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The surprising effects of loneliness on health

2017-12-19T08:18:00.003+00:00

The potentially harmful effects of loneliness and social isolation on health and longevity, especially among older adults, are well established. For example, in 2013 I reported on research finding that loneliness can raise levels of stress hormones and inflammation, which in turn can increase the risk of heart disease, arthritis, type 2 diabetes, dementia and even suicide attempts."

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'Hangover-free' alcohol

2017-12-19T08:11:00.001+00:00

BBC World Service - Newsday, 'Hangover-free' alcohol: "A scientist has developed a new type of alcohol which he says won't damage the liver or leave you with a hangover. Professor David Nutt, a former UK government drugs adviser now with Imperial College, London, says 'Alcosynth' will deliver a similar intoxicating effect as alcohol but isn't addictive. He's been speaking to BBC Newsday."

Herbal remedy for stroke recovery? - BBC News

2017-12-19T08:01:00.001+00:00

Herbal remedy for stroke recovery? - BBC News:

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Opioid Crisis Forces Physicians To Focus On Alternative Pain Treatments | 90.1 FM WABE

2017-12-16T17:12:00.001+00:00

Opioid Crisis Forces Physicians To Focus On Alternative Pain Treatments | 90.1 FM WABE: "“All of my patients have chronic pain, some have muscular skeleton pain, some have nerve pain,” says the director of the Emory Pain Center, an outpatient clinic located at Emory University Hospital Midtown.

And then there is the dark side of pain management— opioid addiction. More than 53,000 Americans died from opioid abuse in 2016, according to the CDC.

Such staggering numbers have McKenzie-Brown and many of her colleagues studying new ways to manage pain. This past year, she sat on a national expert committee established by the Academies of Sciences, Engineering and Medicine in Washington, D.C."

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Redding Rolfing expert offers alternative way to treat chronic pain

2017-12-16T17:04:00.001+00:00

Redding Rolfing expert offers alternative way to treat chronic pain: " Rolfing, a bodywork technique that concentrates on proper body alignment and soft tissue massage to help reduce chronic pain.

As the nation becomes more aware of the dangers of opioids and patients seek other ways to cope with pain, physical therapy practices including Rolfing come into play. Rolfing specifically helps those whose chronic pain comes from repetitive movements, sitting or standing wrong, or unknowingly clenching muscles from stress.

“It’s designed to be done in a series of sessions, where each session works in conjunction with the previous session,” said Burkholder, who has a private practice in Redding.

The technique pioneered by the late Dr. Ida Rolf assumes the body functions best “when its structure is balanced in gravity.”

When the body isn't aligned correctly, problems like nerve compression, arthritic changes and other painful issues can result.

Rather than trying to simply control pain, Rolfing goes to the root of the problem."

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Smoking may be hardwired into addicts’ brains | New York Post

2017-12-04T23:53:00.007+00:00

Smoking may be hardwired into addicts’ brains | New York Post:

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Diabetes 101: It is not a death sentence!

2017-12-03T22:41:00.001+00:00

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These Mindfulness tools are suggestions for enhancing our meditational experience.

2016-10-22T13:19:00.003+01:00

These Mindfulness tools are suggestions for enhancing our meditational experience. They have worked for us and for many people we have witnessed, and they follow the pattern of self-love, self-respect, and self-exploration. We encourage you to use these tools in a way that feels comfortable to you—but not to overdo them. A gentle, gradual meditational process is often the one that works best. One general rule we have learned is this: Everyone’s meditation patterns are different, and must ultimately be guided by his or her own inner intuitive voice, motivation, and temperament.

Scripting. We learn about ourselves through keeping a script of our feelings, interactions, fantasies, and motivations. The study and interpretation of our reactions to daily living reveal much about the unresolved conflicts that still dominate our unconscious and affect our lives. This form of self-re flection shows how the choices we make during our day promote or inhibit our emotional wellbeing. We may also return again and again to our written record of our journey in order to optimise our understanding of our strengths, our weaknesses, our patterns, our successes, our failures, and the sweep of our progress.

Reflecting on Our Dreamtime. We catch flashes of our dreams throughout the night in order to decode their meanings. This takes us into the very depths of ourselves and reveals the continuing struggle in our unconscious between our true self and the historical voices of our traumatised past. The part of our psyche that creates our dreams is a child within genius, and we do ourselves a good turn by trying to comprehend what our Dream Genius is telling us. This process, like all of self-reflection, can be quite difficult, and at times even confusing or seemingly fruitless, but just the act of trying to uncover the depth of meaning of our dreamtime brings us closer to the truth of our child still hidden within.

Self-Reflecting. We can aid our healing wonderfully aided by any form of meditation, mindfulness, inner loving-kindfulness dialogue, or seeking that allows us to look
beneath our traumas and connect to the river of sub-conscious truth. The more we get to know ourselves—the bedrock of our true selves—the better our choices, the more self-loving our attitude, and the stronger our resolve to struggle forward. However, prayer and meditation are folly when they promote dissociation to other realms and worlds in order to avoid the reality of the pain buried in our unconscious. This is not self-reflective, but instead self-delusional and ultimately self-destructive.

Developing Friendships. We seek friendship with other evolving people who are committed to their own emotional healing. We take the risk of reaching out and making true connections. We strive for friendship based on equality, autonomy, and healthy boundaries—and we seek to avoid dependency and enmeshment, which are only replications of our awed childhood patterns. We recognise how hard it is go it alone, and we have found friendship to be a great benefit and a means to persevere on this journey to the child within.

Reading Healthy Literature. We seek out and read any honest writing in the world that helps us understand our unconscious motives, untangle the lies that chain us, and in a positive, non-dissociative way bring the truth of our core to light. Great writing, as rare or metaphorical as it might be, runs the thematic gamut, from psychology to religion to action to science, and when we discriminate carefully it affords us guidance and conceptual insight.

Taking Distance from our Family of Origin. In order to uncover and recover from the damage done to us in our childhoods it is often necessary to take distance, and sometimes great distance, from our childhood families—and primarily our parents. This allows us a better perspective to see what the ancestors really did to us, how we really behave without their in influence, and who we really are. Although this distance can at times be excruciatingly painful, this pain can also prove to be a window into our child within, and thus a great opportunity to grow. And the best of our parents, those parts of them that truly do love us, will understand. After all, we are nurturing their perfect creation the child hidden within.

Dissociation: Maggot in the Brain - Admission of Trauma

2016-08-06T12:47:00.001+01:00

Dissociation: Maggot in the Brain - Admission of Trauma

Dissociations have the power to create and the power to destroy. We have the awesome ability to take any experience of our lives and create a meaning that dis-empowers us or one that can literally save our lives.

What we can or cannot do, what we consider possible or impossible, is rarely a function of our true capability. It is more likely a function of our beliefs about who we are.

Our minds as adult survivors of trauma are similar to a laptop that's been dropped on the floor. | The Ten Stages

2016-08-04T07:55:00.001+01:00

Our minds as adult survivors of trauma are similar to a laptop that's been dropped on the floor. | The Ten Stages: Our minds as adult survivors of trauma are similar to a laptop that's been dropped on the floor. - The Ten Stages

Making The Ten Stages a taught course allowed for one of the most powerful human qualities that of choice.

2016-08-03T15:05:00.000+01:00

Making The Ten Stages a taught course allowed for one of the most powerful human qualities that of choice. Choice is actually more powerful than recovery programs because we get to CHOOSE to RECOVER. Recovery is not a state of happiness all the time.

Recovery is a dedication to see and move towards the light and the dark. Not just be on a chemical high in the early stages of recovery. RECOVER is a verb and we get to choose TO RECOVER.
This brings me to the topic of today, which is choice.Many mystical teachings will tell you that you are 100% responsible for your circumstances.

Now – I’m not sure I am totally on board with that assessment because it’s hard to think about starving children and believe that they chose that, or that someone would “choose” to be violated or taken advantage of or worse. I think life is a combination of events, outside of our control, happening, plus our taking independent action to change the events, or the meaning of the events, to empower us.
So, I’m not going to say that we are 100% responsible for the events of our lives. But I will say that we are at least 80% responsible for the circumstances of our lives, and that boils down to choice. Sure, crazy things happen, sometimes even “evil” things happen; but once they happen, how WE deal with them will determine the outcome. And every moment we are choosing our way into the next moment, and in every moment, as things happen we are giving those events a meaning. And when we become aware of the fact that we are choosing ourselves into every moment and that our minds are the meaning makers of our lives, we get to see the MAJOR role we play in how our lives turn out.Sure, tragedies happen. But some people thrive afterwards and some don’t.

Why? It’s because each person gave the event a different meaning. Some people have abusive parents and then become abusive parents. Some people have abusive parents and then never abuse their children because they don’t want them to go through the same torment.
Throughout our lives, many of us will face circumstances that seem unfair, painful and traumatic. And, in the moment, that is true. But as we grow and evolve, we get to see that once we accept what happened, we now have the power of choice to be able to redefine the meaning of the event. Was it GRACE or was it a disaster? Was is the worst thing that happened to you or was it an amazing lesson? Was it a tragedy or an opportunity for you to be able to see how Loving you can be? Was it a dark chapter in your life or was it that the events had to happen in order for you to discover your Light?

When we realize we are the meaning makers of our lives, it doesn’t mean that everything was/is or will be hunky dory. But it does mean that we can accept and eventually rise above our circumstances because we realize at our essence we are a Soul that is unlimited and that we have the power to CHOOSE how we are going to respond, interpret and live our lives.

Remember, I said, gnarly sh*t happens and until the human race evolves collectively to a point where we see how INSANE some of our actions are, those of us who are on The Ten Stage Path can rise above this insanity and start being the presence of Loving Kindness on the planet that we were born to be.

So, if you are the meaning maker of your life, if choice is the most important quality of human behavior, what meanings are you giving the events of your life and what are you choosing to create? And would you like to change that?

The Ten Stages is a studied recovery course. It is a source of reconnection a method of unlearning and a reintroduction to our child within which leads us back to our one true intuitive voice.We start to learn and come out of our protective dysfunctional shell and reclaim our lives.

Most of us arrive at a sense of self and vocation only after a long journey through alien lands. But this journey bears no resemblance to the trouble-free "travel packages"

2016-08-03T09:08:00.001+01:00

Most of us arrive at a sense of self and vocation only after a long journey through alien lands. But this journey bears no resemblance to the trouble-free "travel packages" sold by the tourism industry. It is more akin to the ancient tradition of pilgrimage — "a transformative journey to a sacred center" full of hardships, darkness, and peril."
In the tradition of pilgrimage, those hardships are seen not as accidental but as integral to the journey itself. Treacherous terrain, bad weather, taking a fall, getting lost — challenges of that sort, largely beyond our control, can strip the ego of the illusion that it is in charge and make space for the true self to emerge. If that happens, the pilgrim has a better chance to find the sacred center he or she seeks. Disabused of our illusions by much travel and travail, we awaken one day to find that the sacred center is here and now — in every moment of the journey, everywhere in the world around us, and deep within our own hearts.
— Parker J. Palmer in Let Your Life Speak

It is our child hidden within, our fundamental genetic beauty, and our spirit. We are created perfect.

2016-08-01T09:19:00.001+01:00

Truth is in our genes. It is the essence of our being. It is the best part of us, the core of what makes us human. It is our child hidden within, our fundamental genetic beauty, and our spirit. We are created perfect, and despite the inevitability that we loose some of that perfection when we mature and develop in the midst of others who are dissociated, we always retain the capacity to become perfect once again. Our Child Within may be buried deeply, but as long as our hearts beat there remains hope.

Healing our unresolved childhood will accomplish separate studies

2016-08-01T08:57:00.001+01:00

Healing our unresolved childhood will be accomplished in separate studies: First, it would make us far better and less abusive , because when we heal our traumas we don’t pass them on , and second, because of this, we will become far healthier stewards of the earth , because we will not be so traumatised, and thus, by extension, dissociated.
The best way for us to heal our unresolved childhood is to study our action plan the ten stages — and fast. The best way to optimise is to focus our energies inward by avoiding engaging in projection, thus, to live healthy lifestyles. The short-term answer to this is that we who become healthy become parents by proxy to the whole species. The long-term answer is that once the species as a whole plays catch-up and heals into maturity, then many of the healthiest among us would then want to propagate the ten stage philosophy.
Anyone who denies we are in a major rush to change things has his or her head buried in the sand, and lacks an ability to fathom the destruction we will have wreaked on our planet in a few short generations’ time. Conclusion here: the time to change is now. If you deny this you are part of the problem.
Despite the rush we are in, healing ourselves is a process that takes time. It does not happen overnight. But it need not take many decades or generations, especially if we have allies on the healing path.
Attempting this plan requires major sacrifice — personal, emotional, social, familial, economic, and relational. So be prepared for a rough road. The irony is that we presently have the option of sacrificing; in the future, if we don’t do our homework, these sacrifices will be thrust upon us in far less pleasant ways.

Ten Stage Recovery is an action, a choice. Recovery is not really an emotion. | The Chopping Block Social Recovery Review

2016-07-30T13:56:00.001+01:00

Ten Stage Recovery is an action, a choice. Recovery is not really an emotion. | The Chopping Block Social Recovery Review

Modern Society and point the bone curse used to curse addicts

2016-07-28T18:04:00.003+01:00

Australian aboriginals "point the bone" and chant a curse. The whole tribe removes the right to life. "Bone pointing" is a method of execution used by the Aborigines. It is said to leave no trace, and never fails to kill its victim.Do you really think we are different?

Loss of the Right to Life

2016-07-28T17:56:00.000+01:00

Loss of the Right to Life: The shaming curse of the ancestral voice begins to create the core belief that one does not have the right to live. A child so betrayed by his or her parents begins to lose the confident sense that they have a right to life; that their life has tremendous worth. They may become apologetic about their existence. They say: "I am sorry" way too much as if apologising for their existence.

The child within and the parental voice: What is a Shame Curse?

2016-07-28T17:34:00.002+01:00

The child within and the parental voice:
What is a Shame Curse? Definition of a Shame Curse.

A shame curse is strong messages of rejection and negation by a significant group - one's family or peers. The words and behavior of this reference group has the same effect as a curse because one is forced to a negative belief by the way you are treated. Ultimately, it leaves one with the feeling that one does not have the right to exist - what I mean by shame.

A family (church, work place, school or village) throws a 'shame curse' when they treat a person as if they do not belong. Sometimes the youngest child is given no voice in family matters even when they grow up. There opinions, decisions and wisdom is given no value, weight or honour.

Being treated by a reference social group as if you did not belong, with little or no say and very little honour or value is the shame curse in action. It is a failure of love. It is a failure to uphold you, encourage you and love you to life.

The shame curse is a message from those who should by life-giving; instead they send a message of death. Shame curses send messages to the target victim. Whether intended or not the message is to die rather than to live. Shaming is a death curse .

In order to recover from alcoholism it is crucial to understand the process of alcohol addiction.Alcoholism is a brain disorder.

2016-07-25T13:44:00.002+01:00

In order to recover from alcoholism it is crucial to understand the process of alcohol addiction. For successful sobriety, you need to know what you're dealing with and how to address it effectively. When you get to the root of the problem, then you have the knowledge you need to end your addictions for good.

Science tells us that alcoholism it is not a psychological disorder, a spiritual illness, weak will or character defects. Although alcohol addiction affects all areas of your life and is experienced physically in many parts of the body, addiction begins in the brain. Alcoholism is a brain disorder.

Ten Stage Workshops If you know how to go back to your child within and listen carefully every day for five or ten minutes, healing will take place.

2016-06-13T20:13:00.002+01:00

Ten Stage Workshops If you know how to go back to your child within and listen carefully every day for five or ten minutes, healing will take place. When we climb a beautiful mountain, invite our child within to climb with you. When you contemplate the sunset, invite our child within to enjoy it with us. If we do that for a few weeks or a few months, the child within us will experience profound healing.

With practice, we can see that our child is not only us. Our child may represent several generations. Our mother may have suffered throughout her life. Our father may have suffered. Perhaps our parents weren’t able to look after the child in themselves. So when we’re embracing the child in us, we’re embracing all the children of our past generations. This practice is not a practice for ourselves alone, but for numberless generations of ancestors and descendants we will find at the Ten Stages.

The brain of adult survivors of abuse is like a laptop that's been dropped on the floor.

2016-01-10T11:12:00.003+00:00

The brain of adult survivors of abuse is like a laptop that's been dropped on the floor. Their internal wiring is all over the place. Chemical messengers aren't produced in sufficient numbers or they produce too many, they aren't connecting properly, and they miscommunicate. Abused children grow into adults who have neurotransmitters that have gone haywire and results in a variety of uncomfortable, sometimes crippling physiological and psychological symptoms. They attempt to balance out, calm down or rev up the neurochemicals in the brain with drugs and alcohol.

The Stages Meditation of deep silence

2015-07-11T10:55:00.001+01:00

The Stages Meditation of deep silence, after you’ve listened a while to your restless thoughts, and then observed the emotions that arise when you give them space, involves a wonderful sense of peace which is remarkable in its contrast to the petty anxieties that normally govern our lives. In this stage, worries occur to you but you feel you have the strength of mind and equanimity to cope with them all; you remember challenges looming after you leave the meditation, but then notice they don’t seem half as frightening as when you entered.#childwithin#10stages

Growth is when we realise the expansive urge for truth at our core. This is our deepest and most natural tendency—to grow beyond ourselves.

2015-07-10T07:25:00.000+01:00

Growth is when we realise the expansive urge for truth at our core. This is our deepest and most natural tendency—to grow beyond ourselves.

In order to grow, we must align with this calling. But there is a price: we must resolve our traumatic legacy. We must leave our tribes and their denial of the wounds we carry. We must leave their limiting definitions of meaning and safety. We must part company with the known and the norm and the poison they unwittingly carry. We must shun the external definitions of identity. We cannot play a role to be true. We must define ourselves by aligning with the truth at our core and grow beyond the attitudes and behaviour of our tribe and the culture that sustains their denial.

To fail to grow is an aberration, a thwarting of our natural propensity. To fail to grow is a perversion of our natural instincts to be more. This thwarting of our natural urge to evolve is the result of emotional trauma, inflicted during childhood by those who had power over us. These traumas entangle our life force and inhibit our growth. Our child within remains in shock and terror—daring neither to be true nor creative. When we resolve our traumatic past, we begin to evolve quite naturally as life intended. Our consciousness expands and we know and align with the truth that runs like a river through all that is—including us.

We needn’t invent the capacity to grow: we either allow it or prevent it. For some, to grow seems farfetched, which reveals how far we have drifted from our natural purpose and how terrified our child within has become. The failure to grow depicts the power of convention and highlights the overt or hidden pressure exerted on us by our tribes to remain obedient, wounded children.

The critical ingredient in recovery is getting off our butt and doing something.

2015-07-10T01:16:00.001+01:00

The critical ingredient in recovery is getting off our butt and doing something. It's as simple as that. A lot of people have ideas about recovery, but there are few who decide to do something about them now. Not tomorrow. Not next week. But today. The true Stager is a doer, not a dreamer.

BOOM – nice child within is GONE and triggered child within shows up.

2015-07-10T01:00:00.001+01:00

Our Triggers happen.

They do.

There’s nothing we can do to stop them – because it is through our triggers that we can learn about ourselves.

We still get triggered.

Someone says something. Someone does something. Something happens.

BOOM – nice child within is GONE and triggered child within shows up.

It’s inevitable.

We’ve come to believe that the journey is really about seeking the peace within the chaos – the Truth within the trigger.

Life is not about NOT being triggered. Life is about bringing knowledge and AWARENESS to our triggers and moments when our emotions come up from our turbulent past.

You see, a lot of us make the mistake of shooting for a “spiritual bypass” – where they try to deny their humanness, they try to deny their emotions, they try to put their negativity and triggers in a box and then pretend they don’t exist.

And then – over time – they stack up – and BOOM – we have a breakdown, an emotional explosion or other expression.

Having these moments doesn’t mean something is wrong with us. It means we are human.

Here at The Stages, we advocate full acceptance and expression of our child within.

This lets us be fully alive. From there, we also believe in tapping into the higher awareness that is our child's withins domain, that is the observer of the adult mind and emotions.

We are part child, part adult. To deny either is to deny who you are.

We can’t just sit around and justify our negativity as “being child-like.” And we also can’t not express ourselves because we are “adult.” We need both. We are both.

This is the beautiful balance that we get to walk as a child within having the human experience.

We have found that when we let ourself express, when we allow ourself to be who we are – without any judgment – amazing things start to happen.

And once we express ourself – without judgment – we do our best to bring our awareness, my child withins perspective into the moment.

Our aim is to have our child withins awareness be there as we are being triggered, so that we catch ourself faster.

We all have triggers. We all have intense emotions, both dark and light. These are not good or bad – they are just information.

We must allow ourselves to express ourselves; we must allow ourselves to be FULLY adult and FULLY child.

This dance is the dance that allows the greatest version of our life to be lived.

How can you allow yourself to be both adult and child?

HEALTHYISH

The surprising effects of loneliness on health

'Hangover-free' alcohol

Herbal remedy for stroke recovery? - BBC News

Opioid Crisis Forces Physicians To Focus On Alternative Pain Treatments | 90.1 FM WABE

Redding Rolfing expert offers alternative way to treat chronic pain

Smoking may be hardwired into addicts’ brains | New York Post

Diabetes 101: It is not a death sentence!

These Mindfulness tools are suggestions for enhancing our meditational experience.

Dissociation: Maggot in the Brain - Admission of Trauma

Our minds as adult survivors of trauma are similar to a laptop that's been dropped on the floor. | The Ten Stages

Making The Ten Stages a taught course allowed for one of the most powerful human qualities that of choice.

Most of us arrive at a sense of self and vocation only after a long journey through alien lands. But this journey bears no resemblance to the trouble-free "travel packages"

It is our child hidden within, our fundamental genetic beauty, and our spirit. We are created perfect.

Healing our unresolved childhood will accomplish separate studies

Ten Stage Recovery is an action, a choice. Recovery is not really an emotion. | The Chopping Block Social Recovery Review

Modern Society and point the bone curse used to curse addicts

Loss of the Right to Life

The child within and the parental voice: What is a Shame Curse?

In order to recover from alcoholism it is crucial to understand the process of alcohol addiction.Alcoholism is a brain disorder.

Ten Stage Workshops If you know how to go back to your child within and listen carefully every day for five or ten minutes, healing will take place.

The brain of adult survivors of abuse is like a laptop that's been dropped on the floor.

The Stages Meditation of deep silence

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