Martyr to the Marriage

Post-Affair Commitment Being committed to a healthy, respectful, and fulfilling marriage is an admirable trait, but what happens after an affair hits the relationship? Committed...

Affair Help: The Cheater Code Deciphered

It’s often a source of amusement in our Affair Help Chat Room that there is a Cheater’s Handbook out there somewhere. Perhaps a single dog-eared...

Accepting Their Right to Cheat

Surviving the Affair: Accepting Their Right to Cheat Before you reach for the smelling salts, no, infidelity is not an ethical or just choice. Yes,...

Reconciling in an Unhealthy Relationship

Acting in Panic All too often there is a knee-jerk reaction on discovery of infidelity that is founded in fear, panic, anger and possessiveness and...

Reconciliation: Healing From an Affair

One of the big questions a faithful spouse often asks after an affair is how to move their relationship forward after their partner has cheated....

“She Stole My Husband”

Why Infidelity Isn’t Theft Something that can be commonly found on infidelity support sites is a stream of, “She stole my husband”-esque accusations from those...

End the Affair Strategies and the Backfire Effect

Discovering an affair in your relationship is a shock and often the first response is one of panic. An affair shows you how tenuous the...

What’s Love Got To Do With It?

Affairs cause damage in many forms beyond the commonly understood ones of rejection and betrayal. Manipulation and abuse are the cornerstone behaviors in affair-mode thinking,...

Standing: Shackling Yourself to Your Cheater

Standing Standing is a term used in infidelity forums that describes a faithful partner’s refusal to accept the demise of a relationship, regardless of the...

Not Forgiving an Affair

Why You Don’t Always Have to Forgive by Deborah Schurman-Kauflin, Ph.D. Self healing must always come first You’ve been hurt. No, you’ve really been hurt...

Approaching Infidelity Eyes Wide Open

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Part 5: Affair Fog Theory: Morphing One of the questions that hits the faithful spouse early on in the post-affair discovery process is, “Why?” Why did the person we married, whom we trusted and committed our whole lives to – why did they have an affair? The need to know …

Affair Fog Theory: Character Change

30 September, 2014

Part 4: Affair Fog Theory: Character Change Part 1: What is Affair Fog? Part 2: Affair Fog Theory: Mental Health Part 3: Affair Fog Theory: Sex Addiction Who IS This Person? I know him better than anybody - he’s not the man I’ve known for 20 years.” “I don’t even …

Affair Fog Theory: Sex Addiction

16 September, 2014

Infidelity & Affair Help: The Myth of Sex Addiction

Part 3: Affair Fog Theory: Sex Addiction This third part of the affair fog series looks at the issue of sex addiction and whether it has validity as part of affair fog theory. It’s a lengthy article in order to adequately explore such a popular claim. Part 1: Affair Fog …

Affair Fog Theory: Mental Health

4 September, 2014

Part 2: Affair Fog Theory: Mental Health Part 1 of the Affair Fog Series identified common components of popular affair fog theory as including mental health disorders, sex/love addiction, character change, psychological morphing, and biochemicals. This post specifically discusses if mental health disorders can legitimately be considered affair fog. Many healthcare centers and healthcare professionals use blockchain to securely store the details of patients with mental health disorders. Thus, the identity of these patients will not be revealed. Blockchain and cryptocurrencies are revolutionizing industries worldwide. Crypto traders can check the Trading Plattform Vergleich blog to find a trading platform to automate their crypto trading process. When faced with a cheater’s …

What is Affair Fog?

3 September, 2014

Part 1: The Affair Fog Series This is the first in a series of posts exploring the theory of affair fog in cheaters. What Is Affair Fog? Infidelity sites commonly refer to affair fog (as it applies to the cheater, though some will extend the scope of affair fog to also include confusion …

Yes, Their Affair Was Your Fault

6 August, 2014

The Blame Game Over the years we’ve talked to a lot of faithful partners after they have discovered their cheater’s affair. Most people who visit us are trying to understand why their partner has cheated and how this happened within their relationship. At this very painful point in their lives, people …