTW…but have you ever had a goal that you attempted, but didn't quite turn out how you originally thought? Maybe the outcome turned out a different way than you had initially hoped? Regardless if the answer is yes or no...describe your experience.

The other night (after playing a little too much Mario Kart Wii with my husband...), I had this crazy dream that I was a member of this gym that let you earn gold coins for every exercise that you completed. You could compete against others for gold stars, and get fit while doing so. To tell you the truth, I was a bit bummed when I woke up! Some place like that might ACTUALLY make me want to work out every day! It's no secret that gamification techniques (the act of making a task into a game) work wonders for getting us engaged and motivated. So why not apply them to our goals?

In this episode, I share with you my favorite goal setting activity of all time - the 100 Goals for the Year game. I'm starting another yearly round as we speak, and I'd love to teach you the rules, give you the resources to play as well (you can download the free tracker in our library here), and show you how playing this game can help transform your life for the better, no matter your score.

In this episode, I share...

♦ What's gamification and how you can apply these techniques to your goals

♦ Step-by-step instructions on how to play the game (It's pretty easy - plan your goals, do them, earn points!)

♦ How to come up with 100 goals for the year (Also easier than you might imagine!)

♦ How to break down a goal into "Manageable Moments"

♦ How to put yourself in the driver's seat and take control of your goals

♦ The 18 categories of your life and how they relate to your goals

♦ Why small bucketlist-type goals lead to a life well-lived

♦ How our goals and societal expectations can frame our identity (if we aren't careful...)

♦ How your perfect day can lead to your perfect year

♦ How this game can document your growth throughout the year in ways that are a bit unexpected...

♦ How you can track your goal setting progress through the interactive dashboard

♦ I share my high score (Yeah, admitting it now - it's not that high...and I'll share why!)

♦ Aspects of my strategy that I'm changing this year, in an attempt to beat my high score

♦ Why the wording of your goals matters so much

♦ What to do if you get off track or start to feel discouraged or overwhelmed with the game

♦ What you can learn from the goals you no longer want to pursue throughout the year

Here are some resources mentioned during the episode...

A few of the links below are affiliate links, so if you decide to make a purchase, a small contribution will be made to fund future episodes of the Soultiply podcast. Although this is appreciated, I can promise that all resources were chosen before affiliate links were even added, and they absolutely did not influence my decision to include any particular resource in this episode.

♦ Health/Fitness related gamification tools:

◊ Lose It App (I love their challenges)

◊ Fitbit

◊ Orangetheory Fitness Classes

♦ Free "100 Goals for the Year" Excel tracker (to use to play the game), download it from the Soultiply Goal Setting Library

♦ To learn more about breaking down your big goals into bite-sized pieces, check out this post: "It Only Takes a Moment: Using the Manageable Moments Exercise to Jump Start your Dreams"

♦ The goal setting book/program I'm currently working on: "Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life." by Lauren Handel Zander

♦ If you find yourself in Southern California in the spring and you want to see something beautiful...Carlsbad Flower Fields

♦ I remember the name of that show now...Drew Carey's old improv show, "Whose Line Is It Anyways?"

♦ Want more context for this game and how to plan 100 goals for the year? Here's where I first introduced the concept with a blog entry and YouTube video explanation of the planner.

♦ Leonie Dawson's "My Shining Year" workbook

♦ Nadalie Bardo's "Slay Your Goals" planner

♦ Curious to hear more about the planner and how Nadalie plans her own goals for the year? Check out Episode 002 of the Soultiply podcast, where Nadalie and I gab about yearly goal setting and how to get back on track if you find yourself ditching your goals mid-year

♦ Natalie MacNeil's "Conquer Your Year" planner

♦ Goal DRVN planner

It means the world to me to be a part of your goal journey...

♦ And I want to continue to do so - Subscribe to the podcast so you won't miss an episode! And if you have a spare moment, it would mean so much to the success of this show if you could leave a rating and a review!

♦ Have a goal setting question or want to send a quick note to say hello? Feel free to reach out to me by email here, on Instagram or on Facebook

It's the most WONDERFUL time of the yearrrrrrrrr! (No, I'm not singing Christmas tunes - although I do love to!...) It's goal setting time, my friends! It's the one month of the year where it's (mildly) socially acceptable to love goals as much as I do. Nothing feels better than getting organized and pumped for planning your goals for the year!

(And don't worry, if you found this episode in the depths of the internet and it's not currently January...don't let that scare you away. Thankfully our calendar system is set up in such a way that you can measure a year from any date. Lucky us, right?!)

In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Nadalie Bardo of It's All You, Boo to learn exactly how she plans out her goals for the year. Which I thought was pretty nifty, considering she created the Slay Your Goals planner, which helps goal-getters plan out their goals for the year and stay on track. I was curious how the goal queen plans her own year and *spoiler alert* - it includes a ton of sticky notes!

In this episode, Nadalie dishes the dirt on...

♦ How she plans her own goals for the year (She practices what she preaches, thank God!)

♦ How to know if your goals are deeply aligned with your dreams, and not just a product of societal or peer pressure

♦ How to keep from getting overwhelmed when sitting down to plan out your goals for the year (*Raises hand* - I've been there!)

♦ How to re-frame your goals from being results oriented, vs. process driven (And why this difference matters...)

♦ How to not get ahead of yourself with your goals (Slow and steady, does in fact, win this race...)

♦ How to avoid "shiny object syndrome" with your goals...and to stop using this trope as a crutch, once and for all

♦ How to know when you should stick with your goals, or when it might be time to move on

♦ How to find goals for the year that are authentic and align with who you currently are, or who you want to become

♦ How to get back on track with your goals for the year, even if you haven't touched them in weeks/months/etc. (Bookmark this for February or March, just in case!)

♦ How to handle any sadness or disappointment surrounding your goals

♦ A fun practice to remind yourself of the mental breakthroughs you achieve throughout the year

♦ The creative process that Nadalie used to create her Slay Your Goals planner

♦ Nadalie shares the hardest part of creating her planner

♦ Her definition of "intention" and how having a clear idea of your intention can keep you on track for your goals for the year

♦ The best time of the year to start your goals

♦ 3 things you can do today to start your year on the right foot

♦ Nadalie opens up about her "True North" - the intention that guides her goals and business

♦ Sick of SMART goals? Nadalie shares her improved system that ditches the trope for "RIGHT" goals instead

♦ The big secret that you only really learn after achieving your goals...

Here are some resources we mention during the episode...

Some of the links to these resources are affiliate links, so if you decide to make a purchase, a small contribution will be made to fund future episodes of the Soultiply podcast. Although this is appreciated, all resources were chosen before affiliate links were added, and absolutely did not influence my decision to mention any particular resource in this episode.

♦ For an online library chock-full of free goal setting planners, trackers, and resources, visit the Soultiply Goal Setting Library

♦ Nadalie's Slay Your Goals Planner

♦ Nadalie's home on the web - It's All You Boo.com

♦ Looking for another free yearly planning option? Nadalie has a "Slay Your Goals" guide to download as well!

♦ In this episode, we discuss breaking down your goals into smaller pieces quite a bit. If you are interested in learning about how you can do that with your own goals, checkout this post titled: "It Only Takes a Moment: Using the Manageable Moments Exercise to Jump Start your Dreams"

♦ Want to add some spice to your yearly goal setting routine? Try my favorite goal setting game - the 100 Goals for the Year Exercise! It's easier than it sounds, pinky promise. Checkout the podcast episode on how you can play, or the blog post/YouTube video.

Your goals are my goals...so....

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Hello there strangers! Can you even believe it? I feel like I am the sneaky trickster in any action movie you've ever watched - I go into hiding for months at a time and then pop back up when you least expect it! Well, this is the last time I'm popping out of the shadows, because I'm so happy to introduce my newest Soultiply project....the Soultiply with Brittany Hoopes podcast!

This first episode is a bit of an unique one. In this episode I dish all the details on what you can expect from the show, how the content will help you achieve your goals and I share a little bit about myself and my goal setting journey. That's what I want this podcast to feel like - a live action goal journey that we take together. My hope is that a year from now, we can sit back and laugh over how much we've accomplished along the way. I want this content to be here for you, to guide you when you feel like the mental obstacles feel too strong or scary, and I want my stories and the guests we have heart-to-heart conversations with to remind you that you are not alone in this.

In this episode, we explore:

♦ How I started my goal setting journey (spoiler alert: It ended in the creation of this podcast!)

♦ What it means to "Soultiply" (It's a made-up word with a BIG meaning)

♦ What to expect from this podcast

♦ Who this podcast will help the most

♦ And some fun facts about me and my background

Here are some resources I mention during the episode:

♦ If you are interested in hearing more about how I came to the conclusion that acting was no longer for me (and how I realized it was time to change my dream), check out this blog post titled: "What if your Dreams Change?"

♦ About Soultiply

♦ Myers-Briggs Personality Test (I'm an INFJ - which stands for Introverted Intuitive Feeling Judging...the description is eerily accurate!)

♦ Download free Goal Setting Tools & Resources from the Soultiply Library! 

Share your goal setting journey with me!

♦ Follow Soultiply on Instagram

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♦ Feel free to ask me a question or shoot me a note through email

♦ Subscribe to the podcast through iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher or Spotify!