Love Me or Leave Me Podcast

Mediation and Adoption with Joy Rosenthal

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Thu, 08 Jul 2021 18:48:00 +0000

In this episode we chat with mediator Joy Rosenthal about her role as an objective third party helping couples through contentious situations. She surmises that her goal is to keep the parties together as much as possible especially in a court judicial system that is not set up for people to voice their fears, and work through conflict. She discusses how the adversarial system built for business isn't what's best for the whole family.

In this episode we cover:

- Litigation versus Mediation

- Social Justice vs. Zealous Advocacy

- The Process of Mediation

- Working With High Conflict Couples

- Second Parent Adoptions

- The Presumption of Parentage

The Fear of Finances with Stacy Francis

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Thu, 10 Jun 2021 18:38:00 +0000

Transparently discussing money and finances in a relationship has long been a point of contention between many couples. In this episode our good friend and renowned Financial Planner, Stacy Francis, breaks down in plain terms what it means to be financially responsible and accountable, and what it takes to secure your financial future, married or divorced.

In this episode we cover:

- Investing in yourself

- Going on Money Dates

- Financial Disparity in Relationships

- Financial Education

- Savvy Ladies

Making of Love me or Leave Me with Rich Hackman

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Thu, 25 Mar 2021 18:26:00 +0000

As we wrap up the first half of our season, we pause to reflect on the nature of all the impactful conversations we’ve had, and the exponential personal and professional growth we’ve experience. To help us unpack the ever-nuanced process we undertook is our friend and producer Rich Hackman.

In this episode we cover:

- Helping businesses tell their stories

- Origins of Love Me or Leave Me

- The Need for Important Conversations

- The Benefits Of Having A Podcast

- What’s Next? New Episode Topics

Divorce Chose Me with Nicole Trivlis

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Thu, 18 Mar 2021 18:15:00 +0000

One of the most contentious times in any relationship is its ending. Equally as contentious is filing for divorce and ending your marriage, but does it have to be? While the process can be emotionally charged and sometimes highly volatile, are there ways to reach more successful conclusions and amicable agreements? Join us and Family/Matrimonial Law Attorney Nicole Trivlis as we delve deep into the details of divorce.

In this episode we cover:

- The Emotions Of A Divorce

- Considerations For Children In A Divorce

- Legal Options For Obtaining A Divorce

- Dos and Don’ts of Separating

Infidelity

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Thu, 11 Mar 2021 19:00:00 +0000

While it may seem like the definition of infidelity is clear-cut and unwavering, the concept of infidelity has significantly shifted over the decades and centuries. Where proof of sexual impropriety once served as the sole and clear intent of unfaithfulness in conventional marriages, the onset of love matching in modern day marital relations has blurred the lines for what constitutes indiscretion. We unpack why that is, and what to do about it.

In this episode we cover:

- What is Infidelity?

- Emotional Affairs

- Myths about Cheaters

- Repairing a relationship after an affair

- Should I Stay Or Should I Go After An Affair?

Monogamy

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Thu, 04 Mar 2021 18:58:00 +0000

For many generations the construct of monogamy has prevailed as the most acceptable form of union between consenting individuals. In recent decades that construct has be challenged and put to the test within the halls of the law, and in numerous therapeutic practices. In this conversation we keep an open mind and examine Monogamy from both our personal experience and professional knowledge.

In this episode we cover:

- What is Monogamy?

- What is Non-monogamy?

- Polygamy and Polyamory

- Infidelity

Let’s Talk About Sex with Melissa Pennica

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Thu, 18 Feb 2021 18:41:00 +0000

For as long as we can remember talking openly about sex has seemed like the least sexy thing you could do. Whether because of the stigma surrounding it, lack of honest and empowering education about it, or fear and shame experienced as a result of it, generation after generation we miss our opportunity to address it….until now.

In this episode we cover:

- The Umbrella of Sex

- Being Aware of Your Body

- Arousal Non-concordance

- Types of Sex Education

- Keeping The Spark Alive

All About That Prenup

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Thu, 11 Feb 2021 18:33:00 +0000

With thousands of prenuptial agreements being negotiated everyday you would imagine that there would be less of a stigma for modern day couples when discussing whether or not to have one. With no guarantees that having a prenup will result in a divorce, or create a lasting marriage, what drives us to continue having this polarizing conversation?

In this episode we cover:

- What are Prenuptial Agreements?

- Who are Prenups for?

- The stigma surrounding prenups

- Enforcing the rules of the Prenup

Healthy, Sexy, Fun in 2021 with Susan Greeley

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Thu, 04 Feb 2021 18:09:00 +0000

In part one of this two-part episode titled “Before You Say I Do,” we grappled with how to have nuanced conversations around lifestyle choices and goals, family and in-laws, and religion preferences, all before you get married. In part two, we dig a little deeper, starting with children and money.

In this episode we cover:

- Intentions for having children

- Parenting styles & Child rearing goals

- Blended families

- Prenuptial Agreements

- Finances & money goals as a couple

Before You Say “I Do” - Part 2

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Thu, 28 Jan 2021 18:09:00 +0000

In this episode we cover:

- Intentions for having children

- Parenting styles & Child rearing goals

- Blended families

- Prenuptial Agreements

- Finances & money goals as a couple

Before You Say “I Do” - Part 1

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Thu, 21 Jan 2021 17:53:00 +0000

No matter what stage of life you are in, or phase of relationship you find yourself, at one point or another, you consider making a more serious and formal commitment. In this two-part episode titled “Before You Say I Do,” we grapple with some of the more nuanced conversations you might want to have with your potential partner.

In this episode we cover:

- Finding alignment on core values

- Compromises in individuality and partnership

- Polarizing Discussions - Medical History and Politics

- Dealing with family and in-laws

- Talking about Religion and belief systems

Communication - Part 2

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Thu, 14 Jan 2021 17:36:00 +0000

If you asked what the key to a good relationship was, most people would say communication. If prompted further, most would tell you that they are good or effective communicators, but is that true? In this two-part episode on communication our strategies deviate. In Part 1, Isaiah, being a marital attorney, illustrated how you can make a divorce less painful when communication is beyond repair. In Part 2, Meredith, being a licensed psychotherapist, will explore the alternative of not leaving the relationship, but instead finding new ways to connect with your partner, improve communication, and manage conflict.

In this episode we cover:
- How do we fight? When communication turns into conflict

- How to make arguments more productive

- Bids for connection

- The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

- Taking breaks and creating boundaries

- Getting on the same team with your partner

- Self-awareness and emotional attunement

Communication - Part 1

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Thu, 14 Jan 2021 17:20:00 +0000

Extended periods of time quarantined and confined indoors with our partners taught us the importance of healthy and meaningful communication. But what happens when all forms of civil communication breakdown? In this two-part episode on communication our strategies deviate. In Part 1, Isaiah, being a marital attorney, will investigate how you can make a divorce less painful when communication is beyond repair. In Part 2, Meredith, being a licensed psychotherapist, will explore the alternative of not leaving the relationship, but instead finding new ways to connect with your partner, improve communication, and manage conflict.

In this episode we cover:

- A divorce attorney’s take on communication and conflict

- What makes the divorce process so contentious

- Cautionary tales of bad communication

- What you should know going into a divorce

- Conflict management and communication strategies

- Communicating around children and custody arrangements

- Talking finances during a divorce

What Now? Life After 2020 - Part 2

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Wed, 13 Jan 2021 18:15:00 +0000

If ever there was a silver lining to the pandemic it’s that it has afforded us a rare opportunity to reevaluate our relationships. In many ways it has minimized our distractions. It forces us to acknowledge on a deeper level the interpersonal connections we have with the people under our roofs. Some people will make it and some people won’t. It all depends on how you use this time. As tension runs high in our households during quarantine you might imagine that there would be an impact on the divorce rates in America, but is that actually true? What do you do when it seems like there’s nothing that can be done.

In this episode we cover:
- Our origin story

- What 2020 was like for us and our clients

- Divorce rate trends

- Living and working a virtual life

- Making hard transitions and decision

- Feeling and coping with loss and discomfort

- How to be human right now

What Now? Life After 2020 - Part 1

hackmanconsulting@icloud.com (Rich Hackman) — Tue, 12 Jan 2021 18:04:00 +0000

They say hindsight is 2020, and if the year 2020 has taught us anything it has been to take stock of what is important in our lives right now. “What Now? Life After 2020” is a two-part episode all about how we are collectively coping with quarantine, communication challenges and strategies, and how to simply remember how to be human.

In this episode we cover:
- Our origin story

- What 2020 was like for us and our clients

- Divorce rate trends

- Living and working a virtual life

- Making hard transitions and decision

- Feeling and coping with loss and discomfort

- How to be human right now