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by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com

Welcome, The Beheld readers!

So, I’d like to know, what is it that you desire? To feel good and confident in your body? To eat without stress and fear? To have a more peaceful life?

Then the Body Love Breakthrough Session is for you.

These are the amazing benefits that you can expect from your Body Love Breakthrough Session. Together we’ll:

Create a sense of clarity about the way you desire to feel about your body.
Find out the essential building blocks for having the relationship with food and your body that you’ve dreamed of.
Discover the #1 thing stopping you from accepting your body and healing your relationship with food.
Identify the most powerful actions that will move you towards the relationship with food and your body that you desire.
Complete the consultation with the excitement of knowing exactly what you need to do to feel great about your body and heal your relationship with food.

The first step toward your desires is simple, and it’s free.

Just enter your info in the boxes below, and you’ll receive an email from me with further instructions on how to schedule your appointment, as well as a link to a short questionnaire. (Make sure to check your spam folder just in case it ends up there.)

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“I scheduled a session with Golda because I thought she could really help me explore my body issues and learn to love myself how I am. I anticipated spending some time talking about my current body image and some past experiences that have affected it, as well as my goals for the future. Golda helped me map out what my ideas were for how I would like to see myself and treat my body. It was nice using her methods to imagine my future self-image and get some ideas on how to take small steps toward my goals. Anyone who has dreams of having a positive body image, a healthy relationship with food an…”

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“I learned a sense of inherent safety.”

I decided to work with Golda because I was struggling with food, weight, my size, diabetes and fear. I could no longer live in a place where I was constantly bad or wrong for who I am.

I wasn’t sure what to expect, but what I found was relief, acceptance and some deep healing. Things I never would have imagined came up for me and Golda supported me in the most loving ways.

I felt supported, heard and not alone on a very deep, heart level. I gained a more loving manner towards myself

and found new ways to work with my resistance like being a kindly researcher. I found ways of living in joy – I found new ways of living and it wasn’t all about weight or food or size.

The things I used to consider my bad problems are now just a part of me and they are not bad. I learned a sense of inherent safety, like I am now safe to fly my proverbial “freak flag” or let those parts of my I have kept hidden in fear and shame now they shine in freedom and I am safe with that.

Anyone who struggles with loving themselves or anyone who feels bad about themselves should consider working with Golda.

Shannon, Texas

“I can’t recommend her highly enough.”

Working with Golda has been a truly inspiring experience.

Having heard her speak at the Abundia Retreat, I decided to join the Big Beautiful Goddess Academy. Every week, it was like connecting with the most wise, caring friend.

Golda’s sensitivity is amazing, and her insights about self-care through expression of your emotions and setting your boundaries, along with her thoughts on

mindful eating, and her acknowledge of the importance of pleasure and play in your life were so very valuable to me. I use her suggestions every day and feel my life is more balanced and happier because of the commitment to self-care I made during the Academy.

Golda is keenly insightful, so very bright, and completely understanding of the journey of self-acceptance I am on. I have felt so much more confident, happy, beautiful, and centered since working with her, and I can’t recommend her highly enough.

Since our six weeks together, I’ve made grade strides in my work on loving myself and living the best life I can – including posing semi-nude (holding a sign) for Golda’s “I Embrace Body Love” campaign. I felt like a superhero when I shared my picture with family and friends! Thank you, Golda, for helping me find my inner goddess heroine!

Megan, Chicago, IL

“I promise you, you will not regret taking this step to love yourself in the present tense.”

I chose to work with Golda because I was tired of belittling my body. I knew there was more to life than analyzing my reflection in a mirror. I was expecting just toleration of my body, instead a whole world of acceptance and present living was opened up to me.

Golda helped me see that life is a PROCESS and that my body is beautiful the way it is, not the way it could be/was. I am able to forgive myself for slip ups and constantly use positive affirmations within. Before my time

with Golda, this was not even a concept, now I do it almost every day. I know how to deduce when my stomach is hungry as opposed to when my soul is starving.

If you are tired of hating your body, of looking in the mirror and wondering what if, if you want to grab at the world with all you have to offer, then please, take advantage of this program. I promise you, you will not regret taking this step to love yourself in the present tense.

Hannah, Portland, Oregon

“I couldn’t stand feeling bad about myself any more.”

I decided to work with Golda because I couldn’t stand feeling bad about myself any more. I had gained 50 lbs “interest” from dieting, and my body image was really suffering. I’d come home from clothes shopping, and cry hysterically. I was afraid to perform in my new size, since I was afraid of how people would react to a fat dancer. And because I had had several injuries in just a few years, I felt like my body was broken.I wasn’t sure what to expect from working with Golda; I just knew that I needed help.

Golda was kind, funny, and a great listener, so she

with Golda, this was not even a concept, now I do it almost every day. I know how to deduce when my stomach is hungry as opposed to when my soul is starving.

Hannah, Portland, Oregon

“The results I had from this course were beyond anything I could have imagined.”

I’m not the same woman that joined this club 6 months ago. The results I had from this course were way beyond anything I could have imagined.

In her group program, I found a community of people to help support me through some really tough stuff, and it allowed me to be open to anything that came my way. Being a part of a community of women who had the same issues that I had and were so supportive was amazing. It was great to realize that I wasn’t alone and had so many people that I didn’t even know supporting me and cheering me on. I gained so much confidence and found myself taking care of me much more.

I originally signed up for it because I wanted to end my struggles with food and lose weight. What I had hoped to gain from this experience was nothing compared to what I got out of this group. I came in looking to heal my relationship with food, and I got that, but that was only part of it. I realized how my body image issues were affecting my relationship with food and my life as a whole. I started the course not evening wanting to be naked in my own house–toward the end of the course I was able to be naked at a local spa and feel totally comfortable and ready for the experience.

We all have areas of our bodies that we don’t like or have trouble with specific body image issues. This course helps in a non-threatening way to start breaking down those walls so that you can really be the woman you are meant to be. I recommend her work for all women!

Autumn Cummings, Washington State

“I am deeply grateful for Golda’s work in my life.”

I decided to work with Golda because I’ve long dealt with body image issues and I have wanted and needed some support in moving forward with them. It is my deep desire to know that I am beautiful inside and out – and to carry myself with pride and respect for who I am. However, I’ve often gotten stuck feeling too big to wear the clothes I want to wear, or that I’m too fat to be beautiful, and just generally feel uncomfortable in my body.

Working with Golda has been truly amazing. Not only is she kind, compassionate, funny, and real (amazing in and of itself!), but she also is extremely creative in the process- giving me “homeplay” assignments in the time between our sessions and using her skills in ways that got me out of some stuck places I had been.

Already, I feel different. I have stood up more for my body, I have worn some clothes I wouldn’t have worn before because I thought they were too tight (mostly I wear clothes that are too big), and I feel myself on the edge of some big shifts and changes. I would recommend Body Love Wellness to anyone who wants to love their body more but has no idea how to do that. I am deeply grateful for Golda’s work in my life and I highly recommend entering this process with her.

Kathy

“There really is life after disordered eating, and so far it is wonderful.”

I decided to work with Golda because after years of living with the remnants of an eating disorder, I wanted to be completely free. From a teleclass, her blog, and my Body Love Breakthrough session, I could tell Golda is warm, creative, and non-judgmental – the remedy to the failed attempts with mainstream counseling I’d tried before.

I expected to learn to eat more mindfully and to get to the root of my issues with food and exercise. By working hard with Golda’s guidance, I have done this and more. She taught me to connect with my body in a way I never have before and really tuned into the issues holding me back. No problem was too out there or difficult. The sense of self trust I’ve gained has taken the stress out of areas of my life I didn’t even realize were related to my issues with food and exercise.

There really is life after disordered eating, and so far it is wonderful. I recommend the program to anyone ready to put in the work to make a change and give up on behaviors and attitudes that are negatively impacting life.

S.B., Colorado

“I’d spent a lifetime trying to get where I am now.”

Working with Golda was a pleasure. I looked forward to our calls each month, and I think the main reason was because I knew that no matter what, Golda would be supportive, encouraging, and she’d offer me valuable insight and information. Golda even indulged my foray into yet another diet. It was almost as if she knew I’d come to my senses on my own, and I did!

Putting Golda’s suggestions to work has resulted in a new relationship with food. I now stand for my body; I eat when I am hungry, choosing healthy foods that my body asks for, and I stop when I am full. Sounds simple, but I’d spent a lifetime trying to get where I am now. Golda’s approach of support and encouragement mixed with really smart and useful information has been the key to my new relationship with food, and it feels great!!!

AA, Connecticut

“Deciding to join The Empress Club was one of the best decisions I ever made.

I’m not the same woman that joined this club 6 months ago. The results I had from this course were way beyond anything I could have imagined.

Autumn Cummings, Washington State

“Golda [gave] me the tools [to] show me my body isn’t the enemy.”

I had struggled for years with disordered eating and body image issues and really needed help moving from just functioning day-to-day to having a healthy and caring relationship with food and my body. That kind of relationship was something I really wanted and Golda was able to give me the tools and self-confidence to get there and show me my body isn’t the enemy.

I learned ways to pay attention to what my body was telling me, how to address those needs in a healthy way and how to reduce anxiety about issues and situations that happened and might happen in the future.

Golda was warm and knowledgeable and I encourage anyone who needs help – no matter where you are on your journey to health and happiness with your body – to speak with her.

Lacy, TN

“Thanks to Golda I now have a sane relationship with food.”

What I loved about working with Golda was the way she tuned right into what was going on with me. She could tell that there were areas in terms of food where I was advanced and zeroed in on the areas I needed to catch up on. Her approach is totally personal. And her style is so warm and accepting that I felt comfortable diving into my body image and eating issues. Thanks to Golda I now have a sane relationship with food.

wind up losing weight but that was almost a side benefit to feeling like I am now able to nurture my body and cultivate health and well-being. What a gift!”

Maya Gangadharan Cameron, Michigan, Founder of Everyday Goddess TV

“I’m enriched in so many ways because of my work with Golda and I am happier and less anxious thanks to her.”

I just finished six sessions of work with Golda and I have never felt BETTER! In terms of body acceptance stuff I’m pretty “advanced”, as she said, but when it came to other areas, like holding things in and then blowing up for no reason, I did need some help to make my life better. The key is finding what works for you personally and Golda is excellent about giving you ideas to help you figure out what exactly you want from your life.

I’m enriched in so many ways because of my work with Golda and I am happier and less anxious thanks to her. If you want to start a revolution and stop hating your body or if you’ve already done that and you’re not sure where to go next, Golda can really help you. I highly recommend her!”
Theresa, New Jersey

“Thanks to Golda I now have a sane relationship with food.”

She was the first person who I have had a session with that really gets where I am coming from. She understands that being given negative messages about your physical appearance and body type can effect many facets of life such as: social, professional, educational, etc. She gets that struggle between wanting to be okay with how you look and that additional inner dialogue that tells you you’re no good. With just one session, with that validation I felt empowered and I began to feel beautiful, as I was meant to be, and as I truly am.

Ursula, New York

“Golda made things really easy and clear for me.”

Getting a diagnosis of Type 2 diabetes was really scary for me. I knew I needed to change my food choices, but the more I read about what I should eat the more confusing it got. Golda made things really easy and clear for me. She helped me figure out what foods would work for me, guided me to the right supplements, and encouraged me through the whole process. After just a couple of months, my doctor confirmed that I can take a break from the medications I was previously prescribed. I feel so happy and hopeful, and I really owe it to her. She’s amazing!

Jeff, New York

“I was tired of hating on my body and my soul.”

I decided to work with Golda because I was tired of hating on my body and my soul. I think of the time we spent working together as an investment in a happy and healthy future. Feeling comfortable in your own skin is a priceless experience—and Golda can help you get there.

L.F., New York

“Not once did we talk about how I should lose weight, or go on a diet or anything even remotely close to those two things – which was truly bliss.”

I’ll admit, I was pretty skeptical of this whole thing – counseling about loving your body? What’s the catch? But as soon as I heard Golda, all of my skepticism seemed to take a backseat in my mind. We introduced ourselves, and immediately I felt at ease. I talked about my self-consciousness in bigger social situations, my relationship with food and how I’d rather it be, and just life in general. The hour session literally flew by with lots of laughter, encouragement, and me actually verbalizing how I’d like these things to change.

Our one session already had me thinking about how I feel about myself in a completely different way. I always knew that I often has some self-doubt and insecurities, but until I actually verbalized and realized when and where, it didn’t hit me. I just thought I would deal with feeling like this, end of story. I never really considered trying to CHANGE the way I feel. And the best part about Golda, is none of this about is about the two dreaded things: “weight-loss” and “diet.” It’s about YOU, not once did we talk about how I should lose weight, or go on a diet or anything even remotely close to those two things – which was truly bliss.

Sarah, www.tabayag.com

“The consult far exceeded my expectations, and made me very excited to have a healthier life.”

After getting fed up with compulsive eating, I signed up for the free consultation with Golda. She was amazing. Extremely intuitive, experienced and understanding. Felt like a cool friend asking the right questions. The consult far exceeded my expectations, and made me very excited to have a healthier life. I would recommend her to anyone willing to make a life change with regards to their body and eating habits.

Dorit,www.doritworld.com, New York, NY

“I think anybody who feels they aren’t living the best they can could benefit from a consultation with Golda.”

Moving from NYC to LA has been a huge adjustment for me. Going through pilot season as a plus sized actress really made me think about my body image. I wanted to consult with Golda to make sure I hadn’t gotten to far off track to my commitment to being happy and healthy. I think anybody who feels they aren’t living the best they can could benefit from a consultation with Golda. She has a full understanding of how mind, body and soul affect each other and she’s

wonderful at helping you pinpoint what needs work to balance them out.

Shey Lyn Zanotti, Los Angeles, CA

“Her professional, yet kind and approachable manner made it easy for me to open up and work with her.”

My session with Golda certainly helped me navigate the waters of HAES. I’m relatively new to the philosophy after a lifetime of dieting and Golda’s masterful guidance eased my fears of the unknown. Her professional, yet kind and approachable manner made it easy for me to open up and work with her. Thanks so much, Golda!

Amy Finnerty, Illinois

“I really encourage you to talk to Golda!”

After reading through her blog and seeing how she approaches this topic, I knew I wanted to sign up for a Body Breakthrough Session with her. During our session, she really helped me get clarity and perspective on where I’m at and how I view my body – which is no easy feat for me; I’ve been struggling with this issue for years! If you want to get off the merry-go-round of hating yourself, trying to change, failing, giving up, and starting all over again, I really encourage you to talk to Golda!

Tori, Virginia Beach

“If you want to get off the roller coaster of yo-yo dieting and get healthy, Golda can help.”

Golda is a godsend and I really mean it. I knew that diets never worked for me and was desperate to find healing from my up and down weight nightmare. Golda showed me that I was doing everything backwards.

She helped me learn to love myself just the way I was. By loving myself I was able to become tuned into the needs of my body and began to nourish and move it in a healthful way.

If you want to get off the roller coaster of yo-yo dieting and get healthy, Golda can help. THANK YOU GOLDA!
Sue C., Phoenix, AZ

“[I] see the strengths I’ve always had that I always thought were weaknesses.”

With Golda’s help, I realized that the things I want for my life are entirely within my reach, as opposed to the pipe dreams I thought they were.

Here tremendously powerful work helped me see all the strengths I’ve always had that I always thought were weaknesses.

Since working with Golda, my entire view of who I am, what my life is, and how I live in the world has changed for the better.

Catherine, New York, NY

“I knew that I would feel supported and lovingly challenged by her. And that is exactly what has happened.”

I decided to work with Golda as a business coach because I watched her business grow significantly over the past year. I really looked up to her as a solopreneur, and wanted to emulate her strategies and ideas.

I wasn’t quite sure what to expect from our business coaching, but I knew that I would feel supported and lovingly challenged by her. And that is exactly what has happened.

So far, she’s helped me identify my ideal clients, create a

free gift for new subscribers, write a new bio, select a contact management system, and edit tons of website content in preparation for my new site. We’ve even started the very early stages of a group decorating program.

I love that Golda acknowledges and celebrates everything I do, even if it seems like a minor accomplishment to me. She’s very positive, and is an excellent listener. Golda understands the mental and emotional challenges of being a business owner, so she’s wonderful about letting me vent…. and then helping me move on.

After we finish our calls, I always feel uplifted. Golda has been great about following up with me after our sessions, and checking in with me between them.

You should work with Golda because she has been in your shoes and she understands what you’re going through. She’s never critical, and you can be totally honest with her about everything, even if you think it’s insignificant.

I know in her heart that she truly wants the best for me, and it feels awesome to have her in my corner.

Lisa Harper, Owner of Refreshing Rooms (www.refreshingrooms.com), Orlando, FL

“I never felt like she was leading me in circles, unlike other coaches.”

I decided to work with Golda because I had a strong sense that she really understood marketing and wouldn’t be leading me down any rabbit holes, but instead had a plan and a proven strategy. Plus, I felt a natural and immediate connection with her on the phone.

Golda consistently provided good direction and guidance, helped keep me on track when I wanted to go off in multiple directions, supported the ideas she thought were tenable, and was brave enough to be honest when she didn’t think something would fly. I have really

appreciated her thoughtful and sound ideas, whether in our live calls or through email as well as her timely responses. I never felt like she was leading me in circles, unlike other coaches. She was a great help with the technical things like copywriting and marketing, and gave me good emotional support when I needed it.

I recommend Golda for anyone who wants to grow her business and need some help in doing that.

Lisa Rose (www.deeperlovebettersex.com), San Rafael, CA

“I’ve had a much less stressful time deciding what to eat or how to make decisions that are self loving.”

Last week I had the pleasure of attending Golda’s workshop. It was a beautiful and intimate group of women talking about our histories with food, dieting and self care. After the workshop I felt like I’ve had a much less stressful time deciding what to eat or how to make decisions that are self loving. I’m excited to see how I feel after the next workshop!

Deb Malkin, Former Owner of Re/Dress NYC, Brooklyn, NY

“Supportive, capable and inspiring”

Deb Malkin, Former Owner of Re/Dress NYC, Brooklyn, NY

“Thanks for the empowering information!”

I’m one of the lucky women who signed up for your webinar about dating a few weeks ago.

Yesterday I listened to your talk about online profiles, and today I posted a profile on OKCupid according to your guidelines. Within 15 minutes, I had a guy ask me out! (And I am a BIG lady, size 30-32, who is 44 years old.) Just wanted to say thanks for the empowering information!

Laurie Buchholz, Austin, TX

“Later that night I worked some of my new mojo and might have attracted someone sort of new in my life . . .”

I signed up for the workshop because I had been reading your blog and wanted to meet you in person for one thing and the topic was interesting to me. I’ve been having issues in the love/dating department and needed some kind of community (outside of my circle of friends) to talk about these issues. I did feel a little more relaxed about things after I left the workshop and even later that night I worked some of my new mojo and might have attracted someone sort of new in my life (though that deal is still not closed yet!).

I think anyone who is trying to understand Health At Every Size or working with intuitive eating and fat acceptance should come to the workshops. The internet is great for connecting with other people and learning about this stuff but connecting in real life is very important also.

Amy, NYC

“Impassioned persuasion and practical advice”

“Golda is a wonderful spokesperson for Health At Every Size. Her writing is always a great combination of impassioned persuasion and practical advice and inspiration.”

Linda Bacon, PhD, nutrition researcher/professor and author of Health At Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight

“She’s a hero for all of us”

“Golda Poretsky is a Fat National Treasure, which means she’s a hero for all of us, all sizes of us, who want to live happily, healthfully, at home in our very own bodies. When you think about it, where else are you going to live??? Golda’s writing offers great insights into genuinely enjoying happy embodiment as your birthright.”

Marilyn Wann, author of Fat!So?-Because You Don’t Have To Apologize For Your Size!

“If we all took her advice … we’d be happier, healthier, and have lot more fun in our lives!”

“I love Golda Poretsky’s Body Love Wellness Blog, one of the best out there teaching people to accept themselves and be happier and healthier at any size. If we all took her advice, we’d stop measuring our worth in pounds and inches, and make peace with the bodies we actually have, not a fictitious body that our fatphobic society wants to convince us we should want. We’d be happier, healthier, and have lot more fun in our lives!”

Bill Fabrey, NAAFA founder, 1969, Council on Size & Weight Discrimination, Membership Chair, Association for Size Diversity and Health

“Effective, honed and nothing short of awe-inspiring”

“Golda Poretsky is one of the most creative, intuitive, and sensitive counselors there is. Her ability to connect with people and communicate to them the skills they need to learn to start loving themselves—mind, body and all—is effective, honed and nothing short of awe-inspiring. I’ve personally been changed by Golda’s presence in my life, as have the myriad people who read Golda’s expert advice at More of Me to Love every single day.”

Jay Solomon, creator of More of Me to Love

“Smart, sassy and inspirational”

“Body Love Wellness injects a much needed antidote of healthy self-esteem and body image into an ever increasingly disordered culture. Blogger Golda Poretsky combines both her professional expertise and lived experiences to show readers that one’s self worth can’t be measured by the numbers on a scale. Smart, sassy and inspirational, Body Love Wellness helps readers to change the world, not their bodies.”

Rachel Richardson, The F-Word Blog

“Last night was the first night I was able to eat without anxiety.”

“One more thing that super resonated with me in your book, was the part where you wrote about the fight / flight system and how when we eat something that we perceive as bad for us, how it can stress out our digestion system while we are eating it.

You know, last night was the first night I was able to eat without anxiety. I usually get a low level anxiety attack when I sit down to eat dinner. I would think, oh, this isn’t really good food for me (steak) while eating it and then my body would start to feel super anxious and then of course, panic sets in and I have to get up and then

calm down and then come back to finish dinner, the whole time in a state of anxiety.

You put into clear words something I was never able to put my finger on. You nailed it. I was anxious about food. Jeez. What a revelation. ”

Dawn, CA

“After a few clicks on your blog I started to see things differently.”

“I only really found your blog a couple of weeks ago, but I can’t stop reading it.

I didn’t think it was okay to love my body. I was constantly comparing myself to others. I was so frustrated because I had been dieting and eating really well and training for a 5K, but after staying away from the scale for a MONTH and doing all those wonderful things, I had actually PUT ON weight. I didn’t know what to do, and I was actually considering going back to my old tricks to lose weight – which, of course, meant starving myself.

But after a few clicks on your blog I started to see things differently. I greedily soaked up every word from the articles in your Body Love 101 section, and quickly moved on to Stop Dieting 101. I vowed to never diet again, I signed the HAES pledge, and I am actually starting to love my body…ESPECIALLY the flaws – they’re what make me unique and interesting!

I’m even giving intuitive eating a try – even though giving myself permission to eat the things I wanted when I wanted, and feeling both full and satisfied at the same time was completely foreign to me. As a recovering bulimic, I was used to “full” meaning: horrifically bloated and feeling like I’m going to die; and “satisfied” meaning: the feeling I get after I’ve gotten rid of all the food and that awful “full” feeling. Feeling both together has been pretty trippy for me.

And the most exciting thing that’s happened recently: I recently asked my friend’s photographer mother to help me do a photoshoot and put together a portfolio for plus-size modeling. I could never have had the guts to go for it if it weren’t for you, Golda. Thank you so much.”

Jessica Cobb, AL

“You have begun a revolution in me.”

“I want to let you know that you have begun a revolution in me. I’ve always been fat. I’m the fat girl from a thin family. I don’t know other fat people. I sometimes forget that they are out there.

I had my first child about 16 months ago, which (while thrilling and amazing for lots of reasons) sent me spiraling into a deep dark scary pit of body loathing and sometimes self hatred. To save myself I began to search out someone to tell me that I was worth a damn. Then I

found your blog. What a concept! Love your body, not matter what. It’s OK.

No one, once in my whole life has ever told me that it’s OK to like my fat body. Reading your blog has been akin to someone switching the lights on in my head. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I don’t think I could ever tell you how much your words have helped me.”

Kate Pratt, Knoxville, TN

“You are doing such a great thing with your blog.”

“I’m not exactly your ideal demographic (underweight male). I stumbled on your blog and just started reading all these great posts about positive body images and such. I really like that even though your focus is on women, you write in a way that a lot of different people can relate to, such as myself. I believe you are doing such a great thing with your blog. Not a lot of people out there have the courage to speak such truth as you do and for that I just wanted to thank you!”

Kyle, St. Louis

“I have incorporated much of the thoughts and practices in this book into my daily life with success.”

“I was pleased with this book. I have read several on the subject, this one struck home with me. I didn’t necessarily agree with everything in the book but I didn’t have to. There was enough to keep me interested, enough that resonated quite strongly with me.

“I have incorporated much of the thoughts and practices in this book into my daily life with success. Diets definitely no longer worked for me and I needed to stop torturing myself for preceiving myself as a failure. This book finally convinced me that not only am I not a failure but I’m a pretty wonderful person. I am able to let food just be food now. Is my life perfect now? Have I lost 100 pounds of weight? Absolutely not. But I am able to live life without making food an issue around everything that is happening and slowly but surely, I am starting to see some weight-loss results. And I’m not panicked and obsessed about it, I can just let it be.”

The Niblet (Amazon review)

“Made of pure awesome”

“If you haven’t been following Golda Poretsky’s podcasts/blog, webinars, and on Twitter…girl, you’re missing out! Golda is a certified holistic health counselor who is made of pure awesome. This book is a practical guide/workbook to health at any size, loving your body as it is, and healing from the damaging unhealthy thought processes that keep us from being healthy and happy. The information on reasons to stop is thoughtfully laid out and well researched. The ways to heal are practical and simple, but definitely not easy and very thought-provoking. Buy the book.”

Heather Stoll (Amazon review)

“It really helps you learn to love yourself”

“I read this book one day when I needed a little pick me up. And it did just that. This book may sound like a lot of bogus, but it really helps you learn to love yourself.”

Sydney T. Brown (Amazon review)

“I highly encourage anyone who is going through diet struggles to buy the book and stop blaming yourself. “

“I had an opportunity to read this awesome book. It is short, but it really gets to the point in an easy to read style. Golda gets to the heart of what dieting is really about. It goes so far beyond the calorie counting and magic diet systems. I have always felt like weight and dieting (or really the failure at dieting) in my own life has had very little to do with the food and lack of self control. For me, what is at the root of all of my body woe, is my relationship to food, how I judge myself and my body and even the food (good or bad). If I don’t get that sorted, all the diets in the world won’t make any sort of difference. I want to be happy with my body and my self regardless of my size. Stop Dieting Now! really puts that whole messed up cycle into perspective and gives you practical tips for how to get out of that mess. I highly encourage anyone who is going through diet struggles to buy the book and stop blaming yourself.”

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Dealing With Negative Comments About Your Body

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by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com

In the last few weeks, I’ve had several clients and readers ask me about dealing with negative comments about their bodies.

Ugh. This stuff makes me so angry.

So I want to address negative comments head on and give you some tools for dealing with them, because, frankly, I’ve had enough of this crap.

A Little Context
I don’t really follow non-plus-sized fashion very much, so until this week I had never heard of the swimsuit model Kate Upton (I actually had her confused with the awesome Nancy Upton, but I digress.) Lately, Kate Upton has been torn apart by bloggers for being too fat, having “huge” thighs, etc.

I bring this up only to demonstrate that nowadays, everyone’s body (especially non-male bodies) are apparently up for debate, scrutiny and derision. No one is immune from it, not even swimsuit models.

Of course, there is still a difference between being a straight size swimsuit model and being a size 12 or 22 or 32 (and the degree of comments you get at those different sizes), and the war on obesity rhetoric isn’t helping. Fueling societal scapegoating of fatness with rhetoric about fat causing rising health care costs and pushing the idea that fat people are just a bunch of soda swilling, cheeto eating, lazypants (while thin people mostly hike and eat homemade granola from biodegradable rucksacks) makes commenting on someone’s fatness into a sort of public health message.

Why am I sharing all of that with you? Because I think sometimes you need a reminder that negative comments about your body aren’t even really about your body, they’re about society and our society’s wrongheaded and impossibly narrow definition of a “good” body. Your body didn’t do anything wrong. What’s fucked up about your body is not your body at all, but that your body has to live in a society that thinks it has a right to say fucked up things about your body.

At the same time, I realize that societal change is often glacially slow and reminding you that society is messed up may help you at some times and not others. So I want to share some more tips with you on dealing with negative comments in certain circumstances.

Some Tips For Dealing With Negative Comments

On The Street Harassment
This is some awful shit. If you have to deal with street harassment on any kind of regular basis, I am so sorry.

I don’t have a lot of personal experience with this, and I’m not sure why. It may be that I developed a serious “don’t fuck with me” look in my teens that has served me all of these years, or it may just be luck. I have no idea.

But here are some things to remember:

Your Reaction In The Moment Is Perfect — Whether you slam the harasser with a witty retort, silently keep moving, and/or report it to the police, your reaction is perfect. You don’t have to do anything, you don’t even have to respond. It’s not your job to fix the situation or deal with it or whatever. The harasser is wrong and you’re right and that’s that.
Your Reaction Afterward Is Perfect — A client recently shared with me that she was walking with her friends and a man pointed to her and said something rude about her fatness. She acted like she didn’t care at the time but when she got home she was really upset and cried about it. Part of the reason why she cried was that she was mad at herself for getting upset about it. I think it’s really important in these situations to let yourself feel your feelings. You have the right to feel however you feel about someone commenting on your body. The reality is that there is an ebb and flow to all of our lives. Sometimes, you may feel really great about yourself and your body and a nasty comment rolls right off your back like nothing. And maybe on another day you’re feeling a little more insecure and the negative comment really hurts. That’s the reality of life, and there is nothing wrong with feeling the way you feel.

Comments From People You Know

This stuff is seriously problematic. I think we’ve all had people in our lives (family members, friends, work colleagues) who think it’s completely fine to comment on our bodies and how we look.

Unsolicited commentary on your body is not okay, and the people in your life need to be reminded of that. However, it can be EXTREMELY DIFFICULT to get people who are used to giving you negative comments to stop. (I also realize that in some cases it can be literally unsafe to do so, so it’s important to seek out professional assistance with this if you’re in that situation.)

Keep in mind, again, that your response to receiving negative comments, whether you talk back or don’t, cry or don’t, etc. is perfect. You don’t have to respond or do anything you don’t want to do.

However, if you’re looking for a way to change the dynamic with people in your life who make negative comments about your body, please consider actively setting boundaries with them. This can be a little tricky, so I recommend checking out this post on boundary setting for some in depth help with it.

On The Internet
DO NOT BOTHER. If someone says stuff about you on your blog, facebook page, whatever, do not engage. Delete their comments. Block their IP addresses. This is one instance where you have a lot of control, so don’t waste any of your precious energy on them. Seriously.

A Final Note
I don’t think there’s any way to make yourself completely immune from negative comments. Words hurt, you’re human, and it’s natural to feel shame, embarrassment, anger, etc. when someone makes negative comments about your body.

However, one of the best things you can do to soften the impact is to strengthen your self esteem and body image. When you know in your heart of hearts that you are fabulous other people’s opinions of you will matter less. That’s one of the many reasons why I do the work I do!

I hope this helps the next time you have to deal with negative comments. Let me know how it goes in the comments section below!

P.S. I think I may do a companion piece on dealing with positive or supposedly positive comments about your body, because that can be really complicated too. If that’s something you’d like to read about, let me know in the comments!

Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. If you’re in or near NYC this August, don’t miss her LIVE workshop: Rounded Letters: A Body Image Workshop For Women Who Love To Write. Check it out here.

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How To Handle Haters Hating

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by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
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Last week, I had a weirdly cathartic moment watching a Yankees vs. Red Sox game. The game was at Fenway, and I noticed that each time Alex Rodriguez (who is a Yankee) walked to the plate, he was greeted by a roar of tens of thousands of people booing him.

I realize that a Yankee getting booed in Boston is nothing new. Yet, I started to think about how strange it must be to get booed for doing your job really well. Whether they hate his personal life or the Yankees or whatever, most people would agree that, at least based on the numbers, Alex Rodriguez is one of the greatest players in the history of baseball, right? And yet, he pretty much gets booed in every away game in every stadium across the country.

I had actually decided to watch that game that day because I was feeling really fed up. I had just received a couple of really fat-hating comments on my blog, and an email from a woman who thought my work was too “women-centric.” Watching the game was a little retreat for me. And yet, I found myself feeling good as I watched ARod get booed. Not from schadenfreude, but because it was really inspiring. Seeing him get hit after hit, despite the booing, reminded me of this really important lesson.

Haters gonna hate. That’s just what they do.

As a proponent of Health At Every Size and a fat activist, I know what it’s like to push ahead despite the presence of vociferous haters. The more my work gets out there, the more hateful comments I get, the more angry emails I get, the more funny looks I get.

Whether you’ve just been dabbling in body acceptance or you’re a full-on fat activist, you’ve probably experienced similar things. And because none of us have a $30-million a year contract to keep us going, I think it’s important to look at how to keep going in the face of haters. How do you stand in your commitment to being at peace with your body when the “common wisdom” (a wisdom which is paid for by the $60 billion a year diet industry, among other industries) is against you?

1) Your New Mantra — “Haters Gonna Hate” — I’m a big proponent of using really positive affirmations strategically to change internal thought patterns, so “haters gonna hate” is not the kind of mantra that I’d usually recommend. I do find, however, that “haters gonna hate” is an extremely powerful phrase to use when hatred for your choices is coming your way. It’s a reminder that there will always be haters — people in your life who like to denigrate what you’re all about — and it’s pretty much their job to hate. So if haters are hating on you, that’s just what they do, and you can let it go. You can, then, really focus your attention on people who love what you’re about or are at least open-minded about it, instead of taking that hater’s hate to heart.

2) The Alternative Is No Alternative — If you’ve already started to experiment with body positivity and Health At Every Size, it’s pretty much impossible to go back to full-on body hatred and the belief that you should “do something” about your weight. It creates extreme cognitive dissonance to sit in a Weight Watchers’ meeting fiddling with your points tracker and flagellating yourself over gaining .4 pounds when you’ve been reading body positive blogs all weekend. It just doesn’t work, at least not for long.

3) Being A Revolutionary Is Never Easy — Being body positive in a world where teenagers are getting botox and Dove is pushing deodorant that makes your “unsightly” underarms look prettier is not easy. You are bucking an entrenched system that tells you that hating your body is the right way to feel and that feeling that way is for your own good. This sort of revolution is the kind that “has to be believed to be seen.”* We have to outpicture for ourselves a world where people’s bodies, no matter what their size, are treated with respect and love. Not only that, we have to “be the change we wish to see in the world”** by actively being positive about our bodies, refusing to engage in negative body talk, refusing to engage in diet talk, wearing clothes that make us feel good rather than hide, and having conversations about why the pathologizing of fat hurts us all. This can be an extremely tall order and cause tension — but it’s necessary tension. We might not always do a perfect job at it either, but that’s okay. If we want to truly change the world we have to be easier on ourselves about being uneasy.

Feel free to let me know what helps you when the haters start hating.

Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. To learn more about Golda and her work, click here.

*I’m quoting a U2 song here (“Walk On”). I really wanted to quote Emma Goldman or Martin Luther King, Jr. and I somehow went with Bono.
**Gandhi quote! Yes!

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How To Stop Dieting 101: The Best Choice You Can Make For Your Body & Your Peace Of Mind

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How To Stop Dieting 101: The Best Choice You Can Make For Your Body & Your Peace Of Mind

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by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com

If you’ve reached this page, you’re probably sick of dieting.

You’re probably sick of the restrictions, the rules, the constant stress about what to eat and when.

But in our culture, diets and weight loss are sold as an answer to everything. Want to date more? Go on a diet. Tendency to binge? Go on a diet. Family history of diabetes? Go on a diet.

But here are a few facts about dieting that will blow your mind:

In 95% of cases, people who lose weight gain all of the weight back in 3-5 years (and 83% gain back more weight than they lost.
Americans spent 60.9 billion dollars on diets and diet products last year. (That’s over $200 for each and every person living here.)
Weight loss is not a cure for any disease.

All of this may be hard to hear, and even harder to take in. I totally get that. But now that you know the truth, you can start to unravel some of the emotional and physical damage that dieting has caused you.

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Why Stopping Dieting Is The Healthiest Thing You Can Do For Your Body & Mind

If diets don’t work and weight loss is illusory 95% of the time, what do you do?

This is where I can help.

What you’re in need of is a big fat paradigm shift.

There is a wonderful, healing alternative to dieting, and it’s called Health At Every Size. In studies comparing it to typical weight loss methods, participants who used Health At Every Size principles had better overall health (better blood pressure, cholesterol and triglyceride numbers), less stress, and a more positive body image than dieters.

So I want to share with you something that I do in my practice every day — how you can apply Health At Every Size principles to your life so that you can be healthier, less stressed out, and feel great in your body.

Getting Started: How To Heal Your Relationship With Food & Your Body By Letting Go Of Dieting For Good!

Here are 7 of my favorite resources for learning to let go of dieting forever!

How To Breakup With Dieting — Breaking up is always hard to do, but I try to make it a little easier with this post.
How Does Health At Every Size Compare To Dieting? (Breaking Down The Desire To Be Thinner — If you only read one post, this one should be it. Learn here how dieting stacks up against the Health At Every Size approach. (You may be shocked by what you read.)
Are Diets And Disordered Eating Behaviors Really So Different? — Disordered eating in fatter folks is often praised, even if dangerously restrictive. Check it out and see what you think.
Diet School Dropout — Trust me, you’ve been learning how to diet in diet school long enough. Here’s why dropping out of this kind of school is a great idea.
Losing Weight To Fit In — Is It Worth It? — Sometimes it may seem like it would be so nice to be thin so you could fit in better. But is trying to lose weight to fit in really worth it? Learn how you can “fit out” and feel great in this post.
The “I Did It, So You Can Too!” Phenomenon! — Every day, celebs and diet gurus tell us that they lost weight, so we can too! Check out this post if you want to hear the really important stuff that they’re not saying.
One of my favorite resources on stopping dieting is my book, Stop Dieting Now: 25 Reasons To Stop, 25 Ways To Heal (also available for Kindle and Nook).

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Golda Poretsky: Fat Rights Advocate And Health At Every Size Specialist

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by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
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Brief Bio

Golda Poretsky, HHC is an outspoken advocate for the rights of a fat people. She is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, which offers one-to-one and group coaching for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. Her Health At Every Size® based programs and activism work have been featured on CBS’s The Early Show, ABC’s Nightline, NBC’s LX New York and in Time Out New York. Golda is often recognized from her viral TEDx talk, “Why It’s Okay To Be Fat” and was named a “Top Body Image Hero for 2013” by The Huffington Post. She is the author of Stop Dieting Now: 25 Reasons To Stop, 25 Ways To Heal, available in softcover and Kindle. Golda has also organized and hosted major body positive online events, including The Body Love Revolutionaries Telesummit, the HAES® Master Class and the Body Positive Dating Master Class. Golda’s big, fat dream is for every plus sized woman to own her power, beauty, and body, whatever her size.

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End Your Struggles With Food And Body Image

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by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com

When was the last time you talked with someone about your food issues, body image, or health concerns and received the personal attention you deserve?

If you’re sick of struggling with food and sick of hating your body, you’ve come to the right place.

You can stop the struggle and love your body without gimmicks, without pain, and without “lifestyle plans” disguised as diets.

Diets don’t work long-term. It’s not your fault. You don’t lack willpower. You didn’t fail.

My name is Golda Poretsky, HHC, and I’ve been just where you are. I spent 24 years of my life on and off diets. I hated my body, obsessed over food, and wouldn’t let myself really live until I lost more weight. But with a lot of support (and trial and error), I finally made peace with food and my body.

I founded Body Love Wellness is 2008 for women like me and you. Over the years, I’ve helped hundreds of clients finally get off the dieting roller coaster, develop healthy eating patterns, feel confident and at home in their bodies, no matter what their size.

Coaching with me could be a good fit for you if you find yourself thinking . . .

I don’t feel attractive at my current size.
I’ve been dieting for years and I keep losing and gaining back the same weight, plus more.
Eating and choosing what to eat stresses me out.
I don’t know how to eat when I’m not on a diet.
I know that dieting isn’t working for me but I don’t know what to do next.
I’ve heard of Health At Every Size, but I get tripped up when I try to practice it on my own.
I’d like to work with a counselor/coach who doesn’t judge me for my weight.

If so, wouldn’t it feel good to . . .

Feel attractive and confident in your body no matter your weight or size.
Learn how to listen for your body’s real hunger and fullness signals.
Release long held emotional eating patterns.
Make healthy food choices with ease.
Set loving boundaries with friends and family around food and weight.
Let go of the struggle with food and weight so that you can focus on what really matters to you.

If you want to be free of the struggle with food and weight, so that you can be the wonderful, fully-realized woman that you were born to be, then you have come to the right place.

Your Next Step

The first step to working with me is signing up for your free Body Love Breakthrough Session. In this 30-minute session you will get immense clarity on what you need and what has been holding your back.

From there, we’ll determine together whether working with me is the right next step for you.

No pressure. Just clarity.

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Intuitive Eating 101: The Natural Way To Eat Healthfully And Honor Your Body

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by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com

Intuitive eating is an amazing tool for eating healthier, put an end to binging and restricting, and melting away the stress of the constant question, “What the heck should I eat?!”

But intuitive eating can be tricky. Every day, you’re bombarded with information on what constitutes good food, bad food, good portion sizes, bad portion sizes, etc., so learning to hear that quiet, intuitive voice within you isn’t always easy.

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Why Intuitive Eating Is The Answer You’ve Been Waiting For

The truth is, you have a genius intuitive voice within you that will guide you to the right foods and portion sizes for you.

But you’ve spent a lot of time tamping down that voice. Recent studies have confirmed what dieters have known for years — diets tamp down the voice within us that lets us know when we’re hungry, when we’re full, and when we need something different than food to deal with our emotional reality. So if you’re not sure when you’re hungry or when you’re full, you are not alone!

But there is a way to reconnect with your internal sense of hunger and fullness and make peace with food forever.

Even if you think you’ve failed at intuitive eating before, you haven’t. So I’m going to share with you some of my favorite intuitive eating tips and resources right here.

Getting Started: How To Eat Intuitively And Stop Stressing About Food Forever!

Here are 7 of my favorite resources for learning to eat intuitively!

Why Portion Control Doesn’t Work And What To Do Instead — Start to shift from “portion control” to more intuitive methods with this post.
Intuitive Eating And Weight Loss — If you feel like you “failed” at intuitive eating before because you didn’t lose weight, this post will be seriously enlightening.
Are Old Diet Rules Getting In Your Way? — Before you get down to intuitive eating, you may need clarity on the “diet rules” that still control your food decisions. Learn how here.
Intuitive Living — Learn how to handle cravings in a way that feels aligned with your needs.
You Don’t Need More Self Control — Trying to take control of your eating can backfire–seriously. Learn why.
Is Intuitive Eating Possible When You’re Dealing With Food Allergies? — Intuitive eating is definitely a little tougher when you have food allergies and sensitivities. If you’re in this boat, you will love this post!
Holiday Special: Enjoying The Food Without The Stress — Eating during the holidays can be particular stressful. Check out these intuitive eating tips for holiday meals to help you through the next holiday.
If you want some more in depth support on healing from eating issues and learning to eat intuitively, you will love my How To Heal From Emotional Eating Program. Check it out here.

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