There is a particular kind of confidence I have been thinking about lately.

The kind that has very little to do with how accomplished you are.

Because I know women who are incredibly capable. They lead teams, build businesses, raise children, manage households, make difficult decisions and show up for everyone around them.

But sometimes that confidence stops at the edge of their own lives.

It can be hard to say what you need. Hard to trust what you want. Hard to feel at home in your body when you have spent years noticing everything you would like to change. Hard to honor a boundary without explaining yourself. Hard to admit that something no longer feels right, even when some part of you has known for a while.

And I don't think that means anything is wrong with you.

I think sometimes we simply get so used to taking care of everything and everyone else that we stop paying attention to ourselves.

That is the space I created The Radiant Woman for.

It is a small, six-week experience for women who want to feel more connected to their bodies, their desires, their boundaries, their femininity and their own voice. Not because you need to become someone different, but because there may be parts of yourself you are ready to hear more clearly.

The first cohort reminded me how powerful that space can be. One woman described it as a “self-esteem booster.” Another said she felt “a little more confident when I walk into a room.” Another shared that she was beginning to embrace her body instead of constantly picking apart her insecurities.

Those are the shifts I care about.

Not becoming a perfect or more confident woman.

Becoming a woman who trusts herself a little more.

The next Radiant Woman cohort begins September 12, and I am keeping it intentionally small at no more than 10 women. I personally review every application and speak with each woman before she joins because the women in the room matter just as much as the work we will do together.

The Radiant Woman: A 6-Week Reclamation Journey

Know your body | Know what you want | Own how you show up

And if someone came to mind while reading this, send it to her. Sometimes we recognize something in another woman before she is ready to name it for herself.I can not wait to go on this journey with you!

Erica

PS: Early Bird has been extended to Sept. 3, 2026.

FAQs

Do I need to be single to participate?
No.

Do I need to be in a relationship?
No.

Is this a sex therapy or therapy program?
No. It is an intimacy coaching experience focused on confidence, body connection, desires, boundaries, consent and self-expression.

Will I have to talk about my sex life?
No. You choose what you share.

What if I've experienced trauma?
You are welcome. The program is designed to allow participants to engage at their own pace. You never have to share personal experiences you aren't comfortable discussing.

What if I'm married?
Absolutely. This work begins with your relationship with yourself, whether you're partnered or not.

What if I'm going through menopause or have had a hysterectomy?
You belong here. Your body and experiences may be different from other women's, and that's part of why the group conversation can be so valuable.

Do I have to be "confident" already?
No. That's one of the reasons you're here.

When does the Early Bird end?
Thursday, September 3, 2026.

How much does it costs?
The Collective: $749 | Early Bird $675 The Embodied Journey: Standard $1,149 | Early Bird $1,050 Includes two private 60-minute 1:1 coaching sessions.

There is a particular kind of woman I keep thinking about.

She is capable. She handles a lot. She shows up for work, family, relationships and everyone who needs her.

But somewhere in all of that, she may have stopped paying attention to herself.

Maybe she does not feel as confident in her body as she would like.

Maybe she knows she wants something different, but has a hard time putting words to it.

Maybe she has become so used to taking care of everyone else that her own wants keep getting moved to the bottom of the list.

Maybe she wants to feel more beautiful, more feminine, more comfortable being seen.

Or maybe she simply knows there is more of herself she wants to experience.

That is the woman I created The Radiant Woman for.

The Radiant Woman is a 6-week reclamation journey designed to help you know your body, know what you want and own how you show up.

Through honest conversation, reflection, practical exercises and community, we will explore body confidence, pleasure, boundaries, consent, desires and self-expression.

WHAT WE WILL EXPLORE

Week 1: Identity
How you see yourself and the qualities you are willing to recognize in yourself.

Week 2: The Body
Moving from constant evaluation toward greater awareness, respect and confidence.

Week 3: Pleasure Parts
Accurate information, myth-busting, body curiosity and your relationship with pleasure.

Week 4: Protection
Learning the difference between a boundary and control and practicing how to communicate limits clearly.

Week 5: Consent
Moving beyond a simple yes or no into mutual agreement, communication and the confidence to express what you like and do not like.

Week 6: Inner Child & Celebration
Honoring younger parts of yourself, recognizing your growth and deciding what you want to carry forward.

WHO IS THIS FOR?

First let me go ahead and say….

You do not need to be single.
You do not need to be dating.
You do not need to be married.
You do not need to already feel confident.

You can be a mother, a professional, celibate, newly divorced, happily partnered, single, dating, entering menopause, a virgin, navigating a new season of life or simply ready for something to feel different.

You are successful in many areas of your life, but do not feel as connected to yourself as you would like.

You have become more critical of your body than you want to be.

You want to feel beautiful, feminine, confident and comfortable being seen.

You know you have desires, but are not always sure how to name or express them.

You want better relationships and know that the relationship you have with yourself matters too.

You are navigating motherhood, marriage, divorce, dating, menopause, changing relationships or a new season of life.

You want to stop second-guessing yourself and become more comfortable making choices that feel right for you.

You just need to be a woman who is ready to stop simply getting through life and start experiencing more of it.

PS - Before you panic let me go ahead and put your mind at ease - you do not have to share anything you are not comfortable sharing. The beautiful thing about this journey is that we will meet one another where we are. Truly allowing space for the safety and connection of the community to evolve.

WHAT WOMEN SAID AFTER THE JOURNEY

“It was a self-esteem booster.”

“I feel a little more confident when I walk into a room.”

“I’m embracing my body more instead of constantly picking my insecurities apart.”

One participant also shared that the homework helped her slow down and think about what was happening in her mind and body and how it was affecting her life.

That is the kind of work we will continue in this cohort.

TWO WAYS TO JOIN

THE COLLECTIVE
Weekly live sessions up to 75 minutes
Weekly practices
Group support

Early Bird: $675 | GHS 3,750
Standard: $749 | GHS 4,500

THE EMBODIED JOURNEY
Everything in The Collective
Two private 60-minute 1:1 coaching sessions

Early Bird: $1,050 | GHS 5,500
Standard: $1,149 | GHS 6,750

PAYMENT OPTIONS

Early Bird: two payments, with the balance paid in full by August 26.
Standard: up to three equal payments.
The first payment is non-refundable.

A SMALL COHORT BY DESIGN

I am limiting this cohort to 10 women. That is intentional. I want enough room for conversation, reflection, questions and connection. I want to know the women in the room.

Applications are required. I will personally review every application and speak with each applicant before confirming her place.

The cohort begins Saturday, September 12. You will be able to select the most ideal time for you when you apply and we will go with the time that works the best for the cohort.

Applications are due September 7, but if you want the Early Bird rate, apply by August 26.

APPLY HERE

If you have been thinking, “I need something like this,” take that seriously.

You do not have to wait until you feel completely ready.

I can not wait to go on this journey with you!

Erica

FAQs

Do I need to be single to participate?
No.

Do I need to be in a relationship?
No.

Is this a sex therapy or therapy program?
No. It is an intimacy coaching experience focused on confidence, body connection, desires, boundaries, consent and self-expression.

Will I have to talk about my sex life?
No. You choose what you share.

What if I've experienced trauma?
You are welcome. The program is designed to allow participants to engage at their own pace. You never have to share personal experiences you aren't comfortable discussing.

What if I'm married?
Absolutely. This work begins with your relationship with yourself, whether you're partnered or not.

What if I'm going through menopause or have had a hysterectomy?
You belong here. Your body and experiences may be different from other women's, and that's part of why the group conversation can be so valuable.

Do I have to be "confident" already?
No. That's one of the reasons you're here.

When we're overwhelmed, we don't always look overwhelmed. Sometimes we look distracted. Sometimes we look completely unbothered. And sometimes it's less about how we look and all about how we react — visibly annoyed, irritated, explosive over the smallest things.

Pause and think about it.

Overwhelm isn't a mood. It's a nervous system state. Your body has quietly decided that the incoming is more than it can process, and it starts rationing. Presence gets expensive. Connection feels like one more thing to manage.

This is important to understand, because overwhelm doesn't announce itself politely. It shows up in the body first, and the mind catches up later — if at all.

What it looks like from the inside

Your tolerance shrinks. Things that usually feel fine start feeling like too much — touch, questions, eye contact, noise. You feel the urge to disappear into your phone, or into tasks, anything that doesn't ask more of you. Your chest tightens. Jaw clenches. Breath goes shallow without you noticing. Shoulders creep up toward your ears and stay there.

Any of this sounding familiar?

Emotionally, you might feel numb, snappy, or strangely sad without a clear reason. If you've felt this before, know that you aren't broken. Your nervous system has simply hit capacity. I like to think of it as a temporary shortage in the system — not a permanent malfunction.

What it looks like from the outside

From the outside this can easily feel like they’ve become less available without leaving the room. Answers get shorter, perhaps delivered with a sting. Physical affection either ramps up (seeking regulation) or drops off (avoiding stimulation). They might seem like they're somewhere else, even when they're right next to you. You might recognize this as dissociation.

This is not rejection. This is a nervous system asking for space.

What to carry with you

1. Overwhelm dysregulates before it communicates. By the time someone says "I need space," their body has been saying it for hours, days, weeks, months, or even years. Learning to read the earlier, quieter signals — in yourself and in your partner — changes everything. Trust your gut or your intuition. Stay attuned to yourself and your partner.

2. Proximity is not always intimacy. When someone is overwhelmed, pushing for closeness often increases the distance. What helps instead is softer presence — reducing demand, making room, letting the nervous system lead. This isn't shrinking, by the way. It's showing the person that no matter what's happening between you in this moment, you're still right there and you are not abandoning them. Instead you are sitting in the discomfort of it with them.

3. You cannot shame someone into coming back online. Overwhelm is not a character flaw. It's a physiological response. #ClockIt

What moves the needle is safety. Not urgency, not pressure, not a conversation that starts with "you always." This is the time for silent connection, not confrontation.

The goal isn't to never get overwhelmed. It's to recognize it early enough that you stop performing and start asking for what you actually need!

That's intimacy.

Especially when what you need is quiet, space, or time.

Always rooting for you,

Erica

Stories That Sound a Little Too Familiar

One of the fastest ways to understand yourself is to see yourself in someone else. And that is why I started The Love Lab SubStack. It’s a space where you can see yourself or those around you from the perspective of a fictional story around real life situations we find ourselves in. Most folks giving advice on Social Media about relationships only want to tell you what to do and that's not what this is. Every post: two perspectives, one situation, and the kind of insight that makes you go oh, that's what that was.

It's part mirror, part map. Subscribe if you're ready to look a little closer.

One of the questions I get asked most often is, "When is the right time to work with an intimacy or sex and relationship coach?"

My answer is usually the same.

… Long before you think you need one.

Most people don't come to coaching because they've fallen out of love. They come because they've been living with the same patterns for months or even years. The conversations keep ending the same way. They feel misunderstood. They miss feeling close to their partner. Or they've become so busy taking care of everyone else that they no longer recognize themselves.

The interesting thing is that very few people ignore these changes. Most people notice them and hope they'll resolve on their own.

We tell ourselves that things will get better after work slows down. After the children get older. After the vacation. After this busy season passes.

Sometimes they do. Yet, more often, they don't.

So instead, we slowly adjust to living with less connection, less affection, and fewer meaningful conversations. What once felt temporary begins to feel normal.

And honestly, I think that's one of the biggest misconceptions we have about relationships. We believe that love alone will sustain them.

Love is essential, by all means. But healthy relationships also require attention, curiosity, communication, and the willingness to grow together. They also require an ethic of repair.

Believe it or not the same is true for the relationship we have with ourselves.

Many of us are incredibly successful in other areas of our lives. We invest in our education, our careers, our health, and our finances because we understand those things require intention. Yet when it comes to our relationships, we often expect them to thrive without ever making the same investment.

Imagine deciding you wanted to run a marathon without training, or expecting your finances to improve without creating a plan. Most of us wouldn't do that. Yet that's often how we approach our closest relationships.

We wait. We hope. We promise ourselves we'll deal with it later.

Coaching creates the opportunity to choose a different path. It's a space to slow down, understand what's really happening beneath the surface, learn new ways of communicating, and reconnect with yourself and the people you love before disconnection becomes the norm.

Whether you're single, dating, married, or somewhere in between, investing in your relationship skills isn't a sign that something is wrong. It's a sign that you value the life and relationships you're building.

I'd love to hear from you this week.

What's one conversation you've been avoiding, either with yourself or with someone you love?

Simply reply to this email and tell me. I read every response, and I'd love to continue the conversation.

Rooting for you!

With a heart of abundant love,

Erica

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Stories That Sound a Little Too Familiar

One of the fastest ways to understand yourself is to see yourself in someone else. And that is why I started The Love Lab SubStack. It’s a space where you can see yourself or those around you from the perspective of a fictional story around real life situations we find ourselves in. Most folks giving advice on Social Media about relationships only want to tell you what to do and that's not what this is. Every post: two perspectives, one situation, and the kind of insight that makes you go oh, that's what that was.

It's part mirror, part map. Subscribe if you're ready to look a little closer.

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Most relationships don't fall apart overnight.

More often than not, they drift over time.

You stop asking the deeper questions because life gets busy. Conversations become schedules and grocery lists. Physical touch becomes routine instead of intentional. Somewhere along the way, you realize you're sharing a life, but you don't always feel connected.

Disconnection is often felt in relationships when we stop showing up for ourselves. It happens when you start to believe a part of you is no longer welcomed. At first it feels small, almost like you are choosing peace over nagging. Other times, it is the hurt you swallow to maintain a smile on your face. Then there are the times when you feel your partner overreacted, and you chose to sweep the moment under the rug instead of sitting in the discomfort of their emotions.

Can we be real real for a minute?

Sometimes it happens because we no longer have the emotional capacity to hold what our partners dump on us, and we just can't find the words to articulate our overwhelm.

And if we're being even more real, the same thing can happen in our relationship with ourselves.

We get so focused on taking care of everyone else that we lose sight of our own needs, our desires, even our voice.

I don't believe this happens because people stop caring.

I believe it happens because most of us were never taught how to nurture intimacy with the same intention we bring to building a career, raising a family, or chasing success.

And well folks, that is why I do this work.

As an intimacy and relationship coach, I work with individuals and couples who are ready to have honest conversations, strengthen communication, and deepen emotional and physical intimacy, creating relationships that feel connected and fulfilling.

A mouthful, I know. But the best one I have chewed on in a long time.

Coaching isn't about fixing what's broken. It's about becoming more intentional with the relationship you want to create. It's about finding clarity on what will work for you, your relationships, your connections.

Whether you're navigating dating, marriage, communication challenges, shame, hidden or unspoken desires, low self esteem, body disdain, life transitions, or simply wanting to feel like yourself again, coaching gives you a space to slow down, reflect, and move forward with purpose.

And somatic coaching with me helps you understand the signals your body sends you, so you can clock your needs, wants, and desires.

If you've been wondering whether this work is for you, start with a Discovery Session. This 60 minute session gives you an opportunity to experience what a coaching session with me feels like. If it feels right, we can continue our relationship with a package that fits your coaching goal.

Current coaching rates are available through December 31, 2026. New pricing begins January 1, 2027.

Already worked with me and thinking about a quarterly check in or another package? Just reply to this email, and let's talk.

If this message made you think of someone you love, I hope you'll pass it along. Sometimes one conversation changes everything.

Rooting for you,

Erica

Stories That Sound a Little Too Familiar

One of the fastest ways to understand yourself is to see yourself in someone else. And that is why I started The Love Lab SubStack. It’s a space where you can see yourself or those around you from the perspective of a fictional story around real life situations we find ourselves in. Most folks giving advice on Social Media about relationships only want to tell you what to do and that's not what this is. Every post: two perspectives, one situation, and the kind of insight that makes you go oh, that's what that was.

It's part mirror, part map. Subscribe if you're ready to look a little closer.

Today’s the day!

Later today I will be going live with After the Roses Die 🥀 and if you’ve been craving deeper connection, clearer communication, or a healthier way to navigate disappointment in relationships, this conversation is for you.

I’ll be sharing three practical tools to help you:
• Understand what your disappointment is really telling you
• Express desire without blame or shame
• Repair small ruptures before they become distance

If you can’t attend live, don’t worry — the replay will be available to everyone who registers.

So don’t miss it.

Register now, save your seat, and join me for an honest and empowering conversation about what happens after the roses die and the honeymoon fades.

See you there,

📅 Tuesday, 17 Feb. 2026 (That’s TODAY 🤯)
⏰ 3pm EST | 8pm GMT

👉  Register Now

Love you mucho,

Erica

Three simple ways to move beyond the hype today

You do not need extravagance to deepen connection. You need intention.

1. Speak the expectation softly and honestly.
Ask one another, “What would help you feel connected this Valentine’s Day?”
Not what you think should happen. What would actually feel nourishing.

2. Choose presence over planning.
Set aside 20 uninterrupted minutes to simply be together. No phones. No agenda. Just attention. Presence has a way of restoring intimacy where effort alone cannot.

3. Lead with curiosity, not correction.
Instead of asking why you feel distant, ask what has been pulling your energy away from one another. Curiosity opens the door. Blame quietly closes it.

These practices are for couples who want to soften the pressure of the day. They are also for those who are single and becoming more intentional about the kind of love they are preparing for.

Valentine’s Day doesn’t just have to be about the show, it can be about intentional connection as well.

And, by way of a reminder, next Tuesday, I will be hosting After the Roses Die, a live webinar exploring what actually sustains desire and connection beyond a single romantic moment. Register Here.

Register for my first webinar of the 2026

It is a grounded and honest conversation about why desire fades without clarity, how pressure and performance quietly erode intimacy, and what helps love stay connected over time.

Whether you are partnered or single, this space is for anyone who wants love that feels real, lived in, and deeply human.

📅 Tuesday, 17 Feb. 2026
⏰ 3pm EST | 8pm GMT

👉 Save your seat here: Register Now

If you are longing for support now, my Relationship Clarity Chart is a free tool designed to help you understand what is really happening in your relationship, or the patterns you are ready to shift.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Erica