True lights of life

Quitting is not always wrong

2020-08-24T13:48:00.004+05:30

We always considering Quitting as a failure or looser. Because we grew up as listening and understanding like this. Sometimes, we considered it as losing confidence, Fear, Discomfort, and Unrealistic Experiences and there are other people also, who take it as a negative attribute.

However, you cannot consider quitting as a right or wrong decision until you get to know about the reason behind it. Definitely, if you are quitting because of Fear, and Past Experiences, then it is wrong. But sometimes when you are not getting interested in particular work or might be that work would not right for you, then quitting is correct.

Everyone knows that making a decision that you want to quit by your own reasons is tough. Probably, If you are making such a decision for the right thing is appropriate and make sure your risks are worth it.

When we are about to quit, we decide to begin something. Everyone teaches us,'' Not Giving Up.'' They say It's okay If you will fail, but at least try it. But why we invest our time, where our soul and mind are not ready to do it.

There is so many super Successful Entrepreneur like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, & Mark Zukerberg, who dropped out of college and later become successful. Let's take the example of Steve Jobs. His love for Machine and dedication to study only in that particular field makes him successful.

He never enjoyed school. He went to college but dropped out after Ist semester. After dropping he continued attending the classes in which he is interested.

Consequently, Mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gates both are very good at academics but as their interest in Programming and Computers respectively. They work hard and focus on that field and became successful.

When you have Passion and want success in it, you must have the Willingness, Hardwork & Determination.

Further, Quitting doesn't mean giving up. It's just that you move your attention and learning on something more valuable for you.

Sometimes, the idea of Quitting comes in our mind when we believe that there is another important thing which we have to do first, but it doesn't mean that the rest of the things are not important. At that time, might be your first priority is to do that work only. Like, there are only 24 hours in a day and sometimes, we have lots of work to do and that's why we quit one or two work.

Moreover, when it comes to quitting or switching jobs. Most people take it as a negative attribute, as it is the only way of earning. And if there is no job, there is no earning. In fact, they are not wrong as it is the only way to grow up financially.

Quit when you have passion, when you willingly want to achieve it, or when you believe in yourself.

What Should We Pay The Most Attention ?

2020-08-20T21:59:00.001+05:30

When it comes to paying attention. Most of the people already ruin their minds by thinking of irreverent matters, that doesn't benefit them even later it makes noise. Apart from working and earning money, we kept our mind very busy by focusing on useless things.

We are giving so much power to the outside world by paying attention to the small things. We easily influence by thinking what another person thinks about us. Actually, we give our emotion's key to another person.

If someone praises our qualities, we think that no one is better than us, and if someone disappoints us, we spend our whole day thinking about why he/she said this to us.

We give way to ourselves to the outside world so much that we forget what we are and what else we can do. We are making ourselves foolish by paying attention to other's perceptions, and that's how we lose our ability to think and grow.

Moreover, there are lots of things where we need to pay attention like, to our family, friends, our work as they provide lessons, care, understanding, & encouragement to us. In short, we should give bearing attention from where our growth and development can happen, not the place where we can be stressed, & make our life miserable.

Sometimes, after making a mistake, the realization happens that we made a mistake, then we waste all our time only thinking about that. We need to understand that no one is perfect. Everybody makes mistakes, maybe you are hurtful or not attentive.

Another reason for paying attention to the wrong place is when you feel alone or when you want love & support from your loved ones, but you are not getting. Do not take these things seriously, try to find positiveness in every matter, it actually makes you feel happy. Therefore, spend time with your loved ones and always remember no one makes happy or sad, but you can do it yourself.

Sometimes either we give attention to what people say to us or say to others. This can happen when you are not in the right circle. We are here to live our life fullest. So, try to fill it with the best experiences & best memories.

Pay attention to the people who have a unique talent or from where you can learn something. We all learn from each other. Take every matter as an opportunity to boost your energy, uplift your confidence and growth.

Thinking about the people, who do not even care about you is a full waste of time & energy. Secondly, you are making your mind weak by thinking about these things. At last, Do more rather than thinking or listening.

Everything Changes With Time

2020-08-19T16:41:00.003+05:30

We are not what we were before. Our food, fashion, lifestyle, from infancy to adultness, from schools to colleges, & then a job, everything has changed. We can't expect anything to remain unchanged. Even our body, friends, family, plants, and animals change with time. We have to adjust ourselves to them.

Some changes are good and some are bad, but it could not last forever. we don't see our hairs, nails, plants & animals are growing. We assumed and feel them. Consequently, life is uncertain, it has changed and it will change with time. Either it may be natural or due to human activity.

However, most people do not want changes in their life. If they are happy, they want to remain happy. Obviously, everyone wants that but when circumstances are not well then you have to understand that it will change too. Most people give stress to themselves because they think that they are going to live their whole life like that.

Sometimes, we cannot control the changes that happen in life. We have to adjust ourselves in every circumstance as it is good for our growth and development. Like, changes in young children's life begin when they are sent to school. Most of the time they are not ready to go to school, as it is good for their development they have to adjust to them. A plant needs sunlight and water to grow. If for weeks or months they either get sunlight or water, then do they grow well? Obviously, Not.

Changes may be slow or fast. As a living being, plant, and human both have to adjust themselves throughout life.

Further, Changes may also positive or negative. Sometimes it happens randomly or due to our activities. we need to look for an opportunity to work with positive change and handle the negative changes.

Nowadays, When it comes to bad changes. People become stressed half of their life and the rest half of their life spent by living in the past. They need to understand that, whatever happens, has to happen you cannot stick in one direction. Forget about the past and future, learn to live at present and that is the best way to cure any situation.

It is neither about letting go nor about grasping in the first place. It's just that we need to be adaptable to the changing nature of reality.

Always remember, '' EVERY CLOUD HAS A SILVER LINING.''

Does Silence Affects The Brain ?

2020-08-18T22:57:00.000+05:30

The World has become noisier than it already is and there are lots of Rush in social media or in our daily activities. We are surrounded by a lot of information that, if we ever try to remember them, we cannot remember for long.

Have you ever felt that you should go to a place where there is peace? Generally, those people who stay in a noisy environment tend to get stressed quickly and that's why they lose concentration in their actions.

However, Most people relax their Brain and body by listening to music, even then if they stop the song their brain does not calm, it retrieving the lyrics by creating an illusion of sound.

It is not possible that your brain completely turns off. It's just that, if your mind is peaceful, it will focus on the sound that comes inside your brain and when it is in rush, it will focus on the external noise around your surroundings.

As everything around us is so noisy & louder. Many of us seeking silence. Few listen to music to quiet our minds, few spend time themselves, and there are few others, who like to spend time with nature.

When our Brain is in silence. It relieves stress and tension, motivates you to perform better at work, and helps you to increase your concentration level. On the other hand, when your mind is not peaceful, means when a lot is going in your mind, the power to listen and understand becomes weak.

According to research, Noise pollution creates many health problems like, increase blood pressure, sleep loss, & heart disease.

Consequently, sometimes it is better to take a break from your work, and other activities and make your mind calm, as it enhances your creativity, thinking power, create awareness of self and environment, and ability to solve problems.

Why it is Difficult to get out of the Comfort Zone ?

2020-08-17T20:23:00.004+05:30

At an early age, we decide to achieve big dreams. At that time, we are not aware of how much failure or success that we can face. But soon when the time is right, we have to work hard to achieve our dreams, then we ignore them and make excuses. Because first, it needs lots of hard work, Secondly you don't need to be asked to do only those things in which you are skilled.

If we want to grow in our life & career. There must be the development of our skills. We only like to do those things in which we are comfortable or we are skilled at.

After Graduation, you can get a job and do your job happily, but sitting at only one place and doing work every day without any development doesn't make sense. It actually blocks your skills which means you are not able to think differently. We always want to perform better than the people who are around us and that will be possible if we will do something which is beyond our comfort zone.

No Doubt, Sitting in one place and doing work, maybe comfortable and many people don't want to leave it, but it keeps you from growing.

Comfort Zone is a routine that acquires minimum risk & stress. Obviously, everyone wants to be in that kind of zone where you feel relaxed.

Within your comfort zone, everything seems to ease.

At the same time, we also know which thing we can't do and we not even try to do those things. Maybe because we are afraid of failure or we don't want to take a risk.

People like Bill Gates and Steve Jobs are successful because they did something which is beyond their comfort zone. They get out of their comfort zone, take risks & willingly do the things to go after dreams.

Therefore, to do something that makes you different in thousand of people only happen when you kill you fear of not trying.

Whenever there is a Guest lecture in schools or colleges. The guest who used to come to give a guest lecture, When he/she ask questions, sometimes we would know the answer, but we did not answer. Because we are afraid of being asked again.

Sometimes, we miss the opportunity to gain new skills because we are not challenging ourselves. we don't want to take anxiety or stress related to our growth and development.

Moreover, the work that gives stress, we try to complete it in several ways. We expand our minds, push our boundaries just to make it finish. Sometimes little stress doesn' t harm us, in fact, it develops our skills.

Well, as it is clear that for the growth and development of our career and life. We have to break our comfort zone by trying new things every day. Definitely, it is not easy to try new things, taking risks but it is not impossible at the same time.

Does Intuition Help Us To make Better Decisions ?

2020-08-16T19:57:00.000+05:30

As we are thinking all the time. There are lots of good and bad ideas that arise in our minds. Sometimes we feel like, we should share these ideas with others or ask others about what to do next. In short, we are confused, whether to do it or not. We have uncertainty that, what if these ideas didn't work? The more you think different ideas, the less clarity you had.

There are some decisions, where we want to share it with anyone, who at least listen & help us to tell which direction is best. Probably, that doesn't work all the time, you may face failure or may get success.

Therefore, it's better to listen to the sound of soul '' Intuition'' and later, if we face failure, let's blame ourselves.

In most of the decisions, our mind tries to tell us which one is best, sometimes we feel them and do accordingly but, sometimes we ignore them, or maybe our inattentive nature not allow us to listen to them.

Moreover, in our everyday surroundings, there are lots of intuition that come in our mind. Like, Have you ever felt, that someone is staring at you & when you turn around, there is actually someone. Have you ever think that this is not right, it will not work and later on, it actually didn't work.

These are intuitions. You feel them and share with others because you believe that it could happen. Therefore, in several situations, intuition helps us to make decisions.

Now, there are few questions arise like Where, How, and Why these intuitions came from? Should we trust them or avoid them?

Intuition is a feeling that arises suddenly in many forms. Sometimes, we referred them as- Not feeling well, or according to some belief few people think that if there foot or hand is shivering, or if their eye is twitching then, there may be chances of something happening. It is more of a feeling than facts and figures.

Furthermore, The more experienced a person is, the more he/she can observe & recognize something. Have you notice that our grandparents are more experienced and seen more world than us. Therefore, their intuition or Gut feeling is more powerful. We are not born with an equal level of intuition. It came from experience & keep developing as we go through life.

According to researchers, Intuition is a powerful feeling & gives more confidence that helps us to make better decisions.

But you should not rely on them, sometimes it may wrong. So, consider some facts & figures while making any decisions by knowing the limits of intuition that when to rely on it, and when not to.

Learn How to be Extrovert!

2020-08-15T19:14:00.000+05:30

A Person who is confident, active, love the Social Environment and prefer to be with other people. These kinds of people are dynamic & friendly. Such type of people is called extrovert personality. We all want to be that kind of person. Right? But have we ever thought that we should also be such a person?

Did you ever notice that when you go to a restaurant or club what are the things that attract you or forces you to visit there again? Obviously, the food, the services, the restaurant design, and the development concept but along with these the behavior of staff towards you like how they talk to you, how they treat you as a guest. In short, their friendly nature that takes you there again.

Extrovert does not mean that you need to talk all the time, whether it is relevant or irrelevant. It means that you must aware of what is happening around you, How you respond to a particular situation.

Let's take an example, After the age of nineteen or twenty we became eligible for an interview, we have a list of degrees in our resume that helps us to get a job, both the interviewer and the interviewee have some expectation with each other, the interviewer wants such candidate who can fulfill the needs of their company and the candidate expect that he should be hired.

Nowadays, Interview is very common. A 3rd or 4th standard of the student also goes through the interview process, but here the objective of the teacher is to know about child interest, how he/she respond to the questions, mostly to know that how extrovert the child is.

Further, when you go out of your comfort zone, your mind tends to gain some experience, inspiration, and excitement that later help you to find out the qualities you have.

Extrovert nature doesn't come from birth. You have to develop this quality by reading newspapers, novels, or whatever you like to read because when you know about something you can speak in front of others. These individuals can be a leader while working in a group or a team and best suited for jobs that required a great deal of interaction.

An extrovert is more likely to be happy, positive, and sociable. Therefore, the more you extrovert, the more you are adaptable in any situation.

What We Need To Grow ?

2020-08-14T16:53:00.000+05:30

When we think something about growing, the Plants and trees strike in our mind first. Right? As plants need care, so does human. Even so, one more thing that, all the living beings need to grow is - Love and support.

I remembered I had a classmate in schooltime, who was an average student. Most of the time he gained B grade sometimes even C too. He was very good at activities but an average student when it comes to studying. He talked too much. Most of the time he was talking and disturbing others while the teacher was giving instruction. He and the other who was a part of gossiping with him knew that it wasn't helpful but as they were habitual even then they used to talk. So, the teacher always complains to his parents that he neither falls himself nor lets others read.

One day, our English Teacher was on medical leave. So, in her place, a young substitute arrived- who was a sports teacher at our school. As we were no more interested in the lecture so he took us to the playground and ask us to run and play any sports which we like to play. All of us played basketball together and I still remembered that was the best thing of the day. In the end, we came to know that, the average student of our class was no more average in sports even he was the champion. Our Sports teacher was very happy with him. He appreciates him a lot and tells other teachers how he played. Later, he becomes the sports captain of our school, and soon after when he received constant appreciation in sports, he gradually became good at studies.

I personally feel that day or that substitution lecture will be a life-changing experience for him as he was not an average but a good sportsman.

Reson behind sharing this story is- Change happens in a moment, it doesn't take time. What we all need is Appreciation, Love & Support to grow better.

When someone is truly appreciating you or supporting you. Your strength, Worth, and Dignity forces you to do better. Things become easier for us when someone is willing to help us throughout the process. True agent of change is love and support. The more you spread love, the happier you will be.

Why patience is so Important?

2020-08-13T21:09:00.002+05:30

Nowadays, People became frustrate easily over minor things like as if their vehicle is not starting, if their meal is just a few minutes late if, they stuck in the traffic jam and many more like that. we always suggest people be patient but did we ever live in patience. It is very easy to say other you must have patience but, when it comes to our situation we forget it. You cannot get everything in life easily. There are lots of books about great people in which they teach us how to get success by keeping patience.

Patience does not give you success directly even it teaches you lots of things that help you to reach your desire goal. When you forget to maintain patience you became irritated over silly things that bother you later.

If things are not going the way you want them to, rather then leaving those things, you must think about how can you resolve it, what else can you do to accomplish that.

Sometime it may happen that if things are not going according to you, might be you are forgetting something without that you cannot complete it. Take every failure as an opportunity to do better. It never disappoints you even you will be a different version of yours as you were before.

Having patience not only important in work but in a relationship too. Like between family, friends, employees, and partner. You never know when the situation arises & you have to be patient. Maintaining patience can help to coordinate in your relationship.

The skill of patience is not hard to develop, Once it is developed, it will help you throughout your life. It will reduce stress as people are taking stress very quickly over minor things. We all know that success doesn't come overnight. It definitely took time, but when you achieve success in the end, then you must have learned a lot, which will always be useful for you.

When we need physical fitness, it needs lots of hard work, sweat that you have to go through every day. You cannot get a result in days or weeks, if you really want to see the changes in your body, then you have to do workout for a month or a year. It means you need patience along with hard work.

If you forget to maintain patience, remember the patience level of the Bird and an Ant that how they build their house, just see the nature around you, there is a lot to learn from them. Take a little time for yourself & explore your abilities.

How to build good relationship with other ?

2020-08-07T23:42:00.003+05:30

Our minds generate what we impress upon it. Your thought cannot tell about the other person even it tells about yourself. In this world, no one is born with good or bad qualities. It's our emotions that we convey just as the situation and later it becomes our good or bad qualities. I believe the word good or bad rises based on other's perceptions. Your quality will be different for different people. Might be what you feel good about you another person does not feel the same. We should set the same boundaries that we can apply ourselves.

I remembered once I met a lady. A lady who was always polite & courteous in front of others but when their back turns she started backbiting. There was certain pomposity in her way of speaking where I found that she feels that the people around her have a certain problem with her. According to her, she was always right. This attitude of her made her angry day by day & she was the only one who was suffering as she started spending time alone. 
Our one hour of conversation made me realize that the problem was with her way of thinking that arises because of some family issues of her. I told her that we have no one to blame and no one to change but ourselves.
 If you grow a seed, and if you want it to grow well, then you will have to take care of it in the same way as you want the result. A Dog just like any other species has acquired the ability to understand & communicate with humans. If you behave well with the dog, then it will also behave well with you but if you behave rudely might be it will barks at you or bite you. Everyone wants to feel important. 
The more love & goodwill you flow, the more comes back to you.
 Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis & one of the most important figures in the history of psychology, said that unless the personality has love, it sickens & dies.
 Just like animals if you spread love towards your friends, family, or the people around you they will also think of talking to you well, no matter how angry they are.
 Furthermore, another important thing is that no one can annoy you or make you sad or angry until you permit them to do so. Treat people in a way as you want to be treated by others. Possibly there may be few people whose chaotic conditions made them so. They should be treated well just like any other happy person. May be your understanding behavior help them to get out of their conditions.

How to Correct Other's mistake wisely ?

2020-07-28T17:43:00.000+05:30

It is a bitter truth that when someone told us about our mistake then instead of accepting it we try to convince another person that how we are right. We become habitual of thinking that whatever we do is correct in some or other way. We only know about things when we do it.

Some people do things based on their intuition which is not right in all the cases but if you do things logically it will be right in all manner. Even the great Indian yogi and author Jaggi Vasudev, known publicly as Sadhguru said,'' you should be logical rather than intuitive''.

Remember, Another person might be wrong but they will never accept. You can tell them that Wisely that how they are wrong. Here, all the matter belongs to the politeness because anything on this earth gets easily attracted towards politeness.

Nowadays no one wants to listen to others perspective but if you talk to others as they want they will more likely to agree with you and do things correctly.

It has been seen that some parents lack this quality as whenever their child did some mistake they start scolding them without even ask about the matter. Being a parent or anybody you should try to put yourself in that place. Think like what you do when you will be in their shoe. How would you feel? By doing this you will grow a good healthy relationship between you and the other person.

Commonly, we sometimes make mistakes either because of not being aware of a particular thing or maybe when luck doesn't support. In such a case when you put all your effort towards your desire & still fail to achieve it. Then you find it difficult to accept your mistake.

In that situation, a person like who encourages you, understands your point of view, helps you to solve the issue is needed rather than a person who continuously discouraging you.

I personally feel that the only thing which you can give to someone else that is more valuable and precious is courage.

Always give Suggestions not orders!

2020-07-16T12:29:00.000+05:30

If I ask you How many time you gave suggestions and orders to someone else and Did they get interested in taking your suggestion and orders. Possibly many of them will be from those who would like to take suggestions instead of orders.

Once I remembered when I was in school. we were a group of five students. So we were doing decoration for the art exhibition. After two hours of decoration, two teachers came to us and one of them said that u have mistaken the decoration Remove this, Do that in this way, on the other hand, another teacher told us the same thing in a different manner and we are more likely to listen to her as she was not forcing her ideas on us.

If you give suggestions to someone else they will more likely to take it in a better way on the other hand when people are ordered they refuse to do it by putting their ego first. Suggestion doesn't mean that you should force your ideas on someone else, it is just that let other people allowed doing things themselves, let them learn from their mistakes.

People are more likely to accept the orders when they are involved in the decision. Hearing suggestion from others make you think about the idea once or twice but hearing order from others maybe make you egoistic.

Another important thing is that, Along with giving the suggestion, you must ask for a question like what they want, How they want it to be done. It actually generates a good conversation between you and another person to whom you are talking. It also makes you change people's minds without giving offense. Now we all know that everyone has skills they want it to implement according to them. A technique like encouraging them with their ideas, give them a suggestion which will force them to think once, makes both of you get happiness.

Why you should Always Begin with Praise?

2020-07-05T17:46:00.000+05:30

It becomes easy for you to accept your mistakes after being praised by another person. A Barber spray your hair with water before cutting; that is precisely what my teacher did back when I and my friend were in college. We both had prepared a dance for college function. Few other students had also participated.

Therefore, we all asked to give the auditions of what we have prepared. When our turn came, we showed our performance to the teacher. Despite being bored by seeing a lot of many performances, one of the teachers chose to give us advice very politely. So, there must be something left that's why she called both of us and said very politely that you need to change your song your dance steps were nice but it is not going with the song. I must consider you to practice again, she said. The reason for sharing this story with you is that when our mistakes are praised in the form of correctness we are more likely to do it in a better way.

Praising is something that makes another person think about a task that they left-back.

Sometimes sincere praise brightens our day. When we get a simple appreciation of our efforts, it changes our minds or attitude towards that particular thing. It also acts as motivation & learning to complete any task.

Praising is a lot like a child want a toy. Remember, when you teach a mathematics problem to your child. Might be it is not possible for your child to solve that question immediately. Your child will definitely take some time, do lots of mistakes but as you are the teacher, it is you who can help him/her by praising their quality.

Additionally, when we receive any compliment of what we have done, our mind gets a signal of doing it again. If someone is not able to finish their task properly it is fine not to compliment but not to criticize for the same simultaneously.

It is scientifically proven that praising can inspire people's minds to do better. Therefore not only for big achievements but also for simple things start praising others. When you praised for new learning it improves the creativity of your mind & helps you to remember it for long.

How to make other person feel important ?

2020-06-21T19:21:00.003+05:30

I was waiting in the queue to deposit some amount of money. There I noticed that the lady employe who was handling this work appeared to be bored & stressed with her job. Then I thought about what I can do to make her feel important. It has been half an hour standing in the queue. I was still thinking about what to do. Obviously, for strangers, it is difficult to admire because we don't know their quality. 

So, when finally my turn came I watched her carefully and remarked happily, I wish I had your beautiful eyes. The moment I admire her she looked up & her face glare with a smile & said many people have admired my eyes. As she was doing her job so we didn't talk more but I am happy that we end up with a  good little conversation. 

Now you are wondering why I did this to her she is neither my relative nor my friend. Sometimes when you praise someone you are actually giving them happiness. This step of yours can make someone happy all day long. You will lose nothing in fact you will also be happy all day.

Further, I am definitely sure that the lady employ will actually be praising herself by looking into a mirror or might be sharing this with someone. If we do something like that without being asked to do anything in return, it brings us constant happiness and helps us to know about other qualities and learn from them. 

Human beings are made up of this. We want the approval of those with whom we are living but if we get it from another person it really makes us feel important. Perhaps,
 you really do well when you receive true approval of your worth. In fact, it motivates you to perform ahead in the future.  

                Those who demean others only disrespect themselves.

                                                                                   - D.B. Harrop

How to make Good Impression?

2020-06-20T17:30:00.002+05:30

An Expression of smiling that one wears on his/her face is far better than the makeup & clothes that they wear. Your positive behavior or smiling face encourages people to talk with you.

A shopkeeper without wearing a smile on his/ her face can't attract the customers to visit their shop.

Another, the receptionist in any company, malls, schools & hospitals treats their customers with a smiling face even they are the first employee that the public or customer has contact with.

Therefore, for them, a joyful face is necessary. Whenever you talk with another person forget all the problems of your life try to talk nicely with them, listen to their viewpoints.

Further, A sales person's job is to sell their products or services. If they will talk to their customers by smiling they are more likely to attract customer's attention towards their product or services. A person who tends to show this quality generally sells more and can handle any situation efficiently.

Once, I remembered our professor shares this story with us that when he went to the company for the inauguration ceremony. He said the moment I entered there I feel such a refreshing or warming environment that attracts me towards them in just a few seconds. Reason being, the attitude of the employees & their boss towards each other. They all were working together pleasantly. Even they greeted me so nicely, which eventually attracts me towards them, He adds. The reason for sharing this story with you is that, if u have a good nature then you can benefit a lot.

Action speaks more than words. Will, you just recall how a dog shakes its tail by seeing human beings. Even sometimes they almost jump on our bodies. They do so because they are glad and ever make us glad to see them. A small baby attracts us towards them by just smiling or sometimes not even smiling but we feel joyful while we are with them. The reason is that they have the purest smile. Perhaps, Your smile comes out through in your voice which makes another person talk with you nicely.

Further, if you are happy in your inner soul you became able to treat people nicely and in time able to make a good impression. No matter who you are, What you are doing until you are not aware of your good thought you cannot become happy or unhappy.

''There is nothing good or bad, said Shakespeare but thinking makes it so''.

Your one smile either makes your day or makes someone else's.

It doesn't cost you anything but you get a lot.

What are the Measure of True success ?

2020-06-13T13:00:00.000+05:30

A Peace of joy, Harmony, Happiness, & enjoyment is all termed as a success. These all come from the deep-self of the human being. Someone may be seen successful by obtaining Fraud money. This kind of success does not stay for a long time. Our inner soul refuses to accept the happiness that comes from this kind of work.

Whatever our thoughts and ideas, if we believe in them we desperately want to create it. Even some thoughts may bring a disturbance in our minds. We have to be aware of it, which thoughts give us peace & harmony. Possibly you can be successful for another person, but unless and until you do not acquire the peace & joy in your mind you won't believe that you are successful.

Therefore, to create peace of joy & harmony in your inner-self you should start doing the work that interests you or that you love to do. If you do not love your work you cannot gain desireful success. For example, A craftsman's love for their work can be seen in the thing that they made, how beautifully they transform a simple material into a precious one.

Another Most important thing is that your work should not be selfish. you must be sure about it that your work should not lead any harm to anyone. If you are not contributing your work for others that's fine but make sure your work should not be unfavorable for others.

One more thing in a way to get true success is that you must have 2P (Passion & Patience) Passion is that work which you love to do. And the patience that gives you Experience, ability to control anger, Teach you how to handle any situation.

If you make yourself calm in front of any situation you can face any challenge. There are a lot of activities done in reputed companies to check or built the patience level. The more Patience you have, the more you survive.

At last but not least True success only comes from the inner soul. A successful person has qualities of satisfaction & understanding. Your love for your work makes you happy not only in the eye of the world but in your own eye too.

Tips to Remove Mental Blocks !

2020-06-07T16:00:00.004+05:30

We are habitual of thinking all the time that's why our mind is filled with a lot many things. We form a habit pattern in our minds by continuously thinking about any matter. But we forget that this habit became an obstacle to achieve success.

Problems arise in everyone's life with a definite solution. We have to follow the urgings of mind in a way to solve the problems. we should build our attitude in such a way so that it will bring peace, harmony & confidence in our life.

You have a genuine desire to overcome a mental block in your life. If you are not clear with the origin of a problem you cannot solve it.

Further, In a way to deal with problems, you must possess sincerity. If you do so, you already healed 50% of it and for the rest of it, you have to make the right decisions.

Another thing is that your peace of mind & inner calm should be balanced. If you really want to get out of any situation then it doesn't matter for you that how you have been treated. you must know about What you are & what you can do.

Also, another essential thing that you need to cure any problem is Desire. A drunkard person never leaves his habit of drinking until he didn't aware of the bad effect of it and desires to leave it. Many people remain, alcoholics because they deny admitting their problems. Therefore, if you want to cure problems that you are facing your desire to solve must be there.

At last, your ideas and thought must be clear and make sure it is not unfavorable for others because the other obstacle that you can face in reducing mental blocks is your own thoughts and ideas.

How to Transform Desire into Reality?

2020-06-06T16:30:00.003+05:30

Whenever our mind accepts an idea it immediately tries to execute. It uses all the possibilities which help them to reach the end. If you use your mind structurally, it brings freedom, confidence, peace, and courage consequently if you use your mind negatively it brings failure, depression, and confusion.

 Most of the religious people believe that prayer does work in the leading success they think prayer often works in every situation. I believe prayer means trust & confidence that you must know about. Trust and confidence is the key to achieve success even when you go for an interview the experts see your confidence and of course your trust in that company where you want to get hired.

 However, there are other people too who believe that  Hardwork is the right way to get success. I think which is not wrong hard work makes you more powerful along with your confidence.  Working hard does not lead the way you want until you have confidence and trust. Therefore, it is obvious that you must have confidence & hard work too to transform desire into reality.

Further, that is not enough in achieving the success you must have one more quality i.e.,  accepting the ideas &thoughts. To build the confidence you must accept the ideas. No matter how rich or poor you are, until you didn't have the ideas, and confidence in yourself you can't get the result you want.

The Bible says,

             ''Whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing ye shall receive.''

You must have a clear-cut idea in your mind when we think to do too much we can't even do 50% of it. So, when you make a clear idea in your mind, your mind works according to it. 

Another quality you must possess in a way to get success is imagination a positive imagination. For example why A child afraid of riding a bicycle because he/ she imagine themself that they will fall and they actually fall when they ride a bicycle because their fear of falling would keep them from being able to do it. A girl would not able to achieve the Miss universe tag if she imagines herself weak from others. You will never achieve the trophy if you imagine yourself being falling in the mid of a race. Imagination is the most powerful motivation to get success. Remember, what you just imagine now, you will become later.

Best Way to Avoid Making Enemies

2020-06-04T23:38:00.001+05:30

our interpretation decides other's character right? These days no-one wants to listen to other perspectives even if they are right. Unexpectedly if they do listen other's perspective then they didn't accept it because somewhere they think that why we go with other's suggestion when we stand by ourself and then the argument arises between them.

Even if you think that you are wrong. Isn't it? it is a better way to accept it by saying I may be wrong. you will never get into conflicts by acknowledging that you may be wrong. That will stop all arguments & influence another person to be open and liberal as you are. And possibly it will make him admit that he/she, too wrong.

 Most citizens don't want to change their minds maybe they are blighted with jealously, fear, pride & intuition. Therefore if you disposed to tell them that they are wrong maybe they loose tempered and fight with you.

we like to continue to believe what we have been habitual to accept as true. Right? Further, Never get down to prove by announcing. sometimes it is better to don't even share the ideas. If you're going to prove it to anybody, don't let others know about it. Do it so adroitly that no one feels that you are doing it. 

As Lord Chesterfield said to his son :

         Be Wiser than other people if you can, but do not tell them so

Therefore, if you can't be sure of being right even 50% of why should you tell the others that they are wrong.

Make the thing seem easy to do!

2020-06-04T23:34:00.000+05:30

It is right that everything in this world would not easy to do but at the same time, it is not difficult to try at least. we always afraid of taking risks maybe we thought that mistakes cannot be improved easily. Actually, it is we, who makes the thing easy or difficult right! Every mistake teaches us something new in our lives and helps us to raise confidence. The more you suffer, the higher you achieve.

Some people really became insane when they did a mistake. Remember, A successful

businessman runs his business efficiently only by handling the situation precisely. Also, A businessman called successful only when he has the ability to inspired and gave courage & confidence to his employes not when he acts as dumb or stupid at certain things.

If you tell your partners, child, employes that they are nothing, they are stupid you will see the bad effect of it contrarily if you will do just opposite of it i.e., making thing easy for them or let them believe that you have trust on their ability then they will definitely practice until they didn't reach their destination. A mathematics question maybe seems tough for a child and he/she refuses to do it and say it is difficult however if you teach your child in an easy or a funny way just then when he made a small improvement he would ask to do it again. We all should learn the art of learning pleasantly.

If you want to read a novel but you think it is too lengthy, it takes too much time then makes it easy to read make a habit of reading five-page per day. once you found learning is easy your whole life will be changed.

How to Encourage people?

2020-06-02T16:33:00.000+05:30

We can put our thoughts on anybody by pointing the gun on his/ her neck or maybe by threatening them. But Is it a correct way to deal or to behave with others. No right? I think the only way to get anybody to do anything is by giving them what they want. Dr. Dewey said that'' the intense wish in human nature is desire. The desire of feeling to be important''.

When a child is appreciated for his/her performance in the race and rewarded that time the feeling of importance in their heart & mind motivates them to perform better on the other hand if for the same race the animal would reward maybe it didn't care about the prize they had won. The desire to be appreciated is not the same for humankind and for the animal maybe we learned it from our ancestors and I think it is a great way to develop civilization.

Some authorities say that people will really become insane when they didn't find the appreciation, and the appreciation should be honest not flattery. Also, what kind of appreciation you are getting shows your character if you are getting the right kind of appreciation for your work & accept it your attitude will be different from others and that ability spread enthusiasm among others around you and you can deal better with people. At the beginning of this lesson, there is a line - you can put your thoughts on others by threatening them therefore instead of that use the ability to encourage them this will help you to get what you want but what some people do if they don't like a thing, they will criticize it like anything even so if they like a thing they say it is nothing.

These days we nourish the body of our children we gave them all the luxuries which their body needs to develop however we forget to give them the words of appreciation that's why most of the children are depressed, they feel that they are nothing somewhere we forget to praise our children when he/she scores well in exams. we fail to encourage our children when they make treehouse to play.

Nothing can motivate the children then this kind of appreciation. The lecturer in your college, the employes in your office, and Youtuber or a blogger knows well how their audience's appreciation motivates them for doing better. Let's try to find out another person's good quality. Give them an honest sincere appreciation for their work.

How to Win an Argument ?

2020-05-31T15:35:00.000+05:30

Add caption

We all grow up with the bundle of arguments, first when we are not even born, that time the argument of our parents that whether our child would be a boy or a girl then later when we born that time the argument of our clothes, toys, in which school our child will take admission. From our birth to till our death there are lots of arguments that everybody faces but Did we think before that how to win an argument? obviously, when we are a child it is not possible for us to win an argument but later at a certain age we all are capable of handling the situation.

Add caption

Once I remembered when I was in a school and my four other friends were a notorious group of our class. we all were scolded by teachers. One day I did some mischief things to my teacher later I get to know that teacher will definitely call my parent so I apologize to my teacher and start saying the derogatory things which I know my teacher is thinking or wants to intend. Immediately, the teacher started to defends me by saying ''yes you're right but after all you are a child you will definitely do naughty things. But you should take care of your limits she says politely.

Therefore, if you start accepting your faults, mistakes by saying all these things to the other person before that person has a chance to say them then the chances are less for arguing and the other person's forgiving attitude will be taken and your mistakes will be minimized. so if you are wrong start admitting it rather then defending yourself because at a certain point you know where are wrong. keep your ego aside and start admitting your mistakes. It not only clear the dirt of guilt and shieldings but frequently helps to solve the problems.

What is it that Heals you ?

2020-04-11T12:40:00.002+05:30

Add caption

What is it that heals you? This is an essential question that arises for the deep concern to all of us and the answer is: your own mind, Nothing can cure you Better except your own mind. The healing power is in the mind of every person. Some people believe that you can heal yourself either by the guidance of some doctor or some priest though that's not true no one can help you if you don't help yourself. you cannot gain this power in any other place; it is within you which you have to look into it. You should rest your mind, and think about the presence of healing within you.

Add caption

Moreover, there are many different techniques & method but there is only one process of healing which is faith. If your faith is as powerful as you want to achieve some big in life no one can stop you from attaining it. your mind is the only thing that either motivate you or demotivate you so, Imagine the end desired & feel its reality.

Furthermore, prayer therapy is the harmonious function that sometime referred as mental treatment. As you remain faithful in your ideas and thought your prayer will be answered. A person may be healed by religious method or maybe by instructions of the doctor, but anything that leads the patients to honestly believe in method will make a healing more fast.

Therefore, always faith in your ideas, thoughts or whatever you want to kick off in your life, then even later if you fail at least you have that immense healing power that can lift you up again because nothing can heal you better than yourself.

How Mind Work While asleep?

2020-04-08T12:42:00.006+05:30

We all heard that an adequate amount of sleep is essential for peace of mind & vitality in life. Improper sleep can cause vexations, depression & mental disorder, you need 7-8 hrs of sleep. A proper amount of sleep can help your mind as well as your body for proper functioning. It solves half of the problems that you are facing in your life.

Many people misunderstood that when we feel tired then only we need sleep for the relaxation of our mind & body but our mind didn't even relax in sleep all our vital organ functions while sleeping. The healing process works more rapidly when you asleep. Dr. John Bigelow, one of the earliest researchers, was able to show that while sleeping at night you receive a constant impression through the sensory nerves connected to the eyes, ears, nose & subcutaneous nerve.

Further, there are two kinds of people, one who sleeps all day and sleeping all-day makes your body slothful and you feel tired the rest of the day and another kind of person are those who believe that sleeping in a day and studies at night helps them more. These kinds of people may suffer from a

serious effect. Before going to sleep counsel your mind all the works which you want to do the next day. The wisdom of your mind instruct you & protect you if you pray for right action. And yes, sleep in peace helps you in several ways as you need peace while working so need your mind too.

Throughout the day, your mind is involved in strife, vexations, depression because we are habitual of thinking, so how to get peace while getting sleep as numbers of thought are running in your mind, all you need to do is just think about wisdom & positiveness. this will give you peace, eagerness, & confidence.

Understand the Nature of Mind

2020-03-31T00:03:00.002+05:30

Embarrassment, Excitement, guilt, and many other emotions are seen in all of us in a particular situation. Our mind has so many thoughts because we are habitual of thinking all the time. Whatever we think or thoughts that we possess it is the origin of our circumstances in which we are living.
some people believe that if they rectify their conditions they will be happy but they fail to know that the real problem is not with the conditions but within the cause i.e., with the thoughts. If you change your thoughts with a positive one you will definitely see the happiness around you.

Add caption

Further, some people always think about other people like, if I fail in particular work people will laugh at me, what other people think about me if I fail how I will handle the situation, and in reality, they face these types of problems. Generally, these types of people are not able to extend afar in life because of their own thoughts. Therefore, you are the one who sows a seed of the thoughts in your mind If you seed your mind with positive thoughts you grow more potential but if you do opposite to it your life will become full of depression and anxiety.

Although, We all are filled with a box of talent that we need to unlock it. We cannot find it in any other place or in any other person it is kept within us we need to look into the box and grab it. All our experiences, conditions, actions, events, act as per our thoughts. Stop accepting a false belief, belief in your capability, and truth of life. Fill your mind with the concept of harmony, goodwill, and peace and then see the difference in you by yourself.