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A woman’s personality is what men consider to be her most beautiful trait.  I personally hear this from men who sign up with my dating service on a daily basis.  What a pleasure when he discovers that the person he finds physically attractive is also someone he can completely trust.  Trust not to cheat on him.  Trust in such a manner that he can share his deepest feelings and emotional needs.  Yes, he has found love!

A cold, hardened and criticising demeanour will scare off any man.  Getting angry and screaming is also not considered to be an attractive trait.  Women who are gentle, caring and sincere will be sure to win a man over.  Recent studies have shown that men rate emotional stability and good character right up there in terms of choosing a life partner.

A feminine lady is a lady he will be proud to introduce to his friends when he has found love.  If you choose not to be feminine then that’s fine as well.  But any reputable dating service will tell you that you should expect him to introduce you as one of his friends and not his girlfriend.  Being one of the boys doesn’t mean you are going to win one of them over.

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Single over the holidays?

Being single over the holiday period need not be a bad experience, but you will need to plan ahead. Happiness is really all up to you. It's a choice you are going to have to make and you will need to be proactive and make things happen. Follow these easy tips to ensure that you have an absolute blast this festive season whilst being happily single:

1. Firstly - remember that there are many other single people out there. You're not alone. Focus on what it is you do have. Be positive, dress up and get out there. The more positive energy you exude, the more positive people you are going to attract.
2. Get in touch with all of your friends as soon as possible. Even the friends you are not talking to for some or other reason, or have lost contact with. Find out what they have planned for the holiday festivities, you never know, you may want to join them.
3. Accept ALL invitations. Even though you may not feel like dressing up, or going by yourself. Be brave and get out there. Chances are that you are going to have a superb time!
4. Why not invite another family to your home for dinner. Families easily open their homes to singles over the festive season. You could also offer to baby sit your friends' kids and help the little ones with Christmas shopping or creating Christmas cards for their families.
5. Host a 'singles only' dinner party at your home. Ask all your single friends to bring along another single friend you've never met before. What better way to meet more single people over the holiday? Remember to find out what their plans are for the rest of the holiday.
6. Offer to volunteer at a charity. There is a great need in our country to assist others that are not as fortunate as we are.
7. Try something crazy you've never done before like a ride in a hot air balloon, skydiving or just going to a cooking class by yourself. The idea is that you get out there with an activity or two this holiday and broaden your horizons.
8. There are a number of companies that arrange single holidays and offer fantastic deals for single travellers. Why not book yourself into a spa and be pampered for a few days?

Whatever you do, just make sure you have loads of fun and stay positive. Remember to spoil yourself with a fantastic gift this holiday because you deserve it!

Merry Christmas, drive safely and remember to take pictures.

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Managing expectations when dating

At MatchVIP we believe it is important to know what you want and to be selective when choosing a partner. But most importantly you need to make sure that your expectations are in line with what you have to offer someone else in return. Years of media exposure has resulted in most people developing rather impractical expectations of a life partner. Think about who you are comparing your date to? Why not rather start a new acquaintance on a clean slate?

Many people make the mistake of selecting a partner based on how they would like others to perceive them. Are you projecting your own insecurities on a potential partner before you've even met them? Are you comparing them to your previous partner? Don't fall into the trap of expecting the people you date to fall into a certain category or to act a certain way. You will only become frustrated, you may turn into a 'serial dater' and eventually dating fatigue will set in. Oh yes, and you will still be single.

When you meet someone, think about your future together. Forget about right now. If you're concentrating on the immediate future you will find that your criteria will err more on the superficial side including things such as: attractive, tall, sexy and drives a convertible. This gives us an exaggerated sense of self importance. One day when you're retired, sipping tea in your back garden - who do you see yourself with? When looks have diminished and body fat has tripled, are you going to care whether the person sitting opposite you was a super model? If everyone looked and dressed the same and earned the same salaries, what other qualities would be important to you? And most importantly - Do you have the same to offer someone else in return?

You cannot change people into becoming your perfect match. What you should do is determine whether they could match with you as a person whilst still keeping their own identity.

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More on chemistry

Chemistry is without doubt one of the most over used and misunderstood terms in the dating industry. The media has led us to believe that chemistry is something magical that happens when we meet other singles and is something over which we have no control. MatchVIP would like you to rest assured that this is not true.

In our July Blog we responded to a comment from Tasha where we determined that chemistry is a combination of:

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Sure, you could be attracted to someone the first time you set sight on them. This is a chemical reaction towards that person which is based on physical appeal but has no real substance in the long run. There will also be a time when you will meet someone you just don’t see yourself dating for some or other insignificant reason. But as long as they seem nice enough you should really give them a chance. Who knows they might be the perfect partner for you in every other possible way!

Chemistry takes time to cultivate and grow. You need to get to know each other by sharing experiences and in doing so forming a bond. If you are looking to be in a healthy, long term relationship then you should meet at least 4 times before making a final decision about the particular person.

Chemistry can improve. We are naturally more attracted to someone when we know that our feelings are reciprocated. This kind of attraction is a lot stronger than the physical attractiveness of that person and nurtures a lasting bond.

It is important to separate the myths from facts surrounding chemistry. We hope this article has cleared this up somewhat. Let us know if you have any questions. As always we would love to hear from you.

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• Time Saver
  
  Have you ever spent countless hours browsing the internet and thousands of online singles profiles only to feel exhausted at the end? Finding a date can be time consuming. But suppose you are successful and do find a Wednesday evening coffee date - there really isn't any guarantee that you would have much in common when you physically meet other singles. Based on a set of predefined criteria, a Matchmaker is uniquely positioned to select more appropriate individuals for you to meet and start dating.

• Privacy
  
  Matchmakers take care to protect their clients' confidentiality and will not release any contact details without your permission. No-one will ever know that you are making use of a trained professional to assist you in finding that special person – unless you tell them yourself of course.

• Safety
  
  As part of the screening process a Matchmaker has conducted a background check and personally met every individual that they introduce you to. This is not negotiable.

• Personalised Service
  
  A Matchmaker takes the time to get to know you, your personality and values and understands exactly who will be a suitable and rewarding match for you. Think of it as a corporate dating service.

• Trust and Understanding
  
  It is important that you trust your Matchmaker and feel comfortable so that you are able to communicate all your wishes. Once the Matchmaker gains an understanding of your past and how it affects your current dating patterns, he / she will be able to help you shift destructive or outmoded patterns. This is the essence of personalised matchmaking.

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