Feeling overwhelmed by conflicting information or unsure how to center your own wisdom in the noise?

Want tools that honor both your body and spirit as you navigate vaccines, viruses, and collective health experiences?

Have you considered the possibility of health challenges actually being catalysts for evolution and expansion?

This guide is here to help you in your consideration of the above questions. It offers layered support—practical, energetic, emotional, and spiritual—for anyone navigating vaccination decisions or broader questions about how to stay balanced in the face of illness, immunity, and societal pressure. Whether you're preparing for a medical procedure, recovering from a virus, or tending to your wellness through uncertainty, these suggestions are intended to reconnect you to your clarity, your care, and your power.

Why I Created This Offering

Growing up in a Christian household, my narrative around and perspective of disease was that it was a demonic element—something to be rebuked, cast out, not spoken of (except in prayer), and addressed with severe disdain.

While I understand the intention behind not feeding time or attention into what you don’t prefer, as an adult I’ve come to see that this very attitude often carries its own negative charge.

In my late twenties, I began seeing my chiropractor and nutritionist, Dr. Martin “Marty” Stites, who was instrumental not only in transforming my physical health but also in expanding my understanding of the mind-body-spirit connection. Prior to working with him, I had completed a 10-day silent Vipassana meditation, which deepened my somatic awareness—an awareness that continued to expand through work with various practitioners and teachers.

Dr. Marty identified my anemia—so severe at the time that a blood transfusion would likely have been the recommendation from a conventional medical facility. I asked him what his course of treatment would entail: the process, the regimen, the financial commitment. He gave it to me straight—no chaser, no fear, no ultimatum—just a deep respect for my sovereignty and right to choose. Though I had never worked with a chiropractor and had grown up with skepticism toward them, shaped by Dateline specials and media exposés, I chose to go forward with him. Doing so was the best decision of my life.

Beyond my work with Dr. Marty—which opened layers of multidimensional and esoteric understanding—two pivotal moments further solidified my reframe around sickness, illness, and disease. One was a conversation with my Reiki teacher, Elisabeth DeVries Ridgeway, who—after I shared about a virus I was navigating—spoke of treating it with love. The other was during a lecture by my late PureBioenergy teacher, Zoran Hochstatter. He spoke about the harm in projecting negativity—through thoughts, words, or energy—onto cancer cells. They are your own cells, he said, reminding us that to attack them is, in essence, to attack ourselves.

That way of thinking blew my mind. It was this shift, layered on top of many others before it, that helped me more deeply understand the Ifá concept of ajogun—energetic forces that are often perceived as disruptive or negative, including illness, grief, anger, or conflict. These forces are not inherently “bad,” but exist in dynamic relationship with humanity. Their function or dysfunction depends on how and why they’ve been invited in—and what reflection they are here to offer.

As I’ve continued to grow in my spiritual and healing practice, I’ve become very mindful of how I approach and consider instances of sickness or dis-ease. I may not prefer them and I have deep sympathy and compassion for those experiencing them, but I hold them in a different regard—one that does not include contempt.

I see viruses and bacteria as beings—beings that have been invited in, somehow. I view individual and collective conditions—pandemics, epidemics, and beyond—as movements of energy responding to imbalance across some intersection of space and time. All of it is reflection. All of it is here to teach us. Navigating any of it is part of both individual and collective destinies, serving purposes that may be beyond our current understanding—or, at times, simple reminders to pause, reflect, and do something different.

I view all forms of medicine—from the indigenous and ancestral to the contemporary and externally developed, from the holistic and spiritual to the pharmaceutical, from the subtle and energetic to the invasive and extractive—as valid. Each exists on a spectrum of efficacy that depends on a variety of factors, including one’s belief systems, readiness, and the needs of the moment.

The first iteration of this resource came out in 2021 and was specific to COVID and the COVID vaccine, created in response to all that people were navigating—on top of the virus itself. Now that it has lived out that phase of life, what’s aligned is to share the same core messages, applicable to any experience of misalignment—what Zoran referred to as a “gap in health” and “missing information” across any part of the system.

Whether you’re dealing with an acute or chronic condition, I pray the reflections and considerations below support a shift in perspective—so you may remember what is possible and reclaim your sense of empowerment and agency as you begin or continue your healing journey.

A Note on Discernment and Personal Responsibility

I am not a medical practitioner. The suggestions offered in this guide are based on intuition, personal experience, and consultation with trusted practitioners. Please trust your own guidance and consult with professionals you rely on before making any changes to your wellness routines.

Do Research, Maintain Neutrality

Listen to, read, and have conversations with physicians, public health experts, spiritual and esoteric leaders, holistic and naturopathic, and other wise and properly trained individuals who offer sound information from grounded and neutral perspectives

Neutrally consider the factors that make it appropriate, inappropriate, necessary, or unnecessary for you to take a specific route connected to treating or navigating a condition or sickness. If it’s a clear case (in either direction), make your decision with peace.

Be mindful of being derailed by conspiracy theories, fake news, and other information (even from others who have navigated similar challenges) that is intended to bait, stroke, or incite negativity. If they come to you via your digital feeds, through conversations, or suddenly in other ways, immediately disengage or excuse yourself if you are not interested in entertaining them. If you feel compelled to consider them and are confident in your ability to do so with a great degree of neutrality proceed. I encourage the following:

• Before diving too deep, take a moment to breathe, ground, and remind or instruct your consciousness that is has the ability to neutrally receive, process, and convey information regardless of how and from/to whom it is delivered.

• Highlight the pieces of information that catch your attention (and leave the rest), conduct additional research, engage in further inquiry with the trusted, neutral, and unbiased individuals.

• Consider the agenda of those sharing the information as well as your own agenda in receiving it.

Preparation, During, and Aftercare

As you make decisions—or once you have done so—create as much “space” for yourself as possible:

• Clear your schedule as much as you can on the days surrounding your consultation, treatment, procedure, or medication.

• When possible, schedule appointments at times that place the least demand on your energy.

• Prioritize only what is most essential on those days—including conversations with others, especially those you know will require significant energy or focus.

• Let your close family, friends, or others you are in regular contact with know you are focusing on self-care. Offer clear timeframes for your availability, giving yourself extra leeway. You can always return to engagement sooner once your energy allows.

At the same time, spend time—if aligned—with those who love and support you without placing demands on your energy. Find a rhythm between solitude and connection that feels nourishing. Know who you’re dealing with, and invite the right people to be part of your support team.

Be in or near nature—ocean, forest, mountain, river—as much as possible. If that isn’t accessible, use proxies that support your imagination in evoking a similar feeling. For example:

• Small-scale or miniature items: A bowl of water (ocean); a potted plant (forest); rain on the window or water flowing along a sidewalk (river).

• Visuals: Look at photos, watch videos, or create drawings.

• Audio: Listen to nature sounds or step outside and take in the sounds around you.

• Scent: Use fragrances that evoke the natural world.

Nourish your body in ways that support its strength and alignment with your healing. For example:

• Eat grounding, clean, natural foods that your body requires.

• Be mindful of sugar, preservatives, overly processed foods, and other ingredients that may be harmful to your system.

• Eat the amount your body needs at times that support your digestion and circadian rhythm.

• Offer gratitude or prayer for your meal, for all that contributed to making it possible (including yourself), and for your body as it receives and processes the nourishment.

Engage in physical movement that brings ease and joy, according to your current capacity. For example:

• Take gentle walks

• Go swimming

• Dance—virtually or in person

• Rotate your joints in the morning and/or before bed

Above all, express gratitude to your body and for your life in all the ways you can. Gratitude is a powerful alchemizer.

• Thank your body for waking up, for functioning however it does, and for the ways it may be teaching you through this experience.

• Say aloud:
  I trust your intelligence to do what is needed to receive, utilize, and integrate the information being provided to me through this [consultation, procedure, medication, etc.], and to release anything that does not support or serve me.

Regardless of It All, Consider the Lesson

Consider the perspective that, on some level, your spirit may have attracted or arranged this experience to offer a lesson—one that you, those around you, or even the collective might not have learned otherwise.

If this idea feels overwhelming, pause and take a breath.

Touch your head to the Earth. Give yourself a hug—or, if you’re with someone who can hold space neutrally, ask them for one. Stay here for a moment and simply be, allowing yourself to process the emotional and energetic weight of this perspective.

When you feel more regulated, gently explore the deeper message within your experience:

• Reflect on where you may be out of alignment—physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually—with yourself, with others, or with the Earth. (The ritual below may support this process.)

• Acknowledge whether you’ve taken the necessary precautions—or not—and how that has impacted you internally and externally.

• If needed, offer forgiveness—to yourself or another—to release any lingering energetic attachment to a past version of yourself or them.

• Ask for the courage and discipline to recognize what needs to shift. And when you're ready, set the clear, embodied intention to make a change.

Suggestions and Resources:

• Consider spiritual, energy or body work as part of your ongoing wellness:

  • ONYI LOVE services:

    • PureBioenergy

    • Sound Immersion

    • D.N.A. Activation

    • (W)holistic Alignment Consultation

  • Ifá divination (Dafa): Ile Orunmila Afedefeyo

  • Additional healer collectives, networks and platforms:

    • Universal Mother

    • We Still Move

    • Zula Den

• Listen to soothing music:

  • FORIBALE album

  • Songs of Soothing album

• Consider immune-supporting plants, herbs, vitamins, and supplements. Some sources include:

  • River Rose Remembrance by Layla Feghali of River Rose

  • Sacred Vibes Apothecary by Empress Karen Rose

• Pray for the ability to:

  1. Trust yourself, your body's intelligence, and your learning journey

  2. Use everything—no matter what—for positive transformation

Ritual for Clarity + Release

An intuitive practice for when you feel unclear, fearful, or overwhelmed—especially in the face of difficult choices.

Use this ritual to create space for self-guided insight and emotional release, particularly when navigating illness, decision-making, or transformation.

Suggested timing:

• Option 1: During the daytime when you can devote at least 1 hour to the experience.

• Option 2: At night, about 1 hour before sleep. Keep your pen and journal by your bed to record any dreams or recognitions upon waking.

Steps:

1. Gather your items: a candle, a clear glass of water, pen, and paper or journal.

2. Go to a quiet place. Sit comfortably on the floor or in a chair with your feet grounded. Breathe deeply 3 times and say a prayer for clarity.

3. Light the candle. Gaze into the water and say:
   “Body, reveal to me in a clear way any negativity I am holding around…” Choose one:

   1. This experience in its entirety

   2. Choosing or considering any course of action

   3. Moving forward with [the course of action you know is most aligned, but that brings up the most fear]

4. Breathe deeply 3 more times. Write down what comes.

5. Repeat steps 3–4, replacing “body” with “heart,” “mind,” and “spirit.”

6. Place one hand on your heart and the other on your head. Say aloud:
   “I am powerful. I make decisions from a place of peace and trust. I am grateful for the ability to choose what I prefer. I am in command of my existence.”

7. Breathe deeply 3 more times. Blow out the candle and pour the water onto the Earth—either outside or into a plant pot.

8. Sit quietly. Listen and write down anything that arises.

9. Repeat this ritual if needed, up to three times in one week, allowing at least one full day between each repetition.

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Fix your crown.

This spine-straightening message is one I received through the shattering of my B-note crystal bowl earlier this spring. In fact, it may have been the most poignant.

The timing and circumstances were ironic and far from ideal: I was in the middle of setting up my bowls to offer a Sound Immersion at a community care clinic when a part of my loose-fitting pants caught on the bowl and tipped it over where it sat.

I barely had time to process the shock, annoyance, sadness, and grief. Or perhaps I moved through those emotions at rapid speed due to years of deep practice in emotional alchemy.

But…

I listened—literally and metaphorically.

I had been listening even prior to the break.

Around this time—mid-May through the end of June—last year, I was abroad, experiencing myself from another perspective. Throughout my travels in Spain (Barcelona, Tarragona, Madrid), the Canary Islands (Tenerife North), and Germany (Greifenstein-Allendorf, Frankfurt), I workshopped myself in living with more ease and softness: being myself, letting go of the fear of strangers (and men in particular), going with the flow, and trusting.

Taking the trip in and of itself was a practice of courage. Barcelona, a city I had first visited in 2017, began calling me to return in mid-2023. I resisted initially, in light of what I believed to be my financial limitations; however, as I had done in the past, I listened to the subtle, persistent knocks to embark on my adventure.

It became evident, even prior to the start of the trip, that there was an unlocking, releasing, and surrendering I was being guided toward—something that could only occur by leaving. I needed to ground deeply in a different place in order to move through a return and resettling that was jarring. I was smacked in the face with a recognition of the behavior my spirit was calling me to end, in order to anchor and stabilize in a new way.

My acclamation back into the U.S. kicked my ass. A great deal around and within me crumbled. I am deeply grateful for the years of ori and other spiritual work I have been doing that allowed me to recognize this breakdown as an opportunity for breakthrough.

Spirit held a mirror to my face and encouraged me to clearly see the ways I was reflecting characteristics of the States that I often complained about. How was I expressing the energy of hardness or difficulty? Where did I hold onto heaviness and darkness? What elements of my being were matching my home environment? When would I wake up to the beliefs I was holding onto that were preventing me from being the lighter version of myself that I am abroad?

The self-development work I did from summer 2024 through almost summer now, in 2025, required a great deal of emotional and mental resilience, dedication, and discipline. I also needed to adjust my physical movement to ground and anchor myself in new ways that could truly hold all of the movement happening throughout my etheric bodies.

I practiced responding to and setting boundaries with people in ways foreign (and frightening) to my past selves. I unfollowed just about everyone from various social media platforms and continued my overall pivot around these virtual spaces. I dropped the remaining residual threads of “niceness” in order to act in ways that displayed more kindness and compassion toward myself.

The ways in which I had exhausted myself on so many fronts became painfully obvious to me. And I had to take responsibility for my choices to allow it all—and also devote myself to the mission of releasing responsibility for what wasn’t (and had never been) mine.

The work of En-lighten-ment is not for the faint of heart. But for those who are willing to uninstall their personal history and be different, it truly is heart-expanding and enriching.

In the beginning of this recent process, I recognized that a minor tweak in my language was a major key to my transformation: I had been accustomed to the word overextension, and thus imagined that I needed to end that behavior. However, I cannot give beyond myself, because all I have is myself. Rather, I had to see where I was extending myself from anything other than peace and joy—proving myself, saving/protecting others, avoiding my desires, etc.

Giving—and, in other ways, taking action—from those places had exhausted me on so many levels. If I was going to survive, let alone step into the spectrum of new and more aligned containers, I had to cut it out. I needed to break my loop—otherwise I would break myself.

Thank you, B-bowl, for being a reflection of both what was needed and also what was already in the works.

The note B, to some, is connected to the crown chakra. As a spiritual/healing practitioner, a musician, and one who is clear that you heal yourself, my perspective is that any note or tone can provide any energy center or part of your being with an opportunity to heal. However, I do appreciate the function of permission slips for the catalysts, signposts, and synchronicities that they are.

As a descendant of my particular ancestors, a child of my specific parents, an initiate of Ọṣun and Ọbatala, and a lover of (and one who is loved by) all the Orisa, Irunmole, and other expressions of spirit, the instruction through the break—connected to the crown chakra—is a simple yet profound consolidation of their instructions to…

• Clear the behavior of extending myself from lack and doubt

• Remember who I am: a reflection of the All That Is, in the ways only I can express

• End the struggling, striving, and stressing around “success”

• In all ways, remember my worth, value, regality, and dignity

I pray we remember ourselves so fully that we pull ourselves out of the limitations and delusions we have reduced ourselves to navigating—individually and collectively.

Life is massive—even within the minuscule reflections of it.
Our spirits are massive—beyond (though including) these temporary bodies we’ve chosen.

Fix your crowns.

They deserve it.

You deserve them—if you know you do.

Deepest gratitude to everyone who contributed toward the replacement of my B-note crystal bowl. I send prayers of abundance to your crowns. Your àṣẹ is woven into the vibrational fabric.

I bless you. They bless you.

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This season (or perhaps lately) some of you may have been asking yourselves:

• How can I open myself to receive the new blessings of this season?

• In what ways can I tend to the seeds of my dreams with greater trust and devotion?

• What old stories, patterns, or energies are ready to be transmuted now?

• How can I move through inner resistance and trust the timing of my growth?

• What have I been overlooking that could shift everything for me?

You want to know something special:

This message is being released into the ethers at a time when we’re about two-thirds through spring, and just one month away from the Summer Solstice—which will take place on Friday, June 20, at 7:41 PM Pacific Standard Time, in the Northern Hemisphere.

While these specific locational markers are meaningful to me and those who share in them, I invite those of you outside this timeframe to embrace this reflection anyway. As with all the messages that flow into and through me, this one is timeless—it will do what it needs to do, whenever, for whomever, and however it is needed

But to focus on those of us currently in springtime... what has come to me is that many are still stubbornly holding onto—or imagining they are being held against their will by—negative beliefs, or simply outdated ones, regardless of the charge assigned to them.

As we continue to spin through a myriad of social, political, environmental, and global experiences (madness was actually the first word that came to mind), Spirit keeps showing me the consequences of weighing ourselves down with that which does not support or serve us, individually and collectively.

We literally will not… cannot… survive it if we don't lighten up.

Harnessing the energy of this spring season—a time of new beginnings, warmth, rebirth, hope, beauty, and renewal—is not only strategic but deeply supportive.

For those of you who are ready to finally begin, or even complete, the work, this ritual for alchemizing beliefs is for you.

To alchemize something is to transform its nature through a process often considered magical. However, consider that there is magic in what we perceive as mundane. By doing so, you open up a whole world of possibilities from which to choose.

For those who are confused but know something needs to change, this is for you too.

And for those unwilling—at least for now—to step into the space of courage called I remember my power and freedom to choose how I respond to and utilize everything, it's okay.

That choice, too, is valid.

When you are ready for something different, this resource (or one that is more aligned) will meet you.

What You Will Need

• The desire, willingness, and courage to be strategic with and resilient in the face of your negative beliefs—or any belief, for that matter, that is no longer relevant for you, regardless of its energetic nature.

• 2 sheets of paper and a writing instrument. (For this work, I highly recommend handwriting on physical paper rather than typing into an electronic device.)

• A bowl of water that can be placed under or next to your bed without disturbance.

The Process

Step 1

At the top of both sheets of paper, write:

#1: All beliefs are valid and have equal weight.

(See the section Working with Negative Beliefs below if there is a trigger, or if you're just curious. Otherwise, proceed.)

Step 2

Ground yourself in ways that align for you.

Place one hand on your head and the other on your heart.

Take 3 deep, nourishing breaths.

Ask out loud: Body, what beliefs are you ready to alchemize at this time?

Wait for at least one minute.

Write down up to 8 beliefs that come up, numbering them starting at #2 (you already have #1 as provided above).

Step 3

Read the list aloud, starting from #1. Read each belief with conviction — no matter how negative some (or all) may be.

Take your time. If you find yourself having a response — no matter what it is — let the energy shift itself. Breathe, move, shake, dance through it all as needed.

Step 4

Put the list down.

Place one hand on your head and the other on your heart.

Take 3 deep, nourishing breaths.

Say aloud: I give gratitude for the opportunity and courage to alchemize these beliefs.

Step 5

On the second sheet of paper, write down the positive, elevated, or newly preferred expressions of the beliefs from the first list.

For example, if #2 on list one is:
I will never find true love,
a counterpart on list two could be:
There is an abundance of love within, outside of, and for me.

Step 6

Read the second list aloud, starting from #1. Read each belief with as much conviction as (if not more than) how you read the first list.

This time, touch your head to the ground after reading each belief.

With each head-to-Earth touch, really imagine the energy of connection, grounding, and rewiring.

If you find yourself having a response — no matter what it is — let the energy shift itself. Breathe, move, shake, dance through it all as needed.

Step 7

Put the list down.

Place one hand on your head and the other on your heart.

Take 3 deep, nourishing breaths.

Say aloud: I give gratitude for the opportunity and courage to integrate and embody these new beliefs.

Step 8

Take the bowl of water and speak words of gratitude into it.

Ask that it continue the alchemical and cleansing work in your sleep and dreaming.

Place the bowl of water under your bed (if possible) or on the ground next to it.

Step 9

Place the list with the positive/elevated/new preferred beliefs under your pillow.

Put the list with the old/negative beliefs aside in a pile that is not in your way.

Step 10

Document everything that comes up after you wake up the next day (and throughout the day).

Remove the list from under your pillow and either keep it, or place it with the other list and choose how to release them: rip and discard, burn, bury—do whatever feels most aligned.

Working with Negative Beliefs

In the event there is some triggering around the idea of all beliefs being valid or the practice of saying your negative beliefs aloud…

Consider the perspective that regardless of our preference for something, the fact that it exists is evidence of its validity — because otherwise it wouldn't be here.

However, something being valid does not equate to us preferring, liking, loving, agreeing with it, or in other ways condoning it. Multiple truths can exist at the same time.

For the purpose of this ritual, we are playing with the idea that many of us give more weight to our negative beliefs than our positive beliefs — and thus keep ourselves stuck under the illusion of their power over us.

I have literally heard individuals espouse the belief that negativity outweighs positivity and cite statistics around it. I am choosing a different perspective by giving them all the same weight; hence, including the step of writing the same line on both sheets of paper.

I find there is grace and acceptance in this practice of equity. It moves in a different direction than what we are accustomed to doing — invalidating what we don't prefer — in light of our conditioning. Making this radical choice lends itself to the process of neutralization and alchemy.

If we choose the belief that All beliefs are valid and equally weighted, then there is no reason the new and positive beliefs you choose through conducting this ritual could not easily take the place of — and be just as true as — the negative beliefs.

It is always our choice as to which direction we focus our energy.

To lean into what is truly coming up around the trigger here is to catch any ways in which you are tricking yourself away from your metamorphosis.

All of that being said: if you cannot get past the triggers — if you have a taboo against any degree of proximity to speaking negativity about yourself given specific sensitivities you need to be mindful of — release the ritual and do something else that works for you.

You get to choose. Life is abundant. There are an infinite number of practices, modalities, permission slips, and other resources to help you help yourself.

The ability and courage to say "No" to something that truly isn't aligned for you is a powerful thing.

Final Note

Conducting this ritual even once can be powerful. Even if the shifts feel subtle, they are absolutely happening.

If it feels aligned to engage with the practice a few days in a row, or to spread it out over a specific timeframe, listen to yourself. Trust the rhythm of your own becoming.

After you’ve had a moment to sit with the embodied practice of it all, you may find that you can more easily answer the questions…

• How can I create a ritual for transformation that aligns with nature's cycles?

• What role does belief-alchemizing play in healing and personal growth?

• Why is Spring the perfect time to begin this type of transformational work?

After all…

You are the alchemist, the dreamer, the creator.

And as always, if your curiosity and inquiry linger, if you wish to dive deeper into these or other questions, or if you want to explore more practices, resources, and support for your journey:

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Introduction:

In this part, I share the powerful wisdom I gained from my teacher Diana Willoughby, may she rest in peace. Diana was an integral part of my spiritual path, particularly in helping me understand and revere the presence of our other-than-human beings as sovereign entities with their own destinies, paths, and experiences that have nothing to do with us human beings. Have you ever encountered a spiritual guide whose presence shaped your path in ways you never imagined? And yet, these beings, in their independence, are reflections to help us remember who we are. How do you perceive the relationship between humans and the other-than-human beings that share this world with us?

I also offer my own terms and insights, shaped by the teachings I received from Diana as well as my personal experiences, including but not limited to my encounters with Mouse. What lessons have you learned from those who have come before you, and how do they continue to influence your journey today? If you haven’t yet, I encourage you to read Parts 1 and 2 of this series, as they offer deeper context to my perspective on animal spirit guides and the messages they bring.

Diana’s legacy lives strong within me, nurtured alongside what I learn through my practice of Ifa and Orisa priestesshood. What role does curiosity play in your spiritual path, and how does it lead to greater connection with your guides and the Earth? Through this, I continue to deepen my reverence for this beautiful Earth and the blessing of Life itself.

Key/Medicine terms for this Animal Guide from Diana: 

• Stealth

• Agility 

• Adaptability

• Boldness

• Herbalism 

• Using Surroundings as Protection

• Attention to Detail

• Gift of Communication

• Sensing the Way 

• Making Use of Available Resources

A few additional words based on my experience: 

Trusting Life • Courage • Watchfulness • Creativity • Determination 

Not Seeing Size as a Hinderance • Doing Something Different

Overall Message from this Big Little Being We Call Mouse:

If you’ve been putting off anything because you think you aren’t _______ enough, stop it right now. Whatever description your mind—or another person—has thrown at you about who you are has no bearing on who you actually are. Think about how tiny Mouse is compared to almost everything else around it, yet it is still incredibly bold and determined. It goes for it, often making a run for it when necessary. If there are skills or other things required to do what you desire, then make them part of your excitement.

Additionally, don’t overlook the people, places, things, relationships, or any other experiences that are—or are perceived or described as—“small” or insignificant. First, nothing is insignificant in the eyes of The All That Is, Olodumare, the Universe, or whatever term, name, or description we give to the energy, essence, being, or concept we see as beyond—or “bigger” than—us.

While everything may not be relevant to us at all times or at a specific moment, it is still worthy and necessary. It is also the combination of the “little” things that creates the “big” things. Be with, appreciate, and learn through (and from) them. Tackling or navigating the small will not only give you the fortitude and experience to deal with the big—but perhaps also show you that the big things aren’t so big after all. What small things have you overlooked lately that may be holding a key to something greater?

Closing Reflections & Invitations

Thank you for journeying with me through this three-part story of Mouse—one small being with a massive message. Consider the following questions as you reflect on this creature, my reflections, or any other parallel (even if seemingly unrelated) visitation or experience that is showing up in your life at this time:

• What small things in your life might be carrying big medicine?

• Are there patterns, animals, signs, or encounters you’ve dismissed because they seemed too ordinary to matter?

• What messages might be waiting for you in the margins, the quiet spaces, the overlooked moments?

These are the kinds of questions I love to explore with clients and communities—especially with those who lead, create, heal, and serve.

If you’re a healer, artist, leader, or visionary (or an organization that supports them) and want to dive deeper into the sacred wisdom encoded in your everyday experiences, let’s connect. You can reach out through my Contact page or explore current offerings in my Marketplace.

And if this story stirred something in you, I invite you to explore the Animal Spirit Guides Library inside Simply Spiritual, my on-demand teaching platform. Mouse is just one of over 80 beings included—each entry offering visual art, energetic messages, and spiritual insight designed to help you reawaken your connection with the natural world—and yourself.

This work is a prayer, a practice, and an invitation.
May it support your path with clarity, presence, and trust.

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Introduction

Welcome back to Mouse in the House—Part 2 of this three-part series. If you haven’t read Part 1 yet, I invite you to check it out to get the full context of my interactions with Mouse. In this second part, I’ll share another encounter with this tiny creature, one that left me reflecting on the profound nature of endings and transitions in our own lives.

Have you ever had an encounter with an animal that seemed to speak to a moment of transition or change in your life? How can we interpret the timing and presence of these animals, especially in moments of stillness or quiet? What if an unexpected goodbye or subtle shift was actually pointing toward a necessary opening for something new? As you read this part, think about how changes—both big and small—might be arriving in your life. What could this moment be teaching you?

Story

In my more recent mouse sighting—which inspired this post—I noticed a little one in my altar space. What struck me was that it maintained a degree of stillness within my presence. While it did scurry about, it wasn’t at the speed or with the franticness that I’ve witnessed in the past. In that moment, I decided to have a bit of compassion (and to move past my frustration) and give it a little bit of food. I was also a bit tired and decided to put off setting up a humane trap until the next day. I wasn’t pressed and knew I’d catch it. I took a little piece of fruit and a piece of a macaroon, placed them on the ground not too far from the mouse, and walked away.

I returned an hour or so later to see if my temporary guest had made off with the offerings. It had not. The next day, I returned to that room and noticed the mouse laying lifeless on the ground. It all made sense to me—the stillness/lack of scurried movement was due to it being on the verge of transition. I’m really grateful I listened to the voice that said to leave it alone and be at peace. Regardless of why the mouse passed, I know that I didn’t immediately contribute to any of its suffering.

I placed the mouse’s body on the Earth next to one of my hibiscus trees, went back in the house, and looked up the spiritual symbolism for the mouse in general, but a dead mouse in particular. One of the descriptions I found to be interesting came from the Blissful Counts website:

"A dead mouse might be seen as a symbol of something ending to make way for something new. Like I was closing one door and opening another. It could be a personal change or something bigger in life."

This message resonated on many levels, given the massive changes I felt were coming into my life—and the subtle/small clues I had seen about such. I also literally found the mouse right next to a door that was half open/closed—the orientation of which could have given it the impression of going in either direction. This placement spoke to the energy of certain doors needing to close in order for others to open.

Since then, how my life has unfolded—across my relationships, career, travel, and so much more—has been a testament to the beautiful blessing this little one’s presence in my life has been, even if, on the surface, it appeared in a manner that was unfortunate or negative.

Life (which includes death) is filled with opportunities—reflected in a spectrum of beings—for us to see and become more of ourselves. The more we release assumptions, judgments, and fears about how things need to appear, the better able we are to use all of it for positive benefit.

The End

Stay tuned for Part 3, where we’ll break down the full symbolism of Mouse—both the literal and metaphorical meanings of this powerful animal guide. I’ll share insights from my teacher, Diana, and explore how we can apply the wisdom of Mouse to our own journey of transformation and growth. How have endings in your life led to new beginnings? What doors are you standing in front of, waiting for the right moment to open?

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Introduction

Welcome to the first part of Mouse in the House, a three-part series where I’ll be sharing personal stories, reflections, and lessons inspired by the small yet powerful guide we call Mouse. This series delves into the wisdom of animal guides and explores how they can show up in our lives, often in the most unexpected ways.

In today’s post, I’m taking you back to a memorable encounter I had with Mouse—an experience from over a year ago that still resonates with me today. This moment brought me full circle with a story from 2020, reminding me of the deep spiritual messages these tiny creatures can bring. Inspired by the wisdom shared with me by my teacher Diana (may she rest in peace), and by my own insights, I want to share the teachings that Mouse has to offer.

Have you ever experienced a small creature that had a huge impact on your spiritual journey? What lessons can we learn from animals, no matter their size or form? Through this story, I invite you to reflect on how we can embrace boldness, trust life, and recognize the immense power that even the smallest creatures hold. How can we apply the wisdom of animal guides like Mouse to our own lives?

Enjoy the journey, and let the lessons of Mouse help you tap into your creativity, adaptability, and courage as we move through this series together.

Story

One evening, I heard a bit of shuffling in the ceiling area around my cabinets. Now, my property is full of critters—some small, and some larger than small—that occasionally scurry across the roof. These types of sounds are not unusual for me. However, the more I listened, the more distinct the noises on this particular day seemed. They were closer and persistent.

I went into my office space moments after taking note of the louder-than-typical sounds, and that’s when I saw the tail rapidly moving across the room! For a moment, I freaked! But then, the “Oh hell no” energy kicked in. And for the next several hours, I spent my time and effort chasing, scheming, hiding, etc. I went into full sleuthing predator-ish mode with absolutely no shame. At one point, the little one ran into an open cabinet, turned to face me, and just stared. And I stared back. And we both just stayed unflinching in our stances, staring at each other.

After a few moments, given who I am (I had also just come from saying prayers at my altars), the only thing that came to me to do was to sing to my visitor. Yup! I sure did. I sang Oṣun (Oshun) songs to him/her. I figured [my] Spirit was using this messenger to teach me something. So why not show gratitude through song and ask it to leave quickly? Otherwise, I would have to consider other, less humane methods of capturing it/escorting it outside.

After the serenade session and a few more attempts at cornering Mouse, I gave up for a moment and went to bed (or rather, I laid down hoping to fall asleep); but my mind was fixated on the creature, as I continued to hear it scurrying around. Additionally, the thought of it making its way into my bedroom was less than desirable. So I got up and made final attempts to usher it out; and that is when I remembered that I could just open the back door to the one room it had chosen as its main escape/hiding place. After moving through some concerns about keeping that door wide open for other things and beings to possibly enter, I just surrendered, left the door wide open for some time, and called it a night (it was almost twilight by then). I prayed that my friend would be gone later that day.

After waking up, I checked the areas Mouse had traversed and saw nothing. I walked loudly throughout the area, banged on a few items, and listened. Not a sound.

The groundskeeper—whom I had given a heads-up to the evening before—told me to let him know if it ended up still being there.

It didn’t.

And this mouse never returned.

The End.

Stay tuned for Part 2 of Mouse in the House, where I’ll share an unexpected encounter with Mouse that led me to reflect on compassion, surrender, and the quiet wisdom we gain through the cycles of life and death. This encounter opened my eyes to the deeper meanings of transition and how even in endings, there can be profound lessons.

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Part 1

I send prayers, peace, and sweetness to the spirits of all those who have lost their lives—and continue to lose them—in Israel and Gaza, in light of the fact that we can't get our isssh together. I send condolences to your families and loved ones, as they experience not only the anguish of losing you but also the fear and anger surrounding what continues to occur.

As you join Eegun (Ancestors) in Orun (spirit realm/heaven), I pray that you collectively illuminate that we know what we need to do in order to change our behavior.

As we remember your lives, may we dig deep and remember our humanity.

May we recognize that we know better, and stop feigning ignorance.

May we not blind ourselves with sorrow and hatred; instead, may we surrender to a love and hope that remembers we’re all in this together.

May your deaths not be in vain; rather, may they ignite true and powerful transformation for the collective good once and for all.

Prayer written 10.9.23.

Part 2

After you have said, read, reflected upon, triggered yourself through, and in any other ways engaged with the above as is, apply it to any other situation occurring today that you can think of. This is the truth of the many dimensions you are witnessing that are colliding right now.

We don’t change the world; we change ourselves and move to a version of Earth that reflects that which we say we prefer [as described by Bashar]. So if we’re in it and seeing it, then we get to reflect something different to those around us who have bought into the idea of their own disempowerment.

If you skipped the above, I encourage you to go back and read—really take your time with it—in case it is showing you something about yourself that you get to alchemize in this moment. The time is ripe and fertile for metamorphosis.

Written 10.9.23 after I thought I had published the post. Spirit made it clear I forgot some things.

Part 3

In light of all the conflicts, arguments, back-and-forth, and all manners of war-ing that we collectively engage in with ourselves, each other, and the Earth (all over Earth), I ask:

~What are we fighting for?

~Is it for breakthrough that supports ALL?

~Is it for peace that supports ALL?

~Is it for understanding that supports ALL?

What is the purpose of fighting when the result continues to be a loss of joy and life for ALL?

The actions of one or a few on any side that take only themselves into consideration are exhausting our collective spirit. We are literally snuffing ourselves out.

We are all one.
We are each other’s reflection.
Our actions affect each other at some point, in some way, in all directions, within and outside of ourselves.
There is no outside.
There is no separation.

The attachment to instant soothing and gratification of one side is detrimental to all of us when we don’t consider the possible effect on all of us.

The buck has to stop somewhere.

Someone has to be a true warrior and reflect that fighting from a pure heart breaks through the corruption.

Someone has to be a true hunter and reflect that we can achieve a goal that supports and sustains all through patience, proper tracking, and knowing the right action to take at the appropriate time.

Someone has to step into the role of a true planter and harvester by planting seeds of positivity and recognizing that even what was planted in times of negativity can still yield positive fruit/crops. It’s not what happens that matters—it’s what you do with what happens. Our character determines it all.

Sending prayers to all of us as we continue to work out our inner conflicts.

Sending prayers to all of us that we stop projecting them onto others.

May we give up the forms of corrupted fighting we engage in, come together, and work toward collective breakthrough, justice, peace, and understanding.

Reflection written 10.9.23 after the first draft of the prayer

Part 4

You can’t be a true warrior when your energy is caught up in fighting [within] yourself.

First of all, not everyone is a warrior.

Granted, and paradoxically, everyone is a bit of everything, and the energies come out whenever we are in situations that require them to do so.

We all have specific roles based on our energetic compositions and destiny. Know what yours is. If everyone is doing the same thing from a place that is not actual or necessary, there is no balance. Plus, there is no diversity, which is quite boring and doesn’t reflect Existence. This idea of or desire for homogeneity that many of us collapse into is quite stifling.

Being a true warrior requires skill, discipline, strategy, patience, discernment, neutrality, and much more. Constant practice, knowledge of your tools/weapons, and wisdom of when and how to use them is crucial.

Also... peace... peace... peace... In Ifa, the traditional Yoruba spiritual, philosophical, and cultural system, there are stories about Ogun, one of the warrior Oriṣa, going out to fight and coming back a peaceful person. If your ultimate intent is not peace, then what is the purpose?

Warriors… if your energy is caught up in your chaos, mind activity, personal history, triggers, or other things that take away from the ability to do what needs to be done with the integrity and intensity it requires, you will be doing something other than what you actually came here to do.

If all of your actions come from a place of imbalance, negative beliefs, and anxiety, you are not serving anyone, including yourself. In fact, you will be a danger to yourself and those you say you are fighting for.

Something has to give. You have to let go. What will it be? Your ego, personality, and/or attachment to the past? Or the work…?

Reflection written sometime in 2020. Reposted on 7.8.2021

Part 5

Onyi Love reciting her reflections and thoughts on what it means to be a true and authentic warrior

From Instagram Livestream on 7.9.2021

Part 6

Watch and listen while breathing slowly, deeply, and easefully.

“Ogun Breakthrough” message and prayer from Onyi Love’s debut album Songs of Soothing.

Recorded in 2019/2020, released in 2020

Part 7

I look forward to a future/version of Earth where we hold our hands together in joy.

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Ritual: Stare into and meditate on the image for 1–5 minutes. Read the full piece below. Come back to the image after and repeat the examination. Reflect on/write about everything that comes up.

Mirror mirror

What do you see?

Mirror mirror

What is seeing you?

The eyes of all are watching the divinity of The All That Is reflected in every one of us.

Realize…

Open your real eyes…

And see yourself as you truly are…

How Olodumare sees you…

And thus Itself.

Those who know me well and have seen my work are aware of how drawn to feathers I am… how instrumental they have been as keys to opening doors leading to deep transformation. So of course, on the day I was to present my ritual story A Tale of 900 Crow Feathers—one of two times at the Oregon Country Fair in July, and the sixth time in general since creating the work—I would stumble upon a vendor selling masks, headpieces, and adornment items made from a beautiful array of feathers. I was stunned by the magnificence of each creation. Some bore feathers with hues I’d never seen in their particular forms.

One mask in particular drew my attention. I stared at it for a few minutes—taking in its configuration and coloration. I was especially struck by the blanched peacock feathers. Again, those who know me (and who practice the tradition I do) know my/our connection with peacock feathers.* I wondered about and asked if they had been manipulated. I also considered that they could be natural. After all, not too long ago, I learned about the existence of white peacocks. I figured these feathers could have come from one of those intriguing and magical beings.

An attendant there (to whom I had posed the question about the authenticity of the colors) mentioned that the creator of the pieces and owner of the shop could tell me everything I wanted to know. She had a special connection with every single feather that contributed to the life of each piece. That news didn’t surprise me: I could feel the vibration of the intentionality and relationships while standing in and moving through their designated space.

The attendant was about to look for the creator, but I stopped her and asked if I could try on the mask holding my gaze. Various levels of my being were engaging It… Them (I will continue referring to this one mask in the proper bolded plural form). I was hearing that I needed to get closer to and intimate with Them. They were observing me as much as I was Them. They were stepping forward as a mirror. “Absolutely!” she said. They said. We all said.

The attendant removed the majestic piece from Their position and prepared to mount Them on my head. I mentioned to her how serendipitous the moment and encounter was given that I was set to speak later that day about ritual through my story. She was delighted to hear this information and shared that a number of their clients used the masks in and for ceremony. That made absolute sense to me—from my perspective, a certain level and practice of reverence was required for truly communing with the majority, if not all, of the pieces. I could feel that the attendant understood this idea given the delicacy with which she handled Them and me. I was instructed on the way to hold Them to be the most helpful to her as she went about her work. I followed and felt it all. As we moved through this adornment ritual together, I noticed the subtle vacillation happening within my emotional body. I was rapidly shifting back and forth between excitement and anxiety.

On the one hand, there was an innate curiosity to see how They would look on me. Part of me knows (or has an idea about) what enhances and aligns with my physical appearance. On the other hand, there was a nervousness that felt both familiar and new-ish.

Familiar: Part of me has held on to a great deal of conditioning and outside projections around how my face is structured (which includes the shape of my head) and other facets we lump into our beliefs about what determines beauty. And a part of [that part] of me negatively judges how I look in anything, regardless of how it actually aligns and works with me.

New-ish: I had this odd fear that I would be disappointed if Their majesty wouldn’t translate when added to me… that I wouldn’t be beautiful in Them.

I’m grateful that another part of me sat in between, and perhaps even hovered over all the others. It is the neutral witness that allows itself to just wait and see what the message is. It knows the lesson will be whatever it needs to be, regardless of the expected or desired outcome.

After the attendant finished tying the strings gently but firmly at the back of my head, she brought me to a mirror. I examined the reflection… taking in and moving through all of the responses and reactions happening in multiple senses across dimensions. “We’re not for you.” I heard. Or perhaps it was “This isn’t me.” I moved through what perhaps was the grief of that recognition. They were still gorgeous. But sitting on my face, something was off.

“How does it feel?” asked the attendant. I was attentive to and gave extra weight to that word: feel. They felt heavy. I knew it was an energetic feeling that was paving the way for healing while simultaneously reflecting healing that had already been done. I shared what was coming up with the attendant and our conversations continued to shape my reflections. As we spoke, a few people walked by—some extending flattering compliments through words, and some offering looks of admiration and fascination. Throughout it all, They continued telling me They weren’t for me.

After having Them removed, again with assistance and the energy of ceremony, I walked around to see if there was a more aligned mask. I don’t know why I was so intent on finding “the one”—especially because my bank account at the time wasn’t going to let me be great by purchasing any one of them. Nevertheless, I insisted on continuing my search. With all these beautiful pieces, surely there had to be one that would work. Then…

BOOM!

Lightning bolt.

Illumination.

I felt/heard/understood:

STOP HIDING!

I realized that Their presence in my life at this particular crossroads of space and time had been to show me that no matter how beautiful the covering(s), they would be an obstruction that contributed to the energy of hiding. Given all the work I have done to step out, They were encouraging me to continue moving forward and toward the direction of being seen. Within this portal (disguised as a feather mask shop) I had to make the decision as to whether I would collapse back and [dis]integrate [into] old versions of me, or continue propelling myself forward in the fullness of my presence. Doing the latter would heal them—the multitude of past me—along the way.

Wow!

Of course I was in a bit of resistance upon the initial shock of the message; and I gave myself grace for that. There was no rush. I knew I was in the process of alchemy and integration. The energy was rippling through and shifting my DNA. I allowed for whatever time was needed to ground into the shifts occurring. The process is the point, and every moment along the experience is perfect as it is, no matter what it is.

I asked to see a piece that covered less of my face—thinking partial obstruction was the issue. Similar to Them, it was adorned with peacock feathers, but of the coloring I am most familiar with. Surely this one would look “better” on me. As I began to mount it on my face (it required less assistance than They did), I already knew: Nope. It’s still you hiding. I humored myself anyway by completing the placement and observing myself in the same mirror. “No. Hiding.” said myself through the mirror. “You are enough. You are beautiful. No need to add anything to make you more.” The whisper of my consciousness through the collective voices of all the pieces in that store was uplifting.

Old beliefs, ideas, and notions were being brought up, drowned out, blown away, burned through in order to allow the recognitions of worthiness, value, beauty, and other existential affirmations to crystallize in new ways. The Ọṣun within and around me had seeped in and through that space and time to remind me of who I am as seen through her eyes: a reflection of God’s beauty and love. How can I not be—I exist. Period.

No matter how much past versions of me who chose hiding show up in any moment to persuade me to play out their old behaviors, the present version of me REMEMBERS who I came here to be… who I am. My message to the collective of past me:

Thank you for what you chose (on some level) to experience.

I am healed.

I am different.

I’m not you.

You too are beautiful.

You always have been.

You always will be.

You can choose something different.

I will show you the way.

I love you.

I am grateful to THEM for helping me see myself even more clearly. Perhaps we will meet again one day. And if we do, I look forward to what They will share with that version of me.

Questions for Reflection and Soulful Inquiry:

1. What masks do you wear and why? How do they serve or protect you, and in what ways do they hold you back from revealing your true self?

2. In what areas of your life are you hiding your authentic self? What fears or beliefs might be influencing this hiding?

3. Who do you prefer to be, and how does this ideal version of yourself align with your true nature?

4. What does freedom mean for you on a personal and spiritual level? How does it feel to embrace your true self, free from limitations?

5. Who (or what) has inspired you to show up as more of yourself? How did they encourage you to stop hiding and step into your authenticity? If this person, situation, or source of inspiration is accessible to you, take a moment to express your gratitude. Perhaps reach out and say thank you for their role in your journey.

6. How can you release limiting beliefs and embrace self-empowerment to continue moving forward in the fullness of your presence?

PS…

The majority of the above was written months ago, during my time in Oregon this past July. I had started typing notes in my phone for what I thought would be a short social media post reflecting on my mask encounter. It became clear it was more. I emailed the initial draft to myself then, imagining I would finish and post it after returning from my trip. I completely forgot about it. It wasn’t until a few days ago that I was reminded of it after my friend Camille sent pictures we had taken with our friend Sanyu at an art exhibit. I was struck by my reflection and something I had never noticed (or rather, had often judged negatively). Our reflections about how we see ourselves versus how others see us, and the image of the mirror, brought the mask story back to mind. So much gratitude to my sister friends for being my reflections. So much gratitude to the artwork of Ragni Agarwal for the activation and reminder!

PPS: On peacock feathers…

I was listening to a message my Baba recently sent in our community chat room about Ọṣun's connection to peacock/peacock feathers from scriptures within our sacred text. It was a new layer for me as I had somehow had the impression that her association with peacock feathers was more of a diasporic adaptation versus an element from the Iṣeṣe—i.e., traditional expression—of Ifa and Oriṣa. It was a simple yet beautiful message that adds a sweet layer to the reflection I share above, signifying that Ọṣun is always looking out for me, in all the ways.

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I send peace, love, and prayers to every corner of the globe as we navigate the floodgates, infernos, storms, quakes… all movements of Aye (Earth) in light of and in response to the actions of humanity across all levels of our being. We are a microcosm of the macro. Everything is a reflection… there is only connection… the outside and the inside are one.

I hold space as upheaval, exposure, destruction, revolution, and so much more is occurring throughout structures, systems, ideologies… on collective and individual levels.

Moforíbalẹ̀ (I touch my head to ground)… to all patches of Aye, as it simultaneously holds space for and experiences the shifts that are giving us an opportunity to slow down…

STOP

LISTEN

FEEL

SEE IT ALL

If we can’t observe the dis-ease, we can’t heal it. We are witnessing, co-creating, and contending with everything we’ve created in ways we can no longer escape, scapegoat, or go past. To continue ignoring (or feigning ignorance about) it gives it permission to fester. Everything grows. Everything consumes or is consumed—oftentimes both are happening concurrently.

How energy moves, whether positive, neutral, or negative, is 100% completely up to us. This is no value judgment or moral indictment—our fixation on defining things as “good” or “bad” is part of our challenge because we have yet to demonstrate that we can come to agreements that have reverence and regard for all of us collectively. Consider that positive energy expands, constructively adds, integrates, and uplifts; negative energy segregates, destructively removes, depresses. Neutrality holds space in the center, ebbing and flowing in all directions depending on our intention.

What are we choosing?

As challenging, painful, and even devastating as much of what is happening is, we have the power (and right) to alchemize and integrate it. That which was once bitter can pave the way for or even become sweet as we experience the illumination and lessons it offers up.

Is enough finally enough?

Or do we need to sit with suffering longer?

Will we surrender to the transformation that continues to call us?

Or will we stubbornly hold on to old/outdated/irrelevant ways of being that are incongruent with the evolution of the masses?

The choice is ours.

Life will keep life-ing no matter what we choose. And if that means we get taken out, again it is the future of the acts we choose.

We get to decide whether we don’t—or we do—come together as we never have before to support each other and take concrete steps that truly lead to the versions of ourselves and this Earth we say we prefer. They already exist. It’s up to us to elevate our frequencies to match and become them. To imagine we have any business on versions of the world(s) that we are not aligned with in thought, word, and deed is to maintain the various threads of delusion that we have created across our illusions of time and space.

We get to decide whether we follow the examples of Ọṣun and Ọbatala… (deities within the Ifa system of the Yorùbá people) who in their unique ways provide roadmaps for a sweet existence. Ọṣun—through her divine femininity, emotional intelligence, overflowing joy, unconditional love, true sensuality, a deep love for humanity, creativity, ethics, beauty (of body and character), and so much more. Ọbatala—through his divine masculinity, mental intelligence, patience, peace, elderhood, coolness, wisdom, knowledge and understanding, ability to see from the highest perspective, and so much more.

Choose whomever you decide is the most potent reflection for you across any system, belief, methodology, dimension, realm, or timeline. The Ọriṣa (selected heads), ascended masters, saints, and others we put on pedestals or look upon as if they are above and beyond us are glaring back at us as if to collectively ask, “What are you doing with the permission we reminded you of through how we showed up in this world?” How about we stop using their names if we’re not going to actually do what they did by being the difference they demonstrated, regardless of the price? The vanity of it all is a distraction and continues to maintain the bitterness we so desperately claim we can’t tolerate.

Honey keeps speaking as I channel this writing. As an offering we (Ifa practitioners) commonly give to Ọṣun, Ọbatala, other energies/beings, and even parts of us (i.e., our Ori, etc.), it is a beautiful permission slip. It, like all else, is an entity that came here with a powerful mission and destiny.

The potency and healing energy of this gift lies not only in its sweetness but also in its purity. Look up its medicinal properties to see all of the things it is anti! Honey is ruthless. It does not allow anything that is not vibrationally aligned to reside within or around it. It will take it out in one way or another, even if that entails sticking to/incorporating it. Honey has been through (and exists because of) various levels of transformation. To begin from the nectar and pollen of the high-vibrational beings we call “flowers,” to then go through the extraction, processing, holding, and protection by/of creatures as delicate and as fierce as bees… Honey is more powerful than some of us often consider!

Honey is showing up right now as a messenger to all of us: asking us to trust that the transmuting energies of these times are giving us the opportunity to step into a level of ruthlessness we’ve never had before. We get to truly and unapologetically be who we are… who we came here to be in our purest form. We must resign from pretending to be who we are not, which we’ve been accustomed to doing in light of ideas of lack of worth, fear of being alone, or any other conditioning. This detrimental behavior has caused us to buy into and perpetuate a sugar-laced temporary if not artificial state of placation. The process of our evolution has prepared us for this moment. We get to step into the goldenness of a new era that is already here. The phoenix is rising. The phoenix has risen. The phoenix continues to do the dance of dying to and birthing itself. Turning what is bitter into sweet and starting the process all over again, and again, and again.

May we truly embody this type of sweetness. This is a ripe and open time to make that commitment.

Onyi Love shares a message on the transformative power and reflective symbolism of honey.

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What lessons, opportunities, and blessings are you being given—through the experience of dis-ease, accidents, illness—that you otherwise wouldn’t?

I recently took a moment to rest, slow down, and do as close to nothing—i.e., getting “work” done, being “productive,” meeting and responding to requests or demands on my time. Did I take this action because I had considered how much work I’d been doing for a few months straight and determined that it would be a good time to take a break? Nope. I did it because I had to: Rona V got me. Yup, after over 3 years of staving it off, apparently it was my time. And if I was to give myself a chance to prevent it from wreaking any (or perhaps more) havoc on my body, I needed to listen.

It’s funny, I thought I would have been more devastated when I saw those two dreaded lines on the test strip. While the anxiety of having a “positive” result had somewhat diminished over time—I’ve been getting tested or testing myself on a regular basis since the pandemic was announced—the idea of having COVID still brought up so much. How could it not, given everything we’ve been through as a global family since 2020?

But I looked at the positive result and simply thought, “Ok, here it is.” My own mind is still somewhat surprised by this neutrality, given everything I had going on that would possibly need to be tossed out the window, some of it having a price tag attached—i.e., work opportunities, travel plans, etc. I am really grateful for the serenity that some would judge as insanity. I even see it as a testing of myself around my ability to actually continue living what I often talk about: (1) honoring that the “good” and “bad” come together; (2) using everything, no matter how negative, for a positive benefit; (3) remembering that life happens through me, and not to me; and (4) knowing that nothing can happen without the sanction of my own head/higher self. I thank life every day for Ifa, Bashar, and all other philosophies, beings, and things that I continue to learn from to maintain a trust that I don’t often understand on a conscious and conditioned level.

For many of us, some of the most negative experiences we can move through revolve around our health. Our decision—and thus ability—to completely collapse into despair when we receive news around this delicate area of our lives that we judge as devastating is often immediate. Many people stay in the despair—their own and/or that which is projected onto them by others who react to their situations. Then, for many beyond that, it’s usually only after having beat, won the battle against, f*cked, or any other euphemism we have created to express having overcome or mitigated a condition, that we can look back more neutrally or even positively at what moving through the experience showed us.

I decided to do differently.

I decided to be present with this experience.

I decided, in real time, to ask what I was teaching myself by attracting what I didn’t prefer to myself at this particular moment in my life.

I had a conversation with myself…COVID…myself companioned by COVID.

I made a decision that my relationship with this virus wouldn’t be a sorrow-filled one that kept me in a perpetual state of victimhood at the mercy of emotions I didn’t prefer and that I would potentially allow to do more damage than the virus itself.

I decided that I wouldn’t wait until I could call upon or chalk it up to hindsight to show me what I could be seeing in the now—which would open up the vision of my future self to perceive other things more deeply and purely.

I don’t even know that I thought much about it (though I definitely thought about other things after it). It happened within seconds, if not instantly, which was the same amount of time it took for that determining red strip to appear. But I’ve come to realize that the rapidity with which I dropped into a greater state of peace around it all was due to my ongoing practice of making the aforementioned decisions for the last few years—in general with all situations in my life, but also specifically and with a targeted focus on COVID. After all, my belief from close to the beginning is that this virus has and will continue to illuminate the weakest/most vulnerable parts of us—individually and collectively, spiritually and materially, across whatever systems are necessary—until we get it and create a pathway to truly heal it.

While I had my share of fears early on, I also questioned and stood in the position of neutral witness as the tsunami of negativity—coming from all sides—around COVID, the vaccines, and all things related was moving through the collective(s). The vitriol, judgment, ridicule and ridiculousness, ideas of conspiracy, lack of transparency, a great deal of unknown, and much more was A LOT. All of that on top of what the virus itself was doing…sheesh!

“Something is funny about all of this,” I said to my Baba during a personal divination weeks before the pandemic and then quarantine were officially announced.
“Mmm…I don’t align with that belief…” I said to a friend who shared some startling ideas about the negative effects of the vaccine on people’s souls.
“I can see that your wheels are spinning,” this person said as I sat there and processed the existential implication of what they had said to me…something that led to my own decision to become vaccinated after holding out initially. Call it my own informal wait-and-see policy as the new vaccines were being announced and distributed.

3+ years, a vaccine, a booster, suspicions about the effects of the aforementioned, a virus, and a healing of the virus later, I sit in a place called: what have I learned (and am I still learning), and what opportunities have I been given that I otherwise would not have because of all of it?

I will end with that question, as this post took a turn I didn’t quite expect. I suspect there will be another, if not multiple follow-ups to this—either in sequence and with a clearly stated direct relationship to it, or in no particular order and even integrated into the topics of other seemingly unrelated posts.

But really it’s all one thing. It always boils down to and points in one direction: our illumination, growth, and expansion.

I encourage you to point the flashlight inward by asking yourself the bolded question above while considering anything (I literally mean ANYTHING) you have gone through or are still navigating. The more terrible it feels or has been judged to be, the more you can use it as an opportunity to catapult yourself beyond. Ask yourself as many times as you need to. Make a ritual out of it. Speak directly to that circumstance or situation if doing so is a stronger permission slip. Literally imagine that experience as an entity/person outside of you that paid you a visit in the past or is still by your side. See if you can employ the alchemical skills all of us have been gifted to really identify and take advantage of the positive result being served to you by said experience, no matter how far on the opposite side of the spectrum you or anyone else make it out to be. Make it your friend and watch it transform, disappear, or show you something that blows open your level of awareness and recognition of your power.

Life is quite the magician, trickster, and fool. And we all decided to get on its board by choosing to be here. Let the play(ing) continue. We’re all winners should we choose to see it that way.

PS: I created the below resource in 2021 after realizing I could offer perspectives outside of the norm around the COVID vaccine and more. Note that this is not an endorsement for or against the vaccine, rather some perhaps nuanced ways of thinking to help people shift energy. I always find it interesting that to have a condition or illness is to be “positive,” yet we stay stuck in energies that are far different than that when faced with it. Take a read or send it to someone who needs a different outlook. If you or they are dealing with health concerns unrelated to COVID or the vaccine, take a look anyway. You may find a line or two that opens the doors and takes you down an interesting journey that ends in you experiencing more peace, ease, and even understanding around what has showed up or has been a consistent element within your life.

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Ẹ kú ọjọ́ ìbí ooo! (to me!)

Today, April 27, 2023, is my 41st birthday. Depending on how one sees it, I either ended my almost 41st revolution around the Sun (if we count my beingness at conception) or am beginning my next trip. Either way (and really, it’s both), it is a crossroad—a time, space, and place where multiple dimensions of me and those material and ethereal beings that I’m connected to collide.

It’s all a permission slip.

Our physical material incarnate lives are opportunities for our spirit/soul/oversoul to play [out] and move [through] whatever there is for us as the fragment of The All That Is to do so, in order for it to know itself more fully.

At 41 (4 + 1 = 5… more on that further below)…

I see me

I love me

I be me

I support me.

I release(d) heaviness in order to be light.

I release(d) a focus on the darkness and now sit in the center where I neutrally see the spectrum of vibration.

I release(d) ideas of scarcity and lack, and am basking in the abundance within and outside of me… in all of its forms.

I release(d) bitterness, anger, and sadness in order to more fully see, be in, and bring sweetness and happiness—no, joy… a state that reaches deeper and further.

I release(d) beliefs of diminished or non-existent worth to more fully ground in the knowing that to even question this about myself is a slap in the face to Existence. I’m here, period.

I release(d) the behavior of collapsing into and being immobilized by fear and instead drop into an ocean of courage to face what comes head on.

I release(d) guilt and shame, which allow me to sit in compassion and grace, knowing that I do my best—and even when not, I can learn from all choices I make in any direction.

I release(d) stagnation and rigidity in order to swim in flow and flexibility… all currents lead back to the path of me.

I release(d) struggle, strife, and contention to allow myself to rest in more all-encompassing ease, peace, and harmony.

I release(d) disconnection and discombobulation, which gives me the ability to walk in this world as a whole, healed, and integrated being.

I release(d) that which I have allowed to obstruct my voice so that I may sing the song of my soul more fully and clearly.

I release(d) all that is not me so that all that is left is who I truly am.

I am grateful for all that Olodumare did for me yesterday, is doing for me today, and will do for me tomorrow should I be blessed with the opportunity to be here.

And either way, my spirit is eternally here.

Àṣẹ.

And more…

…5 Got Itself on Me…

This year is my 5 year. I’m choosing to see it as a powerful Ọ̀ṣun year for me. 2023 made it known early on that it’s my Year of the [Re]Emerging Artist.

It all makes sense for me:
⭐️ 5 is the number Ọ̀ṣun manifests in...

⭐️ I turn 41 this month (on a day that happens to fall on one of the days we honor Ọ̀ṣun in the Ìfá calendar)...

⭐️ This year is the 5th anniversary of the ending of my job in “Corporate America.”

Ọ̀ṣun is one of the ọ̀rìṣà that deals with the arts... I mean, really, she IS the arts... creative energy... that which is cultivated in and birthed from our womb-space, sacral chakra—literally, symbolically… on all levels.
I have shed so much of what never served the creative artist of me and have made peace with and shifted into gratitude about what I did need to experience and work through to provide support for them (even if it didn’t seem related). My ori is such a planner and strategist, y’all—more Ọ̀ṣun traits 😏

Over the last several years, and since my initiation in particular, I have grounded into a deeper awareness of who Ọ̀ṣun truly is beyond limited interpretations, odd depictions, and straight-up misunderstandings and misrepresentation.

As a result/simultaneously, I am sitting in/recognizing the deliciousness of who I am beyond the fraction that others see, consider, or understand.

Going from having “issues” with Ọ̀ṣun/not remembering who I was to being where I am now is such a sweet transformation! (If you haven’t already, read my blog post about this.) I look forward to the fruits of much labor—my own and others who support(ed) me.

Ọ̀ṣun brings me joy… is enough as my joy… feels joy with and through me…

She reminds me that [my] life is a work of art.

She got me. I got me. Life got me. I wouldn’t be here otherwise.

_______________

PS…

Ẹ ku ọjọ ìbí (E ku ojo ibi) = the Yorùbá expression for "Happy Birthday."

• Ẹ ku = said to express happiness/celebration about an activity, a specific time frame (i.e., day, month, year, holiday)

• ọjọ = day

• ìbí = birth

Olodumare = roughly translates to “God” in Yorùbá.

"5 Got Itself on Me" section was originally posted on our Instagram page (@onyi.love) on April 18, 2023, and synchronistically paired with this blog post on April 27 (18 = 9, 27 = 9… 9 is the number of transformation, the ending of cycles, among other things).

Read more about Onyi’s journey with Ọ̀ṣun (Osun / Oshun / Oxum) in the blog post Blooming Into [the Ọ̀ṣun of] Me

Image credits: Acid Smile Studios (1 & 3/Top & Bottom); Matty Polizzi (2 / center)

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• • • • • Part 1 • • • • •

Seeded sometime between 2013 - 2015 • Tended to & cultivated over time • Blooming always

Ọ̀ṣun….Oshun...Ochun...Oxum

Ore yeye ooo

In the distant, but not so far past, I struggled with Ọ̀ṣun.

The oversimplification, plus hyper-sexualization, multiplied by racism, divided by superficiality, equaled a bitter taste on my already parched lips.

I couldn’t relate. I didn’t want to.

But my Ori…my Eegun…Ọ̀ṣun…everything around me… had a different plan for me.

And sitting across from one daughter of Ọ̀ṣun, who laughed while saying, “She took your hair because you haven’t acknowledged her,” and another who shattered every misconception I stubbornly held on to, I had to stop. I needed to listen.

I needed to allow myself to let go of the self... the persona... the ego... and be swept up by the life-giving flood of awareness …no… remembrance of Ọ̀ṣun:

Mother, life-giver, creative energy.

Olódumàrè favorite: exclude her and watch the world crumble.

Ethics and communication, the joy of learning and education.

Sweet as honey on one hand, she will killing you in an instant on the other.

River flowing, raging, eroding,

Gleaming brass, shimmering gold,

You’re beautiful and worthy because you exist, period.

Step into your brilliance—travel through all of your intelligences.

Hear, touch, smell, see,

Feel and know all of Life’s richness.

Scavenger, cleaner, expunging what is out of alignment

Fierce mother, defender of THE Mothers—put some respect on their name she warns:

Iyami, and no other.

Achiever of the impossible, fluent in the language of miracles.

No stranger to sacrifice;

Builder of empires out of thin air and dreams;

And so…so much more than my human brain can even begin to comprehend.

She teaches me to speak my truth, when every part of me wants to hide.

She shows me that I can extract sweetness from even the most painful of memories and situations.

She encourages me to love the reflection I see and continue to work on the inner me. And to see the beauty in the world, when all I want to do at times is give up on it.

And she just loves me. And sees me. She always has.

Even when I refused to see her. Hell, I couldn’t see myself.

Today, I run, skip, swim, dance to her.

I seek and see her in everything I do and everywhere I go.

Today I sing to, dance with, and play my bell for her.

And always will.

Ore yeye ooo

Ore yeye ooo

Ore yeye ooo

Moments with Ọ̀ṣun across a spectrum of experience. (1) At the gate of the Ọ̀ṣun-Oṣogbo Sacred Grove in Oṣogbo, Ọ̀ṣun State, Nigeria, 2019; (2) In a cenote in Tulum, Quintana Roo, Mexico (2018). Image by Jan Schoof; (3) Playing Oxum in “Zumbi” with Brasil Brasil Cultural Center, 2011; (4) Playing Luanda/Oxum in “Zumbi” with Brasil Brasil Cultural Center, image by William R. Greenblatt, 2013; (5) At the LA River, 2020.

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• • • • • Part 2 • • • • •

Seeded sometime in March 2023 • Tended to & cultivated through and beyond Spring Equinox • Blooming always

It hit me in such a powerful way today:

Ọ̀ṣun is brilliant, in every sense of the word—

Of how we do and don’t use the word.

She shines, inspires, is always inspired:

She is inspiration that is never tired

Another may bring illumination, but she IS luminance.

Intelligence sees the reflection of her face as it stares and states, shares and takes

All ways of sensing and perceiving, embodying and being.

Ọ̀ṣun is constantly singing Life’s praises as

She makes love to its infinite phrases.

Weaving in and out, seducing with and

Without even lifting anything more than the weight of your self-doubt.

She walks with integrity and makes any sacrifices

Including the very beauty you say entices

What’s the point of it all when there’s no thing called “Life” to even experience?

When we conflate and confuse ideas and concepts,

Intertwine definitions, descriptions and purposeful deception,

We collapse into a state of oversimplification that perpetuates our comfort, complacency, and boredom.

Ọ̀ṣun is so deep y’all.

And perhaps the knee jerk reaction to that which we cannot fathom is to reduce it to what we think we can more easily digest.

I have compassion for but refuse to enable the idea called “you can’t handle the truth.”

Because the truth is Ọ̀ṣun didn’t come here to play or be played like that.

And when you give her the respect and reverence she is [over]due, she will help you be who you came here to be with joy and sweetness through every step, no matter how challenging.

Try it and see.

Try her and be aware:

The absence of her presence is punishment you bring upon yourself.

So, act and choose wisely.

Some of my favorite illustrated depictions of Ọ̀ṣun/Oshun/Ochun/Oxum by (from left to right) : (1) Artist unknown/ to be determined (2) Ayodê França (3) Benzadeus

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• • • • • Part 3 • • • • •

Composed by distant Ancestors with joy in unquestioned freedom; maintained by Descendents through joy as resistance to infringed upon existence; sung freely by me with joy

• • • • • Part 4 • • • • •

Seeded 3 • 20 • 2023: (1) Spring Equinox

And (2) the 5th day of second phase of my 90 day Changing Core Beliefs Ritual*

Tended to & cultivated through 3 • 22 • 2023

________________________

3 + 2 + 2 + 2 + 2 + 3 = 14

1 + 4 = 5

This year I enter or exit—either/or, both/and, depending on perspective—my 41st solar cycle through Life as this personality construct knows it

5 = 4 + 1

5 is the number to which Ọ̀ṣun/Oshun/Ochun/Oxum vibrates

I am completely, joyfully, peacefully, neutrally, creatively, and gratefully in en-amor(ed) with myself and Life. This love includes all of you. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to reflect and be a reflection of all that I am which completes the All That Is.

I continue cultivating myself.

I am always blooming.

Àṣẹ

• • • • • Part 5 • • • • •

Personal Ritual for Self Love & Appreciation

To help you re-member {the Ọ̀ṣun of} You

__________

• STEP 1 •

First thing in the morning when you wake up, touch your head (ori). Hold both of your hands gently yet firmly on your head—whether it be the sides, the front and back, or the top. Thank your [higher]self for waking up. Express gratitude to it for choosing to be in this life to experience everything that you need in order to be more of who you are. Go to the mirror and take a really good look at yourself. Admire everything about you... your features... your uniqueness. Tell yourself (out loud) how much you love yourself; how beautiful you are; that you are worthy not because of anything you’ve done or how others see you, but simply because you exist.

• STEP 2 •

Before you eat or drink anything else, pour yourself a glass of water (omi). Hold the glass and think about all the things water does for you... everything that water does for our planet. Pray/speak into the water. Thank it. Ask it to do what you need it to do inside you. It already knows what it came here to do, and your words and intent reinforce this… they add power. Drink the water and feel its coolness flowing down your throat into your stomach. Stand/sit still for a moment and experience it flushing into and throughout your system.

• STEP 3 •

Treat yourself to a wonderful meal—whether you prepare it yourself or go to a favorite restaurant (or new one you've been wanting to try). If this meal can be prepared or shared with loved ones, wonderful! Make a plate, take a portion, or even order something to-go for your Ancestors (Eegun). Place the food on your Ancestral altar if you have one. If not, anywhere in your house you feel comfortable leaving the food (for up to 3 days) will be fine.

• STEP 4 •

Reach out to one person (or multiple people) in your life and really check in. Ask how they are doing. Be slow to speak. Mostly listen and hold space. Tell her/him/them you love and appreciate him/her/them. And do it through a phone or video call. Avoid text if possible, unless it is literally the only option available to you. Voice messages are lovely alternatives as well.

• STEP 5 •

Decide on a time that you will go to bed (it doesn’t matter when as long as it is in alignment with your natural rhythm), and prepare for that at least 1 hour before. Turn off all electronic devices or anything else that will be a distraction/overstimulation. Take a bath/shower and imagine you are washing away everything that no longer serves you that you have collected or attached to throughout the day. If you write/journey, take a moment to write down anything that stood out to you about your day. Once you finish, lay down and remind yourself of your joy and peace. While lying in bed, place your hands on your heart and speak (out loud) words of gratitude to yourself, your Ancestors, Guides, Angels, whomever... for the day that you had, everyone you encountered, and everything you learned. Take a few deep breaths and allow yourself to drift away.

• Rest & Be Well •

• Do this ritual for 1 day, and you will feel sweet and renewed.

• Do this ritual for 5-9 days in a row, and you will experience profound change.

• Do this ritual for 10 or more days (consider multiples of 5 or 9—or even both), and you will become a completely new person, filled with love, vitality, peace, joy, and power. You will be amazed at what you create.

As always, honor yourself first and foremost, and do what you can when you can. Feel free to leave what doesn't resonate with you, or replace with that which excites you. That too is how you re-member you.

We love you.

• O •

PS…

Ọ̀ṣun is an Oriṣa—deity within the indigenous system (Ìfá) of the Yorùbá people of West Africa. The letter Ṣ has a “sh” sound; the letter Ọ (which is different than the letter O) sounds more like the cross between “Oh” and “Awe”; and the accents give different tones to create beautiful music. Ọ̀ṣun (also spelled Oshun, Ochun, Oxum throughout parts of the diaspora where she is venerated) is too vast for me to capture in a few words in this section, or even in the more than a few words above it. She requires and deserves books, upon volumes, upon libraries—and even that can’t contain her immensity.

So instead of attempting to add more description here and now, I will encourage you to [re]read all of the above and pay attention to what is inspired within and without. [Re]listen to the audio. These are just some of my own reflections written at [one] time[s], adjusted over time[s], in whatever timing there has been to hold me. My relationship with Ọ̀ṣun continues to flow, fortify, and free itself from whatever is irrelevant and untrue. Layers peel away…more and more is revealed through my priestesshood and my life overall; though really, I see no difference between the two.

The order of the parts holds only the significance you ascribe. So play with all of it and see what blooms. Take your time. The only destination is yourself.

*Changing Core Beliefs is a set of practices and transmission gifted by Bashar who is channeled by Darryl Anka.

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I acknowledge and honor my humanness expressed

Through this particular body, sanctioned by [my] Spirit.

Pre-incarnation, it chose what may appear as a limit;

But in every present moment, it works with Life’s colors,

As it carves paths for future versions of me and others

Called, Remember, and be who you are…

I acknowledge and honor my humanness expressed

Through the choices I make, whether they be seen

As positive, negative, or the shades of neutral in between;

Deemed right, wrong, or questionable;

Petty, basic, or higher vibrational.

Why do we see ourselves as “only human” when we fuck up?

I acknowledge and honor my humanness expressed

Through the experiences of every personal or collective ancestor;

By moving in any of the directions, infinitely more than four

As I shapeshift to learn from elemental freedom;

Seeing my reflections within all kingdoms—

Animal, plant, mineral… oh, how you mirror such vulnerability and trust.

I acknowledge and honor my humanness expressed

Through what tests once reported as 99.9% African—

Always known to me as Yorùbá, Igbo, or simply (yet not simply) “Nigerian”;

Through my indigenous and nature-like ways of being

Alongside ways not of nature, according to limited seeing.

But doesn’t it all belong to and come from Earth anyway?

I acknowledge and honor my humanness expressed

Through all the ways my big beautiful hands create;

In all the movements I allow my hips to make.

I birth works and worlds of infinite wonder.

I see so much beyond what on the surface people offer.

Oh, you think this is deep? You’ve barely scratched the air above my surface.

I acknowledge and honor my humanness expressed

Through the vast and unknown depth of emotions I feel.

For much of my life, I intellectualized as my way to deal.

The work/play/practice I now get to move through

Is a beautiful balance and aligned spiral between the two.

I am grateful to my Ori, Ìfá, Ọṣun, and Ọbatala for transforming my DNA.

I acknowledge and honor my humanness expressed

Through knowing there is more reverence I can pay.

So much more is unknown for me to say.

I’ll leave this for now, let’s say to be continued.

In writing only this now, my devotion has been renewed:

I resign from dimming my immensity to soothe your anxiety.

I acknowledge and honor my humanness, expressed

Through all of the bodies that encompass its embodiment:

…Energetic…

…Intellectual…

…Emotional…

…Physical…

I am an infinite being choosing to navigate a finite experience on this version of Earth at this particular time through a body currently labeled “Black” and “Woman” (amongst other things). Given the mess people so willingly engage in due to being triggered by the darkness and femaleness within and without, this is one crazy-ass choice! Like literally, when destinies, life paths, and lessons were being passed out in the spirit realm pre-incarnation, was mine like “Oooh, sign me up for that one right there! That sounds fun”? And it wasn’t just me because A LOT of us have decided to be here!

My goodness!

That is either extreme and mass foolishness or fearlessness.

In considering it all, I really believe it does take a huge amount of courage to wade through the levels of insanity we have collectively created that all boil down to ideas such as: I am not worthy. I don’t get to be here as I am. I am disconnected from [the] All That Is.

In maintaining these beliefs through our unwillingness to face, alchemize, and integrate them, we create and collapse into our suffering, and extend it outwardly in ways that harm everything within and around us.

No one group of people is immune from this behavior. So really, ALL of our spirits are exercising a master level of bravery in being here and working through it ALL.

We ALL are in ALL of this together.

Our humanness—beyond, within, birthed from the mystery of the unknown—is a gift.

May we see our reflections in each other and in this divine abyss.

From the rich and fertile darkness we ALL come; to the same we ALL return.

On this poem and reflection:

A friend sent me a link for a magazine’s Open Call. They were accepting entries for their next publication, which had a focus on Black embodiment. In addition to some things coming up for me about writing in general, I was experiencing a block around the topic. What kept coming was writing about humanness—and I kept judging it as not [Black] enough because it didn’t center that specifically defined being-ness. Oh, the insanity caused within all of us in having made a thing out of a made-up thing.

At some point throughout my mulling and writing, the deadline passed, and there was no opportunity to submit a piece after the fact—I asked. I decided to continue crafting it anyway, riding the high of encouragement from an existing writer friend and new writer acquaintances (whom I had told about the article before the deadline). I was also needing to heed the knocks from [my] Spirit, which had been prompting me to start writing more.

Would this article have been accepted by the magazine? I don’t know. But I accept it for and about me as a reflection of my voice and my directive: to drop insistence on/focus on/mention of “race” (as we currently know and use it) unless there is a specific need (i.e., I am truly excited or being neutrally guided to do so). My work is to operate in a particular way within this made-up construct as part of a multi-prong approach (by all of us leading collective healing) for transforming it.

We each have specific work to do and will get a lot more done if we stick to that which is truly ours.

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Ok, maybe that’s a stretch…

I’ve never had formal instruction in this martial art, nor have I really experimented with it. I’m well aware that my technique is questionable at best, so don’t come for me—unless you're about to come with some lessons you’ll gift me out of the kindness of your heart (yes please, and thank you).

What is absolutely solid and abundant is my curiosity, creativity, and determination (props to Ọṣun (Osun), my Taurus sun, Gemini moon, and all other things)!

What is clear is how much engaging my inner child through companioning and playing with children is revitalizing and healing to past, present, and future versions of me.

While in Nigeria this past November through December, I became close with Fakayọde—the now 9-year-old son of my Babalawo’s Babalawo, who we refer to as Oluwo, which in Yorùbá means a wise person or teacher. Fakayọde showed me some boxing gloves and pads he had received as gifts from my Baba. I asked him if he had been practicing, and the response he gave indicated that he had occasionally been doing so. After observing him and considering these tools, something was activated within me, and I decided that I would help and encourage him in improving his skills while I was there.

Yup… I/the child in me came up with the brilliant idea of making him a punching bag.

Had I ever made one before? Nooo.

Did I let that stop me from doing so? Absolutely not!

Oh, I was on a mission (once again, props to the bull in me). I told Fakayọde to get some of his old clothes. He brought me a handful of items that didn’t seem so discarded to me.

“Mmmm… are you sure these are old clothes?” I asked, wanting to spare him (and avoid for me) the wrath of his mother.

“Yes, they are,” he assured me matter-of-factly. He was so convincing, and to this day (more than a couple of months later), I still don’t know if they were ok to use. But “Ok,” I thought. And we proceeded.

I told him we needed to find some sort of bag. After the words left my mouth, I immediately spotted an empty rice/grain sack not too far from where we were standing. Check! We filled the sack with the “old” clothes.

Our bag needed a bit of weight since we didn’t have a lot of the possibly contraband clothing, so I decided to incorporate some rocks from the yard. We grabbed a few pieces and strategically placed them so that they were surrounded by cloth—I didn’t need my friend hurting himself by hitting rocks in case he decided to practice without gloves, which was very likely and, in fact, did happen. Again, I wasn’t gonna play with his mama’s rage.

The next order of business was to suspend the bag; for that, we needed rope, which I told him to go find. What he came back with was a little thin for my liking, but it was all we had. Then the idea to braid the strands came to mind—enter braider-of-sisters-hair-as-a-teen skills. I tasked him with holding one end of the strands I had grouped together while I spent the next several minutes braiding. Let me tell you… it took way longer than I thought it would, and I wouldn’t consider myself a slow braider. I really give myself a lot of props for this part: my patience plus the ability to not be swayed by his occasional complaints of boredom got us to the finish line, and voila! We now had a thicker rope with which to tie and suspend our bag.

Our final task was to find a suitable (and parent-approved) place to hang our creation. Fakayọde’s first suggestion was the satellite dish railing along the side of the house. While this location was technically sturdy enough for a limited time frame, the thought of its temporariness made me a little nervous. It was also a bit too close to the wall. Again, I didn’t need our great invention to break his hand or a part of the house.

We looked around the compound to see what other opportunities presented themselves. A tree? A pillar? Some other free-standing object that was tall enough? My attention rested on the clothes lines that were held up by some metal poles. After considering them for a moment, I suggested the idea to Fakayọde and we checked the sturdiness of the poles. They were good! And unlike the satellite dish option, this location allowed for the punching bag to be suspended away from any other conventionally harmful obstructions. This idea was our best option, and we went for it. We hung our finished product and made adjustments to ensure it was within good reach for him.

It was perfect! Fakayọde was delighted and determined as he tested out his new toy.

“Now you try,” he encouraged after he moved through his initiatory series of punches while I filmed on my iPhone.

“Uh…” I began, taken aback a bit. Somehow, throughout the process, I didn’t even consider that this punching bag was as much for me as it was for Fakayọde. His joy came from not just engaging in play with what we had created together, but also from witnessing me do so as well. He was well aware—in his 9-year wise self—that the creative and playful energy didn’t end with him. In fact, it was only natural that I enjoy the fruits of my labor given not only my participation in it, but also my role as the initiator of it. This experience was cultivated through a joint effort that we could both celebrate through our enjoyment.

And so I did try.

And I had a great time.

I even got over the perfectionist part of me that cared about how I looked enough to let him film me (only fair, given I filmed him) and to share the footage! (Click here to view my post on Instagram.)

Everything and anything can be utilized as an opportunity to heal… to remember ourselves… to recognize or get back to a place of wholeness.

During my recent appearance on The G Podcast, “Reconnect with Your Inner Child” was one of the tips I gave for navigating 2023. (Click here to listen to Episode 159: The G in 2023.) I believe this practice and play are absolutely crucial in alchemizing and releasing so much of our individual and collective conditioning and trauma. Try it—whether it is you returning to activities you enjoyed as a child, experimenting with things you didn’t have/weren’t given the opportunity to in your youth, or working/playing with children in some capacity.

Our inner children have never left. They may have gone into hiding for various reasons. The adult versions of us get to show them that it’s safe to come out and play by being a reflection of that very fact.

We are them, they are us. There is no separation.

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Hello, my names are Onyi aka Oluwafunke aka Ọṣuntayo aka Ọbatolu, amongst others that don’t begin with O now and in the future.

Welcome to my blog, O’s Corner.

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PS… The “ayọ” in Fakayọde means “joy” in Yorùbá. It is the same “ayọ” within my name Ọṣuntayọ, which is the Ọṣun name that was given to me during my Ọṣun and Ọbatala initiation in Nigeria a few years before. During my Ìfá divination just prior to last year’s trip, Ayọ was the main message that came through: Spirit was reminding me to ground in joy, and to do so in a new way than I had done before. While the fuller translations of our names reference different energies supporting us in joy, my and Fakayọde’s paths crossed the way they did to create intersections that crystallized this vital energy in ways I will forever hold in my heart.

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